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Any grocery stores near blue bell have barrel pickles? Haven’t had one since I was a kid and I miss it so much😭

Hi, I am my sister's MOH! I (F24) am not sure if I should be getting her (F28) a gift. My aunt and a family friend are throwing the shower for her. I am helping with details like pictures and signage, but most of it has been figured out by them and will be paid for by them.

What should I get her? Should I be getting her something? I just feel like I am not doing enough because she does a lot on her own. I have asked her to come to me for things, but it's tough because she likes/is used to doing things on her own.

CONTEXT: I am 4 years younger than her and not extremely financially solvent, as I recently was laid off, but I feel like I am not doing enough as her MOH. I want to do more and can find a way to afford it.

Her wedding is a destination wedding in the DR and is also going to be at least 1.5k for flight and hotel, not including dresses and clothes, etc. I am paying for this, and it adds up really quickly, but I also know it is a once-in-a-lifetime trip and expense, so it is so worth it!

I helped with small stuff for her bachelorette, but since it was a destination bach/bachorlettte combined trip and she was very particular, she did most of the planning. I helped with decorations and small things with her best friend who lived in that destination and SIL. Since the trip was a little out of my price range at the time (I had just gotten laid off, and it was like a 1.5-2k pp trip), she helped me with my flight and portion of the Airbnb as my "MOH" gift.

For the wedding, I am planning on getting her a customized high-quality letters to the bride scrapbook made with custom embossed letters and using it to make her one of those handcrafted letters-to-the-bride handmade books decorated with fabric/ribbon/pictures, etc with handwritten letters from all of her friends and family on each page to read the day of the wedding and to be gifted the morning of the wedding. I thought that would make her smile and was super special and was more of a labor of love. This will itself be somewhere between $150-300 and hours to make.

Please help in whatever way you can! I am genuinely struggling. Any advice, validation, or love is welcome.

CONTEXT: 

We met in April 2025, started dating in May, and were both unemployed at the time. He had just gotten out of the army and was starting his MBA that fall, and I had recently been laid off from my job in NYC. He lived near Philly with his parents, and I was in NYC, so we started long distance but he would just come visit me for long periods during the first month. When my lease ended and freelance income wasn’t enough, I also moved back home to near philly.

Before he left for school, we spent about 3 months together almost every day and completely fell in love. We spent almost everyday together and it was wonderful. I was VERY anti-long distance, but he convinced me it was worth it and constantly reassured me I was his forever person and that the distance would be temporary. For the next ~9 months, we saw each other AT LEAST twice a month. Mostly I drove 4 hours to him because my work was remote/flexible. We traveled together with his school friends, spent time with each other’s families constantly, and talked multiple times a day every day when we weren’t in person. We were genuinely best friends. 

He helped financially with visits and always treated the relationship seriously. This summer, he even recruited for his internship in NYC because I was planning to move back, and he had asked about potentially living together temporarily to save money and see what it was like. We talked openly about marriage and a future together. Everyone around us thought we were extremely solid.

Then, about a month ago, he completely blindsided me and ended things. I have been told that it could be categorized as an avoidant discard, and that has helped me contextualize/name what he did to me.

It was literally a 5-minute conversation. He unexpectedly came home, told me he didn’t want to be with me and didn’t see himself marrying me, and left. There was no discussion beforehand, no communicating doubts, no attempt to work on anything together. He admitted he had decided earlier that week but continued acting completely normal, telling me he loved me and talking about our future right up until the breakup itself.

We were only ~2 weeks away from finally being in the same city again after 9 months of long distance. We were actively planning my sister’s destination wedding together for December, which he was invited to as an actual guest, not just a plus one. He had even encouraged me to book the nicer room because we’d split it.

The only explanation he gave was that after reflecting, he realized I “wasn’t his person.” He also said he noticed he’d been snapping at me more over little things lately. That was basically it.

We never formally agreed to no contact. He just left after asking for a hug (which I declined because I was in complete shock), he turned off his location, and he never contacted me again. We still have some of each other’s stuff. I never got to say anything I wanted to say because I genuinely hadn’t processed what was happening until he was already gone.

Honestly, the silence afterward has hurt almost more than the breakup itself. Everyone in my life and his is shocked as far as I know. Multiple of his girl friends reached out to me letting me know they have no idea what happened and they are dissapointed in his stupidity. I truly thought we were endgame, or at minimum that if we ever broke up, there would be some major reason behind it.

Part of me desperately wants him to reach out so I can finally say my piece and regain some sense of control. I honestly want him to regret it and beg for me back, even though logically I know I could never trust him again after how he handled this. Maybe that’s toxic, but I just feel so powerless and discarded.

For the past month, I’ve been grieving intensely. I haven’t reached out at all. I’ve been trying to take care of myself, spend time with friends, work out, eat healthy, and keep functioning normally, but when I’m alone, it’s unbearable. I ruminate constantly. I feel physically sick sometimes from the anxiety and grief.

I also still can’t bring myself to fully unfollow or remove him online yet. Part of me wants to reach out for my stuff back, to ask him to unsave my intimate pictures and texts (he didn’t with his ex and forgot about them, and early in the relationship, it was a trigger),  or finally say everything I never got to say to him. Another part of me wants the silence to speak for itself and never give him access to me again.

It’s now been a month, and I told myself I’d reassess whether to reach out, but I genuinely don’t know what the right thing to do is. I miss who I thought he was so much, while also feeling angry and deeply hurt by what he did. I am still just as devastated, if not more, as I was on day one. I struggle every day. I am so lost. I don't recognize who he is because the person I thought I was with would have NEVER done that to me. And I don't recognize myself for letting this happen and not seeing the signs. I am so hurt and lost.

Any advice, perspective, or even acknowledgment would really help. I just feel so extremely alone in all of this.

Hi! New-ish to being witchy! Long-time reader.

QUESTION: I am curious if it is bad energy to hire a witch to cast a communication spell (she says to flood his mind with powerful images of me, pushing him to make contact) followed by an obsession spell (she says it's to amplify our spiritual connection and reignite any lost or missing feelings between us) for my ex who i guess we are technically in no contact.

I've been manifesting for a long time and know it's not always great to manifest a specific person, and I wasn't sure if this was a similar thing. Idk, but lmk your take and any advice you have.

CONTEXT: My now ex-boyfriend of a year blindsided me and broke up with me out of nowhere. I was blindsided and essentially went through an avoidant discard about a month ago, and was broken up with. We were deeply in love and had no notable problems. It has been about a month since he ended things. When he ended things, it was literally a 5-minute conversation where he came home (we were long-distance but saw each other frequently) and just told me he didn’t wanna be with me and didn’t see himself marrying me. It wasn't a discussion or even a conversation where he shared doubts or anything; it was a decision he made completely without me. We were a few weeks away from being together again after being long-distance for about nine months. He was constantly telling me he loved me and talking about our future plans up until the morning of, and everything was completely normal. He essentially put on a show the whole last week we were together, acting like everything was fine on the phone, so I wouldn't know until he did it in person (he told me he had decided earlier in the week when he broke up with me).

We didn’t decide on no contact. We just have not been in contact at all. He just left my house that day, turned off his location, and has not contacted me since, which I think is INSANE and so hurtful. We still have some of each other's stuff, and I never got to say my peace at all because I was in shock when he did it and didn't even know what to ask or say. I never got any reason why he was breaking up with me other than I wasn’t his person, and I got no closure at all. Everyone around me was shocked, and I was in great shock for a while. I really thought we were endgame or at least would have a good reason to separate if we did.

I truly want him to reach out to me so I can end the relationship on my terms and get closure for everything. I honestly want him to be begging for me, and I want the door open for me (even though I won’t likely ever choose him again because of the disrespect of how he handled the breakup), but I want it to be my choice. Maybe that's toxic, idk but I just feel so powerless. I want the control back. It's like I don't recognize who I was with for all that time, because the man I knew was never capable of that.

Please help in whatever way you can! Any advice is welcome!

Hi! New-ish to being witchy! Long-time reader.

QUESTION: I am curious if it is bad energy to hire a witch to cast a communication spell (she says to flood his mind with powerful images of me, pushing him to make contact) followed by an obsession spell (she says it's to amplify our spiritual connection and reignite any lost or missing feelings between us) for my ex who i guess we are technically in no contact.

I've been manifesting for a long time and know it's not always great to manifest a specific person, and I wasn't sure if this was a similar thing. Idk, but lmk your take and any advice you have.

CONTEXT: My now ex-boyfriend of a year blindsided me and broke up with me out of nowhere. I was blindsided and essentially went through an avoidant discard about a month ago, and was broken up with. We were deeply in love and had no notable problems. It has been about a month since he ended things. When he ended things, it was literally a 5-minute conversation where he came home (we were long-distance but saw each other frequently) and just told me he didn’t wanna be with me and didn’t see himself marrying me. It wasn't a discussion or even a conversation where he shared doubts or anything; it was a decision he made completely without me. We were a few weeks away from being together again after being long-distance for about nine months. He was constantly telling me he loved me and talking about our future plans up until the morning of, and everything was completely normal. He essentially put on a show the whole last week we were together, acting like everything was fine on the phone, so I wouldn't know until he did it in person (he told me he had decided earlier in the week when he broke up with me).

We didn’t decide on no contact. We just have not been in contact at all. He just left my house that day, turned off his location, and has not contacted me since, which I think is INSANE and so hurtful. We still have some of each other's stuff, and I never got to say my peace at all because I was in shock when he did it and didn't even know what to ask or say. I never got any reason why he was breaking up with me other than I wasn’t his person, and I got no closure at all. Everyone around me was shocked, and I was in great shock for a while. I really thought we were endgame or at least would have a good reason to separate if we did.

I truly want him to reach out to me so I can end the relationship on my terms and get closure for everything. I honestly want him to be begging for me, and I want the door open for me (even though I won’t likely ever choose him again because of the disrespect of how he handled the breakup), but I want it to be my choice. Maybe that's toxic, idk but I just feel so powerless. I want the control back. It's like I don't recognize who I was with for all that time, because the man I knew was never capable of that.

Looking for the best TAKEOUT, BUFFALO wings in or near Blue Bell, PA.

My old post got so much love, thank you for all the great recs! I tried alex based off all the amazing recommendations.

I LOVED Alex's in east norriton. Their wings are so fat and crispy and yummy! Customer service is top tier and they are seriously great value for the price. Their fries are just okay in my opinion, a little dry and just okay. And while their wings dry (no sauce like they recommend to get them) are phenomenal, I'm not a huge fan of their sauces. The mild is not my cup of tea it tastes off but I like the hot. But I do miss that BUFFALO (more salty, thicker than just hot sauce) flavor. If anyone has any recommendations for specifically good BUFFALO bone-in wings, I would be so gratefu!!!!! Thanks for all your help!

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Back in the day, PJs or LEE's were always top tier!

Now PJ's wings are so mid, and their fries SUCK, and they are all grease, no sauce. The wings are SO much smaller.

And so much more expensive for 10 wings and fries to get less food. Makes no sense!

And Lee's is gone and not what it used to be at other locations, in my opinion. Also love Palermos for everything else, but the wings are just okay at best IMO.

I do wingstop now but they are so overpriced and not thattt good. Does anyone have any GREAT recommendations for buffalo wings in the area for takeout? Willing to drive up to like 20 minutes if they are really good!

BTW I like them unhealthy with lots of sauce and a lot of fries

LOL they are my treat

Hey guys! What’s the best fried chicken in or around blue bell pa? Looking for some good fried chicken. Craving my favorite place down south and need some recs here!

Looking for genuine bone in fried chicken legs and thighs. Not that boneless stuff lol.

Anyone recommend any affordable personal trainers or private lessons that will help me learn how to workout more effectively.

I (F24, 5'2, 140lbs) want to change my body (get more toned and build muscle in the right places) and started with a calorie deficit which is helping me lose weight slowly, but I have such a hard time getting in the gym or in classes or knowing what is going to help my body. I loose motivation working out at home and have trouble sticking to one thing or picking what to do.

If I had a trainer teach me or do private lessons with me either at a studio or in my home, i think it would change the game for me.

Any recommendations welcome!