Yeah, what the title says.
Be specific tho, personality/looks wise, and crossing my fingers that someone special is gonna try hitting you up soon (either irl or here, and yeah, power of manifestation gais)
Hi hello, ladies and gentlemen, I'm your favorite member of this place (joke), and I'm back with top ten most asked questions on here. So strap in for the most mind-rewiring advice ever.
Disclaimer: use them/take this advice with a pinch of salt because honestly, it can ALWAYS go either way, and I'm not trying to boost false hope out here. Stay true to yourself no matter what, and at the end of the day, be proud of yourself for making someone feel special :)
Methods to confess to your crush based on closeness.
A: school crush:
~ if he/she is part of one (or more) of your classes: try to be seated near them, hopefully you get to make small talk over homework, grades, annoying teachers, and weird rules. Definitely spend enough time joking around that asking them for their number/insta doesn't feel too weird, keep it casual!
~ if he/she is a hallway crush lowk js trip onto them and tell them "wow, I js fell for you" (joke uhm), but in all seriousness, in this kinda case, best bet is to find their social media handles, and js reply through stories, bond over interests, and have interesting convos. Then, proceed onto waving in the hallways/smiling at them/making eye contact and slowly, talk irl, make sure you're vibing enough.
~ if he/she is a mutual friend, honestly, choose a friend you trust, spill your guts out, make them your wingman. Very effective because you have have inside member of the squad tryna help you out :)
~ if he/she is your best friend, find something that differentiates between you and couples, find their love language, cater to it, write small notes, text them nice things, cook smt, and do things that feel kinda romantic, but don't really cross over into the territory immediately! It works, trust me, it builds up the thoughts about wanting to be with YOU as more than a friend!
B: workplace crush:
~ if he/she is a fellow coworker: try to joke/tease a lot more, help out with their work if you want to, text them something about your common interests, something you can bond on other than work, maybe meet up, spend some time after closing, walk each other home/ until some common point, and make them feel like "wait I don't wanna leave their company even if it's js work purposes", it makes the difference.
~ if he/she is your regular customer: honestly, if youre in the café or restaurant kinda place, easiest way is to doodle a bit on their coffee cups/napkins, js light hearted stuff, maybe a quote, maybe a cat drawing, maybe js their name in a cute font, and they'll hopefully start to look forward to your little doodles! And who knows, maybe you can spill in your insta handle through a short and cute message?
~ if he/she is your boss uhm..haha. lowk not cut out for the power imbalances but yeah (if u really need the advice tho, hmu gais)
C: neighborhood crush
~ if he/she is a friend, js get them to do their and your common interests; play a sport together, js walk under the night sky, sneak out of your houses to eat food (NOT ASKING U TO DO SO, ITS AN IDEA), and js get comfy with each other :)
~ if he/she is a stranger/someone you see on a daily basis, js walk up to them if they're almost the same age, try to ask about their studies/work, how they're faring, and js general stuff, hopefully they're nice asf and respond like a good homosapien
(Lemme know if there's more exhibits I need to cover oml, my brain and hands are busted)
Here are several different ways to confess, pick the one that resonates the most to you!!
~ a letter: cheesy, heartwarming, and honestly one of the easiest methods. You js pour your entire feelings onto a paper, be very careful to not overdo your declaration of love, and remember, be true to how you feel, don't downplay/over hype the emotions you feel for them, it's not like they'll be grading your feelings right? Js stay honest, know that over the course of writing this letter, you're lightening the burden over your heart, and you're gonna come to terms with the fact that you giving this person your heart is one of the sweetest things ever, and if they don't feel the same way, that's okay. You're not at fault.
~ a video: yeah, a very cheesy way again, js a compilation of all the memories you've spent together, texts you've freaked out over, filming each other, hanging out together, and js every moment that made you give a piece of yourself to this person. Romantic asf babe.
~ a small compilation of things they love: their fav chocolate, paper flowers that they like, a bunch of stickers, merch of a fandom they're in, and js si ple things could be the most thoughtful thing ever. Bonus points if the fact is smt they mentioned casually/years/months/a while ago!
~ planning a not-a-date: take them out to do some of both your fav things together! Maybe go bowling, eat street food, or get ice cream, and do things you both really really like, js a day spent on things you love doing with them, and js confess at the end of this perfect day. You don't need a perfect speech. The beautiful day you've given them is sincere enough for them to know how serious you are.
~ in case you simply wanna get it over with: still js tell it to their face on your own. Yes, on your own. Not through a friend, doesn't matter if you think you're not good enough for them. No degradation in this household btw. You're beautiful, you're amazing, you cared enough to dare telling them this, and if they can't appreciate the time/effort/care you had for them, maybe this happened for a reason. Remember, you're always gonna be SOMEONE'S first choice, someone's first love, someone's first chapter in love, and..its okay if this isn't them.
Ilysm for plucking up the courage in case you do decide to confess, lemme know if you wanna vent/tell me about how it went, I'm always all ears.
Love, and always proud of you,
Op.
Tldr; how to confess to your crush, because love is always worth it.
16F, adores alnst, orv, hand jumper, always looking for peak (female-lead would be nice) action manhwas, likes art, chemistry, and is always down to be a cupid/therapist.
Hi hello, ladies and gentlemen, I'm your favorite member of this place (joke), and I'm back with top ten most asked questions on here. So strap in for the most mind-rewiring advice ever.
Disclaimer: use them/take this advice with a pinch of salt because honestly, it can ALWAYS go either way, and I'm not trying to boost false hope out here. Stay true to yourself no matter what, and at the end of the day, be proud of yourself for making someone feel special :)
Methods to confess to your crush based on closeness.
A: school crush:
~ if he/she is part of one (or more) of your classes: try to be seated near them, hopefully you get to make small talk over homework, grades, annoying teachers, and weird rules. Definitely spend enough time joking around that asking them for their number/insta doesn't feel too weird, keep it casual!
~ if he/she is a hallway crush lowk js trip onto them and tell them "wow, I js fell for you" (joke uhm), but in all seriousness, in this kinda case, best bet is to find their social media handles, and js reply through stories, bond over interests, and have interesting convos. Then, proceed onto waving in the hallways/smiling at them/making eye contact and slowly, talk irl, make sure you're vibing enough.
~ if he/she is a mutual friend, honestly, choose a friend you trust, spill your guts out, make them your wingman. Very effective because you have have inside member of the squad tryna help you out :)
~ if he/she is your best friend, find something that differentiates between you and couples, find their love language, cater to it, write small notes, text them nice things, cook smt, and do things that feel kinda romantic, but don't really cross over into the territory immediately! It works, trust me, it builds up the thoughts about wanting to be with YOU as more than a friend!
B: workplace crush:
~ if he/she is a fellow coworker: try to joke/tease a lot more, help out with their work if you want to, text them something about your common interests, something you can bond on other than work, maybe meet up, spend some time after closing, walk each other home/ until some common point, and make them feel like "wait I don't wanna leave their company even if it's js work purposes", it makes the difference.
~ if he/she is your regular customer: honestly, if youre in the café or restaurant kinda place, easiest way is to doodle a bit on their coffee cups/napkins, js light hearted stuff, maybe a quote, maybe a cat drawing, maybe js their name in a cute font, and they'll hopefully start to look forward to your little doodles! And who knows, maybe you can spill in your insta handle through a short and cute message?
~ if he/she is your boss uhm..haha. lowk not cut out for the power imbalances but yeah (if u really need the advice tho, hmu gais)
C: neighborhood crush
~ if he/she is a friend, js get them to do their and your common interests; play a sport together, js walk under the night sky, sneak out of your houses to eat food (NOT ASKING U TO DO SO, ITS AN IDEA), and js get comfy with each other :)
~ if he/she is a stranger/someone you see on a daily basis, js walk up to them if they're almost the same age, try to ask about their studies/work, how they're faring, and js general stuff, hopefully they're nice asf and respond like a good homosapien
(Lemme know if there's more exhibits I need to cover oml, my brain and hands are busted)
Here are several different ways to confess, pick the one that resonates the most to you!!
~ a letter: cheesy, heartwarming, and honestly one of the easiest methods. You js pour your entire feelings onto a paper, be very careful to not overdo your declaration of love, and remember, be true to how you feel, don't downplay/over hype the emotions you feel for them, it's not like they'll be grading your feelings right? Js stay honest, know that over the course of writing this letter, you're lightening the burden over your heart, and you're gonna come to terms with the fact that you giving this person your heart is one of the sweetest things ever, and if they don't feel the same way, that's okay. You're not at fault.
~ a video: yeah, a very cheesy way again, js a compilation of all the memories you've spent together, texts you've freaked out over, filming each other, hanging out together, and js every moment that made you give a piece of yourself to this person. Romantic asf babe.
~ a small compilation of things they love: their fav chocolate, paper flowers that they like, a bunch of stickers, merch of a fandom they're in, and js si ple things could be the most thoughtful thing ever. Bonus points if the fact is smt they mentioned casually/years/months/a while ago!
~ planning a not-a-date: take them out to do some of both your fav things together! Maybe go bowling, eat street food, or get ice cream, and do things you both really really like, js a day spent on things you love doing with them, and js confess at the end of this perfect day. You don't need a perfect speech. The beautiful day you've given them is sincere enough for them to know how serious you are.
~ in case you simply wanna get it over with: still js tell it to their face on your own. Yes, on your own. Not through a friend, doesn't matter if you think you're not good enough for them. No degradation in this household btw. You're beautiful, you're amazing, you cared enough to dare telling them this, and if they can't appreciate the time/effort/care you had for them, maybe this happened for a reason. Remember, you're always gonna be SOMEONE'S first choice, someone's first love, someone's first chapter in love, and..its okay if this isn't them.
Ilysm for plucking up the courage in case you do decide to confess, lemme know if you wanna vent/tell me about how it went, I'm always all ears.
Love, and always proud of you,
Op.
Tldr; how to confess to your crush, because love is always worth it.
Okay so, I've been feeling so happy looking at you guys talk about your crushes, feeling excited, giddy, making moves, and that's so so nice.
And I don't want a relationship, god no, I'm not good enough. And that's the problem. I don't want to be in a relationship, but I wish I could have the feeling of a crush, or js something close to it, because I haven't liked anyone properly since 4-5 years now, and I js feel a bit sad that there's so many people experiencing young love, and the idea itself fascinates me, and yet i KNOW I won't have that route, and that would be by choice.
But I js wish I could experience the childish part of young love, js liking someone casually, and ugh I don't know what I'm asking for atp.
Ah well, I'll get over it.
I just wanna giggle at your love stories, so let me know the feeling of realizing when you fell for your crush, or the exact moment it hit you, and don't be shy about expressing it in detail, I'm gonna grab my popcorn and read this
(As someone who's never experienced LOVE, or had a serious crush in a while)
Im chill, I don't bite, and definitely overshare to me about your love lives.
Whether it's starting the convo with them, or hugging them, or telling them you like them, or complimenting them, just do it!
It's not weird, it's not gonna be out of pocket, and hey, the worst that'll happen is, they're startled that you had the opinion, or just not expect you to do smt.
So surprise them, make the first move, continue the convo, text them smt funny, ITS OKAY.
You don't need to overthink about an occasion to do something, there IS no right time to do something, so why do it later, when the future's so uncertain?
Remember, confidence is 90% fake it till you make it, and honestly, confidence is hot.
So remember, YOU'RE HOT, YOU'RE A BADDIE, and you're GONNA GO GET YOU MAN/WOMAN/THEY THEM/WHATEVER PRONOUNS THEY USE.
lemme know how it goes, and even if you don't find courage in yourself to do so, just admit things to yourself, plan for things even if it isn't JUST YET, and hopefully, it's gonna be the start of something new!
Love, lots of hugs, and a dash of confidence,
Op <3
Lowk sick of life, and if you think if youre up for making me try to like life, go ahead.
(I will debate with you if you'd wanna! :) )
If we vibe, we vibe.
Lowk hate physics btw.
Cat pics would be appreciated btw.
If this comes onto your screen, take this as the universe asking you to just get it off your chest babe :)
Honestly, you don't need to wait for a special occasion to propose/ask someone out or get feelings out, because once you know it, you're going to be moving ahead in life, and you'll think about this as "the one who got away".
Keep in mind, it's OKAY for this to go either way, just that you'll have been sharing something super special with someone you adored for so so long.
If you lose this connection over how you felt, maybe they weren't the right person, but at least you won't stick yourself into the loophole of "would they have _____" because at the end of the day, you deserve closure at the very least.
So go write a letter, practice a speech, send the text. Tell them sincerely, don't overwhelm them with asking "so what will we be", and take this slow, but make sure to take this step.
Hoping for your love stories to work out ^^
Love, and either way, I'm super proud of you,
Op.
What would you guys categorize your love story under ?
Eg: the tropes enemies to loves, friends to lovers, academic rivals, etc.
(Asking for stories basically.)
What the title says.
It can be the song you associate with your dynamic, the song that you both love, the song that would totally play as the soundtrack if you were in a movie?
Whether it's a crush, a relationship, or a weird homosapien giving mixed signals, IM HERE FOR IT ALL. 10/10 success rate (source? Trust me. That's it.)
And definitely take my advice with a pinch of salt, and hoping for the best ^^
First of all, CONGRATULATIONS to every single one of my seniors on here, regardless of whatever you made the cutoff or not. I'm proud of you. You've worked hard, given your best, and thought you haven't been acknowledged, I'm super super proud of what you've done.
And now..I beg for your help. Could you please help me with my prep? I'm currently in 12th, and I'm not specifically doing any kind of prep for bitsat or ugee rn, and these are the only two private entrance exams I'm writing. I hope you guys can help me out, suggest any practice materials, mock tests, and anything I can do alongside jee prep that isn't gonna be too overburdening for me to follow so I can crack ugee?
Thank you so so much <3
This goes both ways, for both guys and girls:
>> Loyalty: its been so normalized to praise people for being loyal to their partner. But that's the bare minimum when you're in a rs. Don't let them stomp all over you just because you care too much and lose the self respect you've you've.
>> Interest: SUPER underrated, but it's important for your partner to have active interest in what you say/do, even if it's not their cup of tea. And they can expect the same interest back from you!! I feel like so many people can bridge the gap of not having common interests by being good listeners!!
>>Boundaries: Really really important, but choose someone who doesn't let anyone say anything rude about you, whether it's in private or public, don't choose a partner that can't stand up for you???
>>Efforts: You're not tuff, you're not a part of those "I change him/her" archetypes, don't deal with this. Someone who doesn't find you enough to be reciprocating the care and affection *you* show? Yeah no buddy.
>>Communication: ah..most of my advice in this subreddit is just ☆communication☆ in better packaging. Seriously. If your partner can't communicate, or is an avoidant arse, throw them out. You're not a therapist, you're not making a living out of babysitting someone who's emotionally constipated, so get outta that relationship faster than I get out of my physics class <3
Okay gbye:p
I haven't had a proper crush since..5 years.
And I know you're thinking: dude it's NOT that long.
Just that, I miss thinking about someone I have an active connection with. Not just 2 months of thinking "he's hot" and moving on, no. I used to literally like like them, used to find things they did cute, the way they talked to me, walked, did random things, joked around, and it made me fall so hard.
I feel like I'm cooked in the dating sphere if I can't really look at anyone without thinking of them an a pretty face.
Like at some point, desperation creeps in, and internally I think like "honestly, I should ask someone, anyone to randomly set me up with a cute guy", but then I remember, I'm a mid ass homosapien who's life rn is just studies and studies, and no guy's gonna look at me as his first choice.
This was depressing oop.
Alr, taking bf applications now
/j.
As a girl with wayyy too much free time..I'm setting you guys up, please be realistic, I'll hit you or else.
This is my riskiest post gawd damn.
Have fun, don't take this as a job application, and fingers crossed that you find your match!!!
HI IM SEARCHING FOR WHAT MY "TYPE" IS, so go ahead and drop your celeb crushes/pinterest pics of what your type is, I'll rate em, and I'll hopefully figure out the kind of person who'd be my type 💔💔💔💔
BRO.
Everywhere I look, either men are nonchalant and unwilling to talk about interests or reach out, or they're PLAIN UNINTERESTED.
and effort? Put enough effort, and the guy's gone in 2 weeks. I guarantee.
So? How do we do it?
