u/Waste-Blacksmith2125

Hey everyone,

​I (22M) need some help interpreting a situation with a girl from Indonesia. We’ve been talking closely for about a month now, and it’s definitely evolved past just a "casual friendship" vibe.

​Lately, she has been saying things like: "I think I'm more connected to you, I like your way of thinking, speaking, etc."

​Then, she recently sent me this message:

"I apologize for my behavior. I'm sorry I only just replied. I feel like I don't want to bother you too much, I'm afraid you'll be disgusted or uncomfortable 🙏 I like you because of the communication from here, that's why I'm interested... I also think you're the focused type, I'm afraid of disturbing your focused and busy time 🙏"

​Since I really value her, I replied back with this exact message to reassure her:

"You have absolutely nothing to apologize for, and you could never disgust me or make me uncomfortable, your honesty is incredibly rare, and I value it deeply. Don't ever feel like you are bothering or disturbing me. Honestly, your hard work and dedication are things I highly admire. Seeing the effort you put in motivates me to push just as hard on my own grind. truly, for me you are a motivating and supportive energy, not a disturbance at all, don't overthink or stress your mind about it."

​Here is where the confusion and anxiety are kicking in:

After I sent that long, supportive reply, she left it on "seen" for about 8 hours. I was honestly watching my notifications waiting for a reply, but nothing came. Then, as soon as I became active on Instagram, she just "liked" my last message without typing anything else.

I’m really struggling to read this. I’ve heard Indonesian people are naturally very polite, warm, and friendly, so I don't know if this is just her being nice, or if she’s actually interested but just completely froze or started overthinking after my intense reply. The 8-hour silence followed by just a "like" once I came online feels confusing.

​Is this level of appreciation and the sudden pullback normal for a close friend in her culture, or am I over analyzing a sign of romantic interest? How should I take this?

​Hey everyone,

​I (22M) need some help interpreting a situation with a girl from Indonesia. We’ve been talking closely for about a month now, and it’s definitely evolved past just a "casual friendship" vibe.

​Lately, she has been saying things like: "I think I'm more connected to you, I like your way of thinking, speaking, etc."

​Then, she recently sent me this message:

"I apologize for my behavior. I'm sorry I only just replied. I feel like I don't want to bother you too much, I'm afraid you'll be disgusted or uncomfortable 🙏 I like you because of the communication from here, that's why I'm interested... I also think you're the focused type, I'm afraid of disturbing your focused and busy time 🙏"

​Since I really value her, I replied back with this exact message to reassure her:

"You have absolutely nothing to apologize for, and you could never disgust me or make me uncomfortable, your honesty is incredibly rare, and I value it deeply. Don't ever feel like you are bothering or disturbing me. Honestly, your hard work and dedication are things I highly admire. Seeing the effort you put in motivates me to push just as hard on my own grind. truly, for me you are a motivating and supportive energy, not a disturbance at all, don't overthink or stress your mind about it."

​Here is where the confusion and anxiety are kicking in:

After I sent that long, supportive reply, she left it on "seen" for about 8 hours. I was honestly watching my notifications waiting for a reply, but nothing came. Then, as soon as I became active on Instagram, she just "liked" my last message without typing anything else.

​I’m really struggling to read this. I’ve heard Indonesian people are naturally very polite, warm, and friendly, so I don't know if this is just her being nice, or if she’s actually interested but just completely froze or started overthinking after my intense reply. The 8-hour silence followed by just a "like" once I came online feels confusing.

​Is this level of appreciation and the sudden pullback normal for a close friend in her culture, or am I over analyzing a sign of romantic interest? How should I take this?

​Hey everyone,

​I (22M) need some help interpreting a situation with a girl from Indonesia. We’ve been talking closely for about a month now, and it’s definitely evolved past just a "casual friendship" vibe.

​Lately, she has been saying things like: "I think I'm more connected to you, I like your way of thinking, speaking, etc."

​Then, she recently sent me this message:

"I apologize for my behavior. I'm sorry I only just replied. I feel like I don't want to bother you too much, I'm afraid you'll be disgusted or uncomfortable 🙏 I like you because of the communication from here, that's why I'm interested... I also think you're the focused type, I'm afraid of disturbing your focused and busy time 🙏"

​Since I really value her, I replied back with this exact message to reassure her:

"You have absolutely nothing to apologize for, and you could never disgust me or make me uncomfortable, your honesty is incredibly rare, and I value it deeply. Don't ever feel like you are bothering or disturbing me. Honestly, your hard work and dedication are things I highly admire. Seeing the effort you put in motivates me to push just as hard on my own grind. truly, for me you are a motivating and supportive energy, not a disturbance at all, don't overthink or stress your mind about it."

​Here is where the confusion and anxiety are kicking in:

After I sent that long, supportive reply, she left it on "seen" for about 8 hours. I was honestly watching my notifications waiting for a reply, but nothing came. Then, as soon as I became active on Instagram, she just "liked" my last message without typing anything else.

​I’m really struggling to read this. I’ve heard Indonesian people are naturally very polite, warm, and friendly, so I don't know if this is just her being nice, or if she’s actually interested but just completely froze or started overthinking after my intense reply. The 8-hour silence followed by just a "like" once I came online feels confusing.

​Is this level of appreciation and the sudden pullback normal for a close friend in her culture, or am I over analyzing a sign of romantic interest? How should I take this?