u/Userlaughsalot

At what point does someone think they need genuine help for talking too much 😕 🙃 I recently heard a story of a woman claiming that their partner(male) is a very strong and known gossiper. When they began living together, he was talking with the neighbours causally. Later on, as the days went by, he started telling other people's secrets to the neighbours.

For example, a neighbour would confide in him, and later on, he would tell the other neighbours. It has gotten to a point that the other neighbours realised and started avoiding him. For instance, when he would leave for work early in the morning, when the other neighbours realised that it was him, they would refuse to get out of their houses until he left the completely.

It reached a breaking point when the woman found out that the mWan was discussing their intimate life with the mother. When the mother came to visit, she overheard their conversation and was quite shocked. When she confronted him, he said that there were no secrets between him and his mum and said that they had been talking about it way before over the phone. Even the people around the woman would ask her why she agreed to go long-term with the man knowing very well his character, and she claimed she never thought that it was that serious.

In the end, she asked how she should go about the whole situation, considering that they have two children already.

From those people who had a dark past and experienced a catastrophic event that made them change into a good person, what was it??? There's a guy l know. He used to be very evil. Now, him and his friends used to bully and mistreat this person, thinking they could get away with it.

Later, after several years, he developed a severe illness. He had sores on his body that would never heal and would produce a very pungent smell. He was rejected by everyone, even his very friends. He tried everything, hospital visits, medicine, every form of treatment available, and nothing worked.

He was rejected even by his own family. Since on their part, they tried everything, including visiting various witchdoctors to look for help. In the end, one of the witch doctors revealed to him about him and his friends and how they used to mistreat and torment people simply because they weren't on the same social class.

One of the people they mistreated felt very wronged and wanted to seek vengeance. So, they went to someone in tears and confided in them. Having mercy and moved by their tears, the person promised to do everything in their power and make them pay. The person promised that one day, he would come on their feet asking for forgiveness. Even after this was revealed, he never got any help, and he left.

The man lowered his pride and tried to reach the person. At this point, he was on the verge of death since his wounds were infected and began to rot. The other person was very hesitant to even want to speak to the guy. The guy decided to ask the friends to speak to the said person. Eventually, the other person agreed to see the guy. They arranged for a meet-up.

When the guy laid their eyes on this person, they instantly were filled with tears. Remember, this was the same person who would be known as the most nonchalant. From his high horse, he immediately knelt before this person and presented gifts as tokens of apology. The person said that they forgave them a long time ago and that they had completely forgotten about the matter.

Within no time, the guy completely healed. I tell you, as we are talking, the guy is the most disciplined person l know, and many ladies want him. He never looks at women with lust, always on time, does his work to perfection, and is hardworking. I tell you, sometimes it's not good to judge someone's present for what they will be in the future.

It's true what they say. People do look really different when your feelings for them fade 💯 I recently saw someone that l used to view as attractive, and now they don't look even half as attractive.

For me, nobody can convince me otherwise. So, my evil ex tried to manipulate everyone into making them believe that l was the evil one. He was spreading rumours that l was the one chasing him, and l wasn't his type in order to try and bring shame to my name. Later, he was caught red-handed, having anal sex with another boy. Sometimes, it's good to fold your arms and let time reveal people's true character.

Sometimes in life.....it's a meaningful thing to do some deep soul searching and see where your life is headed. In addition, not everyone you should open your ears to, even if it seems like 'wisdom' and sound advice. I will share three instances.

The first one is where, by someone threw himself from the third floor of his apartment and the reason being is that he owes 2100/=. The second one was where a man, after finishing school and lacked a job opportunity, decided to venture into entrepreneurship. First, he became a hawker who was selling clothes. His business failed because kanjo took his stuff. He ventured with several other businesses, which all failed. The straw that broke the camels back was when he was selling maize. He woke up one day to find everything of his was stolen. He later committed suicide. Thirdly, a man burnt himself to ashes after lacking a job opportunity after studying in school for many years and having several degrees and masters.

Think about it. The people who found themselves in such a situation, what it took them to go to the point of ending their lives. It's a high chance there were told things such as 'struggle today....it will eventually pay off in the future.'

'Everyone started somewhere, so ignore your pain and suffering. Your breakthrough will eventually come.' You're weak if you quit, the world doesn't like quitters....etc. It is good to find a balance in life and not live on both extremes. Not everyone is you. They don't know you pain tolerance, patience, etc. Do life your own way!!!!

Guys, have you thought of how many people who are in prison right now are there because of false accusations 🤔 It usually starts small, a rumour that spreads while the creator of the rumour had malicious goal 🤔 maybe a jilted lover trying to get back at their ex 🤔 A broken friendship and the other person(s) tries to revenge 🤔 These among many other instances can result in such an ending.

I have decided that before trying to act on a rumour, l should try as much as possible to figure out the truth, and if l can't, l can completely ignore it. Don't wait until a person you care about finds themselves under such circumstances that you find yourself caring about it. Put yourself in this situation; you are a young family just starting out with a newborn, then suddenly, somehow, you find out either your wife or yourself as a man have been falsely accused that you are behind the murder of someone who perhaps committed suicide but since you were the last person in contact with them, you are obviously the guilty person and so you are charged with the offence.

To make the situation worse, the person who passed away is from a prominent family, and since they can't accept that their loved one passed away by suicide through corruption they push for you to be put behind bars and that is how your freedom is taken away simply because of false accusations.

Those people who used to move in groups on campus, where are you now??? I recently met someone who used to belong to a certain clique, and they were asking me to help them secure a job opportunity. They were explaining to me how hard they have tried and how hard it is out here.

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Honestly, it met me with total shock because some of the friends were connected with prominent people and influential people in society, and l would even assume that they got a scholarship or even a job abroad. I didn't want to seem that l am in their business too much, but it left me with so many questions.

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If l were in such a position, l would have taken advantage of it and accelerated my life. I don't know, but what could lead someone to find themselves in such a situation 🤔

With the current economic situation, why can't the government try to subsidize things such as sanitary products??? Recently, l was in a supermarket, and l was quite shocked to see how the prices of pads and so forth have gone up. Like a few years ago, a packet of pad could go for sixty shillings. Currently, it's twice the price with slightly lower quality. I am fortunate enough to afford them, however.....what about those who can't even afford basic necessities such as food and housing??? I think this is very wrong and something should be done about it!!!

In response to the post about people not knowing how to relieve stress, the correct way. I will start writing a journal or talking to a trusted person. Kindly share yours 🙏

What lessons has failure taught you that success has never taught you??? I learnt that there are people who have completely destroyed their lives, and they know that there's no comeback, and hence, they have absolutely no problem helping you destroy yours. It doesn't look so obvious at first, but if you are wise, you will see the red flags.

In this era of social media, why would someone still think or assume that being kind to the opposite gender means that you want them romantically, or you might hint that you are in a relationship with them 🤔

I mean, to me....unless you officially ask me to be your partner, and l either reject or accept........we aren't in a relationship!!!

Guys, what do l advise someone close to me who recently opened up to me about this situation. So, my close friend was from recovering from a long-term relationship when unexpectedly they developed a crush on someone.

The feeling was mutual, and at first, she was in denial since she never had time for that. Now, the guy was treating her nice, and there was actually chemistry between them. Now, a while ago, my friend opened up to this guy about a behaviour she didn't like, and now he has ghosted her.

She accepted to move on, however.....she was wondering why exactly the guy ghosted her after revealing something that was disturbing her???