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He erased me from his life and it just hurts

So for context: me and my ex husband were together for 8 years. We have a 2 year old baby together. 3 months ago I found out he had been cheating at least since December. I found everything by myself because he was never honest with me. During this time he broke up with me, then came back only to end things for good in April.
He immediately started a relationship with his AP and one month later she was around my kid.
When we broke up I believed he thought we could be really good at coparenting and even do things “a family”. But I just can’t do it…I became super distant and cold towards him because I’m so hurt.
I only talk the minimum about our child and through messages. I just can’t stand being in his presence.
Now he just barely responds to my messages and seems as if he just erased me from his life like the last 8 years never existed.
He kept our house and lives there (I believe she stays with him a lot). We have 50/50 shared custody so it just feels like he stole half of my time with my baby.
I know distance will be the best for my healing process but I can’t help but reminiscing on the old times and question how he could just move foward…it’s just so hard.
3 months into this and I just don’t know when things will get better. I just want to feel a little happiness again but right now that seems impossible.

Any advice?

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u/Visual_Sky_7169 — 1 day ago
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Ex husband cheated and is mad that I want low contact

My ex husband of 8 years and father of my daughter (2y) left me after I found out about his affair. He left me to be with her and claims he loves her.
I’m heartbroken and trying to heal means keeping as low communication with him as possible and live completely separate lives.
Sometimes he just seems angry that I want all the distance from him that I can get (for example he stopped talking to me when I told him I wanted separate birthday parties for our daughter or when he found out my incomes don’t go to our joint bank account anymore).

Any thoughts?

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u/Visual_Sky_7169 — 16 days ago

Ex husband cheated on me and is mad I want low contact.

My ex husband of 8 years and father of my daughter (2y) left me after I found out about his affair. He left me to be with her and claims he loves her.
I’m heartbroken and trying to heal means keeping as low communication with him as possible and live completely separate lives.
Sometimes he just seems angry that I want all the distance from him that I can get (for example he stopped talking to me when I told him I wanted separate birthday parties for our daughter or when he found out my incomes don’t go to our joint bank account anymore).

Any thoughts?

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u/Visual_Sky_7169 — 16 days ago