u/Vybrosit737373

got a better bass tab for Sometimes than Songsterr/Ultimate Guitar?

They are really very different and they're the only two I'm finding and I'm having trouble figuring out which of them works. Bassists? Help me out? ETA: there's a bass cover on youtube that sounds good but no tabs.

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u/Vybrosit737373 — 2 days ago

Know anything about this lit mag? (Beyond Words)

I got a thing accepted at Beyond Words. It had come up on Chill Subs. The fee to submit was high, which was presented as how they can do a really quick turnaround.

Upon further googling, I'm sort of concerned I submitted to effectively a vanity press. People sort of suggesting they have 90% approval rates and such, though I'm not sure how they'd know.

Maybe it doesn't matter. There' s a good question in there about why I'm submitting stuff and what I want out of getting things accepted and printed. But I'm still curious. Does this journal have any rep as legit/not so legit?

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u/Vybrosit737373 — 3 days ago

ridiculously, a question that is at once a sex question and a tech question

So, I use a VPN so I can watch videos meant for adults without registering so the asshole governor of my state has a record of what I watch. (I realize I'm being a little paranoid and that this info is registered somewhere anyway, but I just can't quite enter my info into a "this guy is watching porn" database.)

It's actually still working fine for sniffies, another site that sometimes censors what you can see if you haven't signed on with Greg Abbott's Net Nanny, but it's not working for the site I use most. (Bateworld, for the curious.)

I'm not very tech savvy. I have the idea this is somehow about a "cache" or something but don't really know what specifically to do so I can get back to jerking off. Anyone else had this happen?

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u/Vybrosit737373 — 6 days ago

am I looking for a unicorn? antidepressant w/o sexual side effects or rough withdrawal, for panic disorder

It sounds like what most people prescribe for panic disorder is SSRIs. A long time ago I had a kind of bad reaction to Paxil (much worsened anxiety, insomnia, akathisia), and none at all to Zoloft (other than sexual side effects, very delayed orgasm.)

I never know how much of the specificity of antidepressants is that they demonstrably do different things and how much is just what they get approved for. Any experience with an antidepressant that has helped with panic disorder that didn't cause sexual side effects and didn't have brain zaps coming off of it?

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u/Vybrosit737373 — 11 days ago

PIggybacking on another question: urban intentional communities?

So there was just a nice question about, essentially, starting a commune and I hastily answered I didn't think anyone ever ended up actually doing it but other answers suggested I'm wrong about this.

That question was about something rural, more like a farm. I love the idea, but personally, the words of the sage Ava Gabor, darling I love ya but give me Park Avenue. I don't want to live in the country at all.

Do you know any people who have started even a small intentional community in town? I read an article years ago about a few friends buying houses on the same street in a new development, and I've talked to people about the idea of buying a multi-unit building.

This is especially appealing to a middle aged gay who isn't going to have kids looking in on him. I suspect it would work best if not everyone was quite the same age, though it might be a burden on the younger people to be the younger people.

Anyway, ever seen this? I don't have much faith in the idea because I find that nobody ever wants to live in the same city but I want to hang on to the dream a little.

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u/Vybrosit737373 — 15 days ago

Long reason, not worth going into. I'm wondering what neighborhood/area/metro stop in either Virginia or Maryland feels the most like you're still in a city. Walkable, people on the streets. I don't care about the schools or the access to nature or any of the other stuff that comes here, just where do you feel most like (with apologies to DC) you're in NYC. Self-contained with no need for a car. Thank you!

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u/Vybrosit737373 — 15 days ago

I know there's not a pat answer here. Something like self esteem takes time and support and lots of talking. But I'm talking with someone who grew up very religious, tried to pray the gay away for a long time, and now is talking to me, someone who came out in his teens with a supportive family. I've talked to lots of clients through coming out but am facing something different with someone with lots of very entrenched self loathing. Any gay therapists have any words of wisdom/encouragement?

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u/Vybrosit737373 — 24 days ago