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tell me why i have to wear trousers, long sleeves AND a gown in 30 degree heat in my own house ?? my dad is shirtless and my brother is in shorts and a vest top. me and my mom though? can’t even wear a t shirt

i can’t even wear shorts around my own parents. my mom doesn’t even like me wearing them IN MY OWN DAMN ROOM in case my dad walks in. uh hello teach him how to knock ?? it’s so fucking hot and i’m dreading the next few months of summer

i’m so glad i don’t wear hijab anymore because that is 10 times worse, but goddamn i hate having to cover up in the blazing heat. i hate summer and i hate islam

For a bit of context, I am an ex muslim Arab woman living in Europe. I've been atheist for nearly a decade now. I obviously don't wear a hijab and in general dress much like everyone else.

I've noticed that a lot of the people who know me and know I'm atheist still treat me like a Muslim. For example, a coworker of mine gifted everyone a bottle of wine but not me cause "you're Muslim" even tho I told them I am not, another coworker said it is weird how "you guys don't eat pork" and when I told him I do he looked shocked. I have had countless people ask me why I don't dress conservative, I say I am not Muslim anymore, they just go "That feels Haram" and they -mostly- weren't edgy about it either.

I have tons more interactions like these but they were rather negative so I won't write them down here so the post doesn't get taken down.

To all the Muslims who live in western countries here or have western friends, do you feel like this is true? Or is it just specifically for Arabs (because we're associated with Islam)?

Hi everyone! I’d just like to share a small achievement that I’m proud of, which may seem like nothing to some people. I went to a theme park with my friends and tried my first haram meal: chicken tenders. They weren’t that great, but it’s a start. The whole time though, I felt proud yet guilty and shameful. I also kept looking around the room as if someone might catch me eating something I shouldn’t be eating. A part of me just feels like I shouldn’t be eating this, and that I’m listening to shaytan, even though I don’t believe in it. Does anyone have advice on how to deal with the self-conscious and shameful feeling?

Although the feeling isn’t good, I’m glad I built up some courage to try haram food after so long so I can combat these feelings. That’s honestly my primary motive for starting to gradually incorporate haram foods in my life when I go out. My other reason is that I’m looking forward to try foods from different cultures. I love learning about different cultures, life styles and perspectives.

I’d appreciate any advice? If you are having a similar experience as me, what was your first haram food? How did you deal with guilt?

I found a video on Instagram of a girl saying she feels comfortable that south koreans don't wear bikinis in the beach (along those lines).

Many muslims in the comments were saying "if it was muslims, people would have said they are oppressed"

1. Koreans don't like bikinis because they are obsessed with protecting their skin from UV, it is not about chastity. Look what they would wear indoors or at night and then decide.

2. Everyone in that beach was free to wear whatever they want without being harmed or persecuted unlike in a muslim society where it is either illegal or an invitation to being sexually harassed or assaulted. A woman there can wear a bikini and probably wouldn't face any problem unlike in a muslim society.

3. Hair was not covered in that beach so even if we were to compare, whatever is happening on that beach is still prohibited islamically. Hell, women aren’t allowed to go out of their houses unless necessary like going out to take a shit (arabs used to shit outside in an empty place away from houses).

So, no, a muslim society wouldn't even allow women to go to the beach and if they do, they would make them wear all back from head to toe. And I honestly cannot give a shit for the progressives who like to make new islamic rules to sugarcoat the religion.

I hope muslims stop these stupid "if it was muslims" scenarios because they are wrong at their core and filled with logical inconsistencies.

If anyone would like to add something or correct me, please do.