u/WaltzMysterious9240

I used to teach English abroad and even though I knew how to speak the student's native language, the school administrators forbid me, and even asked me, to "pretend" I didn't know it.

The reason they gave me was that they didn't want the students to fall back on using their first language to communicate with me. I feel like if I were to explain certain concepts in the student's language, things would go a lot smoother and they would understand better.

As an adult, I'm constantly using my own native language to learn new languages. I constantly look up grammar, vocabulary, and definitions and understand them a lot better.

Why are schools abroad so obsessed with this "total immersion" method? I feel like some concepts are impossible to explain clearly with just visuals or gestures alone. Do you learn languages using your first language?

I won't get into detail on what happened with my case specifically. This kid was like 9 years old, not my own kid but I'm acquainted. But basically the kid kept asking me for something and I said no. Then they said some nasty things to me so I said some nasty things back (no profanity, just like a smart comeback or a snide remark).

I was a bit surprised when he said something disrespectful to me. But would you tolerate being disrespected by a kid? Would you have just ignored the nasty thing he said? Anyways I didn't say anything nasty back, but I do feel a bit guilty for having even lost my temper a bit in the first place and replying with a snide remark.

I was thinking about maplestory's player base lately and got curious.

Are there actually brand new players—like younger Gen Z or Gen Alpha—picking up this game completely fresh with zero childhood connection to it? Or is basically everyone here a millennial who keeps coming back every so often because of pure 2000s nostalgia?

I started playing this when I was 10 years old in the early 2000s. I doubt there are any 10 year old playing maplestory these days. In fact I think some of us are old enough to already have our own 10 year old kid. Would you introduce your own kid to this game?

Are there any kids in maplestory? Have you met any while playing?

I’m interested in hearing specifically from conservatives on how political differences affect your personal and professional relationships.

It feels like for many on the left, knowing someone supported Trump or holds conservative views is an absolute dealbreaker. People are willing to throw away years of great relationships over a single vote, viewing political affiliation as a test of basic morality rather than a simple difference of opinion.

Because of this, it seems like a lot of conservatives feel forced to hide their views, lie about who they voted for, or carefully censor themselves just to keep the peace at work or with family.

I rarely—if ever—hear about conservatives cutting off a family member or friend just because they voted for a Democrat.

Questions for conservatives:

• Is political affiliation ever a dealbreaker for you when it comes to friends, family, or colleagues?
• Have you ever cut someone off strictly over who they voted for?
• Do you feel the need to hide your views in everyday life to avoid conflict?
• When meeting someone new or working with a colleague, does their political affiliation even factor into how you treat or interact with them?

Personally, I have lied about who I voted for and my political affiliation to keep my relationships with my friends going. I don't want to debate with them or get into an argument. Is this the right thing to do?

Edit: Just for reference I asked a similar questions on a different sub a while ago and a lot of liberals answered and they said YES, they did cut off a lot of people based on who they voted for.

https://www.reddit.com/r/TooAfraidToAsk/comments/1v2yedb/why_is_politics_a_dealbreaker_for_some_people/

Why do you think liberals will cut people off while conservatives tend to be more accepting of different point of views and be more open-minded.

I was recently in a group call with some new colleagues, and some of them were able to pinpoint that I was Asian-American based on my voice alone, without having seen my face or any photo prior. Is this a thing? Like, how do you just “know” someone is Asian-American based on their voice? I’m a native English speaker and my English is completely fluent, I have no Asian accent at all. I am also able to speak my mother-tongue though (I’m bilingual), is that a factor? If it is a factor, what if it’s an Asian-American that can only speak English and no other language? Maybe even an Asian adoptee? Would someone still be able to tell they’re Asian American?

Is there some kind of “tell” that someone is Asian-American when they speak? Is anyone else here able to recognize the “Asian” voice?

I recently attended a wedding and I hated it. It was incredibly cringe at some points. I feel like weddings are performative and completely unnecessary. Why do I have to act all sentimental and emotional in front of a whole crowd of people? Being forced to be vulnerable, read vows, and maybe even cry in a room full of people just seems so unnatural.

I feel like I'm the minority opinion on this though, doubt I'll be able to find a relationship with a like-minded person, but it's all just so stupid. Like, let's just go apply for our marriage license and be done with it... Anyone here go that route and have no weddings and is it selfish?

Some of you who owned homes growing up might still have your family home, your parents might even still be living there and you could visit whenever you want and even see your old bedroom. But my family was broke and we were always renters and so we jumped around a bit. This place in particular is pretty special to me though cause I was there from the age of 6 to 13 and have many fond memories there.

It might be nostalgia talking, but I just discovered the house we rented and I grew up in is on the market for rent again. It's very cheap, just like $1000 per month so finance isn't an issue. I work remotely anyways and have been considering going back there just for sentimental reasons. Is this a dumb move? Does anyone else have the urge to go back to the house they grew up in?