AITA for not wanting to join my family when feeling unwell?
Hello! I was wondering if I am in the wrong for not going to church with my family (I promise this is not a religious discussion). Btw you should know that I'm definitely neurodivergent, just not sure what flavor. Sometimes I'm more social than even my sister and sometimes I feel locked away in myself. I have struggled to convey this to my family, so that's probably a portion of why this bs is happening.
Context: I'm on vacation with my large family at a resort. I was offered to join them for church, and I stated no thank you, I feel socially tired. I didn't have a physical excuse, like a headache or whatever, but I didn't want to go. I told them I go when I can, I just get stressed in situations that: I do not enjoy, often have people on both sides of me, and are around a social area/ have people other than my family and me not able to talk. Obviously church has all three, so I didn't feel like going. Stuff that like can ruin my whole day and make me just emotionally f-ed all day. I was expecting to swim with my brother in law later, who is super catholic, and he talked a lot to me about my behavior afterwards. He mentioned I am hypocritical when I don't want to go to their social event, but expect them to come to mine (swimming).
I really love them, but this whole divide thing is so frustrating, and I don't even know if I'm the asshole here. On one hand he is actually right, I AM a hypocrite, but on the other, I feel that I shouldn't have to ruin my entire day (I'm not sure why, that place just kills my happy mood all day) as a "small sacrifice" (his words) just for them.
Even if no one reads this, I typing this out helped me calm down from it, I just worry less now.