u/VultureLover99

Hey everyone, looking for some real advice on a compatibility situation. My girlfriend and I live together. I work full-time, she works part-time, and romantically, everything is great. She wants to stay together longterm, but she recently brought up opening the relationship.

She was totally upfront about it: things are fine with us physically, but she genuinely prefers and needs a bigger guy to be fully satisfied sexually. She wants to be able to go out and get that fulfillment from other partners while keeping our romantic relationship exactly as it is.

I don't have any desire to see other people myself, but I’m not completely ruling out the idea of letting her explore this. I get that she has a specific physical need that I just can't change, and she deserves to have that part of her life fulfilled. I'm just trying to figure out what the best relationship dynamic is here.

Can a one sided open relationship actually work when one partner just wants to stay home and be monogamous? Or is there a way to compromise on this, or are we just looking at a fundamental incompatibility where we should start talking about separating?

Would love to hear from anyone who has been through something similar. Thanks.

Hey everyone, looking for some real advice on a compatibility situation. My girlfriend and I live together. I work full-time, she works part-time, and romantically, everything is great. She wants to stay together long-term, but she recently brought up opening the relationship.

She was totally upfront about it: things are fine with us physically, but she confessed she has a major size kink and wants to experience that specific, extreme physical sensation to feel fully satisfied. For her, it’s a massive fixation and a physical craving that I just can't replicate. She wants to be able to go out and scratch that particular itch with well-endowed guys while keeping our romantic relationship exactly as it is.

I don't have any desire to see other people myself, but I’m not completely ruling out the idea of letting her indulge this kink. I get that she has this intense physical desire that I can't naturally change, and part of me wants her to be able to experience that fulfillment.

I'm just trying to figure out what the best relationship dynamic is here. Can a one-sided open relationship actually work when one partner is just indulging a specific fetish outside the bedroom while the other stays completely monogamous? Or is there a way to compromise on this within our own bedroom (like toys/props), or are we just looking at a fundamental incompatibility where we should start talking about separating?

Would love to hear from anyone who has navigated a partner's specific kink leading to an open relationship. Thanks.

Hey everyone, I wanted to post a quick update because my last post got a lot of comments saying she was being cruel, and some people immediately jumped to telling me to leave her. I appreciate the protectiveness, but I promise you she wasn’t being mean. She was just being completely honest about her body and her needs instead of hiding it or letting resentment build up.

She loves me, I love her, and she’s not forcing anything on me. There is absolutely zero pressure here; if I say no, it’s a no.

The truth is, after processing everything, I’m actually interested and leaning towards letting her explore this. I want her to be fully fulfilled, and I'm realizing I might be okay with a one-sided dynamic.

I’m still not 100% sure how to handle the logistics, though. For those who actually have successful, healthy one-sided open relationships, what did the early stages look like for you?

How did you manage the transition while keeping the primary relationship secure? I'm trying to figure out what kind of boundaries we need to talk about before making a final decision. I would really appreciate anyone who would want to talk this through with me, step by step. Thank you!

Hey everyone, looking for some real advice on a compatibility situation. My girlfriend and I live together. I work full-time, she works part-time, and romantically, everything is great. She wants to stay together longterm, but she recently brought up opening the relationship. She was totally upfront about it: things are fine with us physically, but she genuinely prefers and needs a bigger guy to be fully satisfied sexually. She wants to be able to go out and get that fulfillment from other partners while keeping our romantic relationship exactly as it is.

I don't have any desire to see other people myself, but I’m not completely ruling out the idea of letting her explore this. I get that she has a specific physical need that I just can't change, and she deserves to have that part of her life fulfilled. I'm just trying to figure out what the best relationship dynamic is here. Can a one sided open relationship actually work when one partner just wants to stay home and be monogamous? Or is there a way to compromise on this, or are we just looking at a fundamental incompatibility where we should start talking about separating? Would love to hear from anyone who has been through something similar. Thanks.

Hey everyone, looking for some real advice on a compatibility situation. My girlfriend and I live together. I work full-time, she works part-time, and romantically, everything is great. She wants to stay together longterm, but she recently brought up opening the relationship. She was totally upfront about it: things are fine with us physically, but she genuinely prefers and needs a bigger guy to be fully satisfied sexually. She wants to be able to go out and get that fulfillment from other partners while keeping our romantic relationship exactly as it is.

I don't have any desire to see other people myself, but I’m not completely ruling out the idea of letting her explore this. I get that she has a specific physical need that I just can't change, and she deserves to have that part of her life fulfilled. I'm just trying to figure out what the best relationship dynamic is here. Can a one sided open relationship actually work when one partner just wants to stay home and be monogamous? Or is there a way to compromise on this, or are we just looking at a fundamental incompatibility where we should start talking about separating? Would love to hear from anyone who has been through something similar. Thanks.