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I started smoking weed in 2018. At first, I would smoke maybe once a week, but from 2019 onwards I started smoking more regularly; joints, bongs, cigarettes, etc.
Around 2024–2025, I gradually cut down. I stopped buying weed regularly and would mostly smoke if I was with friends who had some. Eventually, I went for long periods without smoking and got to the point where I might only smoke once every 2–3 months.
The problem is that whenever something really upsetting happens in my life, relationship problems, feeling emotionally abandoned by my partner, career issues, trauma-related stuff, or just feeling extremely depressed and anxious, I find myself wanting weed again.
I have BPD, and when I smoke, I feel incredibly relaxed. For a while, it feels like my brain finally goes quiet and I don’t have to think about everything that’s hurting me. That’s probably why I’ve started seeing weed as a way to relieve my anxiety and depression.
Deep down, though, I don’t really want to rely on it. It’s almost like there are two parts of my mind: one part knows I don’t want weed to become my coping mechanism, while another part desperately wants it whenever I’m struggling.
My partner also used to smoke with me, but they have ADHD and stopped in 2024 after starting medication, so I don’t really have that shared habit anymore.
I’m curious about other people’s experiences, especially anyone with BPD.
How did you stop using weed as a coping mechanism?
Did you completely quit, or do you sometimes relapse and then stop again?
Do any of you with BPD actually find cannabis helpful for managing your symptoms, or does it ultimately make things worse?
I’m not necessarily looking for judgment, I’d really like to hear from people who have been in a similar situation and what worked (or didn’t work) for them.

I started smoking weed in 2018. At first, I would smoke maybe once a week, but from 2019 onwards I started smoking more regularly; joints, bongs, cigarettes, etc.
Around 2024–2025, I gradually cut down. I stopped buying weed regularly and would mostly smoke if I was with friends who had some. Eventually, I went for long periods without smoking and got to the point where I might only smoke once every 2–3 months.
The problem is that whenever something really upsetting happens in my life, relationship problems, feeling emotionally abandoned by my partner, career issues, trauma-related stuff, or just feeling extremely depressed and anxious, I find myself wanting weed again.
I have BPD, and when I smoke, I feel incredibly relaxed. For a while, it feels like my brain finally goes quiet and I don’t have to think about everything that’s hurting me. That’s probably why I’ve started seeing weed as a way to relieve my anxiety and depression.
Deep down, though, I don’t really want to rely on it. It’s almost like there are two parts of my mind: one part knows I don’t want weed to become my coping mechanism, while another part desperately wants it whenever I’m struggling.
My partner also used to smoke with me, but they have ADHD and stopped in 2024 after starting medication, so I don’t really have that shared habit anymore.
I’m curious about other people’s experiences, especially anyone with BPD.
How did you stop using weed as a coping mechanism?
Did you completely quit, or do you sometimes relapse and then stop again?
Do any of you with BPD actually find cannabis helpful for managing your symptoms, or does it ultimately make things worse?
I’m not necessarily looking for judgment, I’d really like to hear from people who have been in a similar situation and what worked (or didn’t work) for them.

Hi everyone,
I’m feeling really anxious and could use some advice from people who have experience with the copper IUD.
My partner and I had unprotected sex six times. I was really turned on at the time and told him he could finish inside me because I thought I could just take the morning-after pill the next day.
I went to the pharmacy and got the emergency contraception, but the pharmacist told me that I’m likely around my ovulation period, so the pill may not be as effective. They suggested I look into getting a copper IUD as emergency contraception as well, since it’s supposed to be the most effective option.
The problem is, I’ve read so many negative stories online about the copper IUD—pain during insertion, heavy periods, cramping, and other side effects—that I’m feeling really scared and unsure about getting one.
Has anyone here had a copper IUD inserted as emergency contraception? What was your experience like? Was the insertion as bad as people say? Did you have any long-term issues, or was it worth it for the peace of mind?
I’d really appreciate any honest advice or experiences. I’m feeling overwhelmed and just want to make the best decision.

Thank you

I accidentally came across something that has really been bothering me, and I honestly don’t know if I’m overreacting.

My husband and I have always been pretty open about porn. We both watch it occasionally, and it’s never really been an issue in our relationship.
But recently, I accidentally saw his browsing history on Aloha Browser. I didn’t go looking through his phone—it just happened. I noticed he’d searched for GFE on OnlyFans and had cleared the history, but I could still see it in the recent incognito tabs.
For some reason, this feels very different from regular porn. The whole “girlfriend experience” aspect makes it feel much more personal and intimate than just watching adult content. It’s left me feeling hurt, even though I wasn’t bothered by porn itself.
So I wanted to ask:
Do committed men actually watch or pay for GFE content on OnlyFans?
Is it just another form of porn to most people, or is it different because of the emotional/interactive aspect?
If you found this on your partner’s phone, would it be a deal breaker for you?
I’m genuinely trying to understand different perspectives before I jump to conclusions. Thanks in advance.
I’d be interested to hear both men’s and women’s perspectives.