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Me and my partner were what seemed to be completely fine, then next day he came over and made me read a note off his notes app basically saying how we shouldn’t be together because we have no common interests and how we could be with better people. I initially shut down and ask him to leave as I felt confused and to be honest, angry, so I had my breakdown, went out, got drunk, went home and suffered the next day. We needed up going on a walk and talking. Where he explained it’s because we didn’t open up, and how I didn’t enjoy going out much (I get anxiety from the thought of going places because I fear everything that could go wrong), and I explained that too him and how he could support me through it so we could do more, and he spoke about his issues and I explained to him, he can stay with his parents, he doesn’t have to be with me 24/7 I understand having time and nights apart is important! Especially since he has autism and struggles with self regulation. He just thought I’d get upset about it. He also expressed that I never showed interest in his music but I had automatically assumed he wanted it as his own sort of self soothing interest and would be frustrated if I involved myself.

I believe we just lacked communication.

He explained that he wants to find himself and he wants me to find myself too. So I asked, if we both work on ourselves, can we be together and he said yes.

I’m just really confused where we stand in the relationship and I don’t want him to think I’m ignoring what he’s saying, I’m just really confused on where we stand and what we are.

But I also don’t know where to start with working on myself, here are some of my faults I’ve noticed in myself.

I become too involved in my phone and will often choose my phone over him.
I have no hobbies.
I struggle showing affection due to not receiving much as a child.
I struggle taking topics seriously due to again my issues as a kid being down played as a joke so I just think it’s normal.
I don’t enjoy walks like he does but I really want to get into them.

How can I work on getting out of bad habits and improving myself, not only for him but for me because they’re not healthy habits to have for me as a person.

So for context my kitten is about 4-5 months old, he is a male cat.

I’ve noticed the past few days he’s been sleeping more, I assumed maybe he’s growing and needs more rest, then he started refusing food so I changed the food which he was interested at first and ate but soon went back to not being interested in it. Then today when I went to clean the litter I noticed he had not used it. So I picked him up and put him in it, he then would dig around and squat as if he was gonna pee then straight away get back up. So then I assumed he didn’t like this type of litter, so I changed the litter completely and he pee’d but not a lot, just a bit bigger than a coin amount.

I’ve also noticed him making biscuits which he normally wouldn’t do as well as suckling on a blanket.

The only issue is he will only drink water with his food (I mix a decent amount of water in with it) so him refusing to eat means he’s not consuming enough water either.

I’ve called the vets and they said to call back at 9am tomorrow, should I be really considered and demanding an emergency appointment, will he be okay for the night? I’m just really worried because he’s not usual chatty, playful self.

TW RAPE

Today I had a dream about being raped, it truly shook me.

It started off where I was at my work place, felt so real. I was spiked at work, a huge chunk of time went missing and I was explaining to my manager. She just laughed at me and the assistant manager was mocking me (they’re not like that in real life but still felt so real). I stormed out of work after being laughed at and then a guy grabs me, soon after his friend does too. I was begging them to stop whilst being dragged and screaming for help whilst no one around seems to help. The police officer was paid off and they took me to their house and raped me. Their mother stepped in and stopped them and I threw a microwave or toasted at one of them and they got electrocuted and for what I know, died? The whole time I was messaging my bf and he did nothing but say ‘how dare you interrupt me whilst I smoke weed’ I then got an uber to his house and then was chased down by them in the uber, then I woke up.

I feel really unsettled. What are some calming methods?

Hey guys, just wondering if anyone experiences this whilst drinking.

I find myself to get buzzed more than drunk or tipsy, I feel on top the world and that I can take anyone on. I become agressive at the drop of a hat and make choices I usually wouldn’t, I become very sexual and end up in dangerous situations because of that (unprotected threesomes and such) and will flirt with others. I have cheated on a partner because of this and I live with shame (as I should). I also just none stop talk, I’ve had people tell me to shut up because of it haha..

Just wondering is this apart of bipolar and drinking?

So me and my boyfriend have been having issues for about 6 months now. Ive noticed the relationship shift and there’s not much of a spark. I thought it was because I was tired from working all the time, but I’ve noticed a bit of resentment because he is unemployed, hangs out with friends all the time, is making memories whilst I work and provide for us both all the time. On my days off I understand I am distant when I come back from work but I work in customer service, ifykyk the struggle of needing some downtime from speaking and being around people.

I have noticed though, when I have days off he’s just gaming or hanging out with his friends. Whenever I suggest to do something he’s like ‘let’s go on a walk’ which yes is a fair suggestion but gets boring after the 5th time doing it. We haven’t been on a date in awhile, he hasn’t surprised me with anything either in a while whereas I’m constantly buying little gifts or paying for his weed etc.

It’s our 2 years soon and I brought that up to him because he has a tendency to forget but when I mentioned it he seemed to be really disinterested and just let out a ‘yay’ not an excited yay more like a monotone one. I also booked us a restaurant that you basically have unlimited meat coming out. We went somewhere like that for his birthday and he really enjoyed it! But again he didn’t really seem interested.

It only bothers me because he shows excitement when it comes to his friends but not me. I asked him does he really wanna be with me? And he said yes and promised that he would put more effort in but I feel like we’ve had this same cycle of he puts in effort for a week because he thinks I’m going to leave and then when he get somewhere he just goes back to being lazy in the relationship.

Hi, I have a 8 week old, male, ginger tabby cat who weighs 700grams (was underweight when I got him). He had his eye removed today and is slipping his cone, I’m unsure if it’s fully secure and I need to sleep as I have bipolar and need to take my medication that sedates me. There are no vets close to me that are open. I don’t exactly have the spare money to get Ubers due to the amount for the surgery (My vet bill savings are GONE and I had to dig into my own main money leaving me just enough to get to work and back for the week). If he slips his cone whilst I’m asleep is that bad? How can I secure the cone!

It’s a cone tied by gauze provided by the vet surgery. I can fit one finger.