u/UselessSlytherin

I’m changing my major from chemical engineering to mechanical engineering and I plan to take my classes online for at least just this upcoming academic year (fall 2026-spring 2027). After this year I’ll be going to which ever school I choose in-person.

My options have as of now gone down to UND, UA, and Oregon State. I used to go to RIT and this will be my 3rd year of school so my physics, chemistry, and math are all covered. My physics credits might not transfer over properly to OSU since they do physics I, II, and III and RIT only does I and II. However all of my credits transfer over for UND and UA.

I’m looking for some insight into the online and in-person programs at these schools from anyone who was a student at these schools. Things like pros and cons, comparing and contrasting, things that one school might do better/be better at than the other 2, etc.

For reference I live in Texas so I’m pretty far from all 3 of these schools.

I ordered something online in April to be delivered to campus but the shipping got really delayed and apparently it arrived May 22 which was way after I left for the summer. I never got an email from the post office or from the company I ordered from that the delivery had been completed. I updated my forwarding address (it’s not an international address) on myLife and I’ve yet to receive anything at this address. The email I got when I checked out at the end of the semester said that RIT forwards mail for up to 6 months. Has anyone had any experience with things arriving after you left campus for the summer? I want to know if it’s possible my item is still at the DSP post office and I can call them to get them to ship it to me or if they sent it back and it’s gone forever and I just deal with my wasted $74.

The package came from China btw so I’m not 100% sure they’d’ve sent it back. I’m also aware that the DSP Post Office is under construction for the summer but I’m unsure if May 22 was before or after the post office closed and idk if that would affect anything. I know there’s fees for forwarding with some carriers but idk which carrier was used. Does anyone know how much they usually charge for forwarding or does that depend on the carrier the package was shipped with?

I just applied as a transfer student for this fall and I'm trying to look for clubs to join if I get accepted. I played in high school and at my former university so I'd love to join if UND still has an active club. The only social media for the club I can find is Facebook but the last post was in 2021. The page was apparently last updated in 2023 but that still isn't very recent. If anyone knows anything please lmk.

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I'm already an RIT student I'm just thinking of changing my major from chemE because I only really chose it because of my parents, and I've tried to stick it out, but I don't really like it all. I'm taking a LOA for the year to re-evaluate if I still want to do chemE or just switch to something else entirely. I'm thinking of some other majors, but most of them are business related (I'm leaning towards marketing right now). I know there are better business schools out there, but I don't mind staying at RIT if possible.

I just finished my 2nd year of college and I’ve realized that I want to change my major. I was studying chemical engineering, however I realized that I really hated it. It wasn’t hard I just hated it. I don’t know if I switch to another STEM degree or switch to something else entirely.

I need some help brainstorming new career paths and the degrees that can take me to these career paths. So far through my research I’ve liked the sound of marketing which is more business related and depending on what career I go into with that degree the job prospects and pay look solid. My parents also told me to look into finance and accounting which don’t sound too bad

Part of the reason I don’t like chemE is because I thought engineering would involve a lot more hands-on building but most engineers aren’t even qualified to build what they design. I couldn’t bring myself to care about any of the work I was doing at all. It kinda sucks because chemE is a very high paying and versatile path, but it can’t be everyone I guess.

A family friend of mine does currently does content partnerships for Spotify and used to work as a creative strategy coordinator at HBO so I’ve asked her about what she does and about the degrees people usually get when they go into her field of work. She lives in NYC in a loft by herself so I figured she must be doing something right to have such a job and live the life she lives.

I want to major in something I don’t hate but is still practical. I’m just looking for some careers or degrees that are practical and make some good money that I may or may not have already heard of but just never thought about before. I’m taking a gap year because I don’t want to spend all that money and take classes I might not need in the future so I’d like to figure this out before I go to school.

I’d like a major that allows for all career that’s a little more creative. I do like data analytics and looking at human behavior if any of this helps.

This is kind of just a long rant because I am so frustrated with my parents in general right now. I also need advice but you don’t really have to read past the 2nd paragraph for what I need advice for. You can just read the first 2 paragraphs after this then skip to the bottom.

I just finished my sophomore year of college and it was the worst academic year of my life. I failed 2 classes and withdrew from 1 and one of the classes I failed was a pre-requisite that is only offered in the fall which put me back an entire year for graduation. I came back home this summer and when my parents saw I failed another class then hid my laptop from me so I can’t do anything productive at all. They want me to talk to talk to them about why I failed and withdrew from a class this semester and “apologize for my wicked behavior” but I know that they won’t understand because it wasn’t a physical issue it was more of a mental one. I’m not diagnosed with anything which makes it harder for me to really explain to them what went wrong this year and tbh I can’t fully explain it either because I have no idea why my mental state was so poor and why I was suffering from extreme executive dysfunction. I think there’s a chance that I have ADHD because my older brother has ADHD and I know that in a lot of cases siblings will have ADHD if at least one of them has it. I also know that ADHD in girls is very undiagnosed because it presents differently.

They’re talking about keeping me home because I’m “such a bad investment” when it comes to my education. My dad pays my tuition and I am very grateful for that because I won’t be in such massive debt when I finish school but it always annoys me how they hold this over my head but there is no real support if I struggle and then they get mad that I’m not asking them for help. If I were to ask my dad to help me in math or chemistry or something like that he is so insanely impatient that by the end I regret asking him for help at all. There’s no guidance in his “help,” just yelling, insults, and belittlement for not already knowing and understanding what he thinks I should know and understand. My dad is a petroleum engineer so he feels like everything I ask for help with I should already know/not need help with because he knows these things already and remembers them from when he first learned them decades ago.

And again as grateful as I am that I am not paying my own tuition I hate that it’s something being held over my head. They say “other kids had to work in high school and take out their own loans to pay for school” but that was never a choice they gave me or my brothers. When I asked them if I could get a job in high school they said no because I shouldn’t just focus on school and that working would be a distraction. I remember when my dad made my older brother get a job the summer before it was either his junior or senior year of high school and then my parents made him quit before the school year started because they didn’t want him to work. And I hate when they bring up about how expensive my tuition is because I wanted to apply to public in-state universities so that way tuition would be cheaper, but again it was “don’t worry about that because you’re not paying” but now that I’m going to a far away out-of-state private university you want to complain about high tuition and travel costs? I just feel like considering they didn’t plan for any other possible way for college to be paid for and didn’t allow me to apply to public in-state schools they shouldn’t act like paying my tuition is some big favor and that I shouldn’t be grateful they let me go to the school I go to. I honestly never know how to explain this part to people because I feel like this specific issue makes me sound spoiled and ungrateful.nI feel like my parents view the entire parent-child relationship as something transactional. They do something for me, I do something for them. It’s not them doing things just because they love their children.

African parents are so hard to talk to about this stuff because they never understand. They believe that since you were raised in the U.S. or whatever western country they moved to that you have no struggles in life since they provided you with food, water, shelter, clothes, and an education. It’s why they always keep comparing us to their friend’s children who were born and raised in their home country. My parents always tell me “___ is from Nigeria and doing better than you!” as if me and this other child are living the exact same life. My mom’s cousin’s son goes to my school and he’s in my year but he’s a mechatronics engineering technology major and I am a chemical engineering major. My mom likes to talk about how he made the Dean’s List and why can’t I do that but I looked at his curriculum and a good amount of the classes he takes are just the easier version of what I take. For example I’m required to take University Physics I and II, he takes College Physics I and II, I have to take Calculus I and II, he takes Calculus A and B. If I was taking Calculus A and B as a chemE major at my school that would mean that I failed the math placement exam I had to take the summer before my freshman year. They compare me with this boy because we’re in the same year at the same school but they don’t acknowledge that we are taking completely different classes. I remember when I was a junior in high school and I took the SAT and got a 1230 the compared me to another one of their friend’s daughter from Nigeria who got a higher score than me. They asked “is she better than you?” and got mad when I said yes. What other possible outcome could you think would happen in this situation? Then they’ll start to say I have low self confidence or something as if they’re not the reason for that.

I also wouldn’t even say that I have low self confidence or anything at all. When I’m at school I’m very social and confident in myself. The real issue is that my parents don’t really know me at all they just think they do. To this day they still believe that I don’t even really have friends because when I was in high school I wasn’t going out with people all the time (as if they’d even let me because the few time I asked they always said no!) or inviting people over to the house (what would even do just sit there? My house was boring). If you were to ask my friends to describe me they’d say things like “she’s social, funny, great to hang out with, etc” but if you ask my parents I’m quiet, shy, keep to myself, and don’t have friends.

I hate that when we argue about anything it’s always what they say goes. I hate that when I try to defend myself in anyway I’m told to shut up or that what I’m saying is irrelevant. I hate those stupid rhetorical but also not rhetorical questions African parents ask when they’re yelling at you. They’ll ask a question and when you try to answer it’s shut up. But then they’ll ask another one and ask why you’re just staring at them and ask you to answer. Do you want me to speak or not? I’m not an X-man, I can’t read minds!

I think they way they’ve been treating me all year for failing just the one class plus they way they’ve treated me so far this summer ever since they saw the results of my spring semester is the straw that broke the camels back for real. The past few days made me realize that I can’t wait for the day I move out of the house. At my school it’s mandatory for me to do a co-op fall of my third year but I’m allowed to start in the summer and once I retake those classes I need to this upcoming school year, I’ll be able to do a 2027 summer/fall co-op which would mean not going home and I genuinely can’t wait. It would mean that from that point on I only have to see my parents during winter break since I’ll most likely be working all those summers and it’ll be easier for me to move out once I graduate because most of the co-ops lead to full time employment. I was talking to a friend the other day I told her that I used to not understand why people were so desperate to move out of their parents house as they got older but I understand it now.

I think that my parents and many other African parents just don’t understand that everyone has a different situation and different struggles in life. And I’m sick and tired of trying to get them to understand.

TLDR; I’m insanely frustrated with my Nigerian parents and can’t wait to be financially independent and move out of the house.

I have about 3ish hours until my dad comes back from work so if anyone has any idea of what I can say to them to make the conversation of why I failed my classes and why I should be allowed to go back to school in the fall easier that’d be great

I’m waitlisted to take STAT 205 with Nonhle Mdziniso in the fall, how is she? I took it with Reynolds in the spring and failed and I hated him as a professor so I’m not taking him again unless I have no other choice. Does she also require minitab to be used or is that just a thing for Reynolds?