u/Wayne47

I was recently diagnosed within the past week.

I'm now doubting everything. I have always suspected I was autistic but now I'm doubting just. I also am doubting everything about myself.

Is my whole personality just autism? Is everything I do and the things I like because of autism?

At first I was very confident and ok with the diagnosis. Then I felt very depressed for about 24 hours now I just feel confused.

Another thing is special interests. I do have some hobbies but I'm not sure I would consider them special interests. However I feel like I hold back on them. I don't let myself buy stuff I want. I don't talk about stuff because I'm afraid people will think I'm weird. My hobbies are more reading books than collection.

My wife 41F is mad at me 42M for not spending time with her.

Yesterday my wife took the day off to take her mother to get a procedure done. She only told me this a day or two before hand.

That morning she was up and out the house around 630 about the time I was getting up.

I got up took the kids to summer camp and got them breakfast on the way. Ended up having to stop and get something the kids needed out of her car.

After meeting with her I texted and asked if she had eaten breakfast. She had not so I told her to order something and I would bring it to her after I dropped off the kids.

The food was very delayed and by the time I got back to the surgery center her mother was almost done and my wife was in the back with her so she could not get the food.

After that I had to take my oldest son to get a rental car because he wrecked his. However when we got there they told us to come back at 2pm.

Finally get home and my wife and I did spend maybe 2 hours together watching TV in our room.

She did try to initiate sex but I was not feeling it at the moment because I had a teleheath appointment that started in less that 30mins.

My appointment took over 90s mins. I did not expect it to take that long. Afterwards I had to take my son to get his rental car as it was after 2pm at that point.

Getting the car took about an hour. I did invite my wife to go with us to get the car and she said no.

Once he got his car I only had about 20mins till I had to take the kids to their after school activities. That took about an hour and I went home.

We had dinner as a family. She cooked me a burger but honestly it was not good burnt on the outside and not warm on the inside. So I didn't really eat it.

She started giving me the cold shoulder that night.

I asked why and she said I hurt her feelings because I did not make it a point to spend time with her that day and because I didn't eat the burger.

I did attempt to eat the burger and I ate about half but it was not good. I kind of understand he being upset at the burger.

I just don't know when she thought we were suppose to spend more time together. She took a day off randomly without tell me very much in advance and I had all this stuff to do. Taking the kids to camp and getting my oldest his car. My teleheath appointment had was already scheduled and she was aware of it. She was also upset I didn't originally think to bring her food but I had no idea if she ate of not because she left the house right before I got up.

She's still giving me the cold shoulder this morning.

AITAH?

What are they building on 77 & Baldwin behind Dr. Butram office? Use to be the old Healthplex and Bay medical offices.

Wife and I (male) both in or 40s married around 15 years. We have children and both work full time. I work overnight 10-12 hours a day multiple days in a row.

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For maybe the past 6 months or so my wife has become hypersexual. It really came out of nowhere. I've enjoyed it and was surprised. We never had a terrible sex life but for a few years it was once or twice a week.

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However now she wants sex daily at least. She also wants to have an orgasm everytime. It does take her around 30mins to orgasm. I have no problem but it's hard to make time for that on days I work especially with the children around. Their bedtime is when I'm going to work.

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She doesn't seem to understand that. By the time she gets home from work and I am trying to get ready I don't know when we are suppose to do that. She just says if I really cared I would make time. Sometimes on days I work we do but not always.

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Most of the days I don't work we have sex and she orgams. One week we had sex two days and on the third I went to sleep. I was tired and she was not happy about it.

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When we don't have sex she gets moody and passive aggressive. She has accused me of cheating, or masturbating (which I rarely do because I don't have the need). She also says I don't find her attractive.

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I try to show her affection outside of sex and that doesn't seem to help.

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Physically I can't keep up with her demands. I've encouraged her to masturbate when I'm working but I don't think that went over well.

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Recently we had sex twice in one day and I went down on her. Next day we had sex and she had a manual orgasm. 3rd day she was mad I didn't go down on her.

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Now I'm getting the cold shoulder.

I feel like sex has become a chore because if I don't engage in it everyday she makes it know she's unhappy. I just can't physically keep that up and we don't always have time.

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This was mainly just to vent as I have no one to talk to this about.

Looking for somewhere that does lawnmower repair. I have a Ryobi lawnmower and it stopped working.