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The Buddha says:
“Carrying the burden in this world is stressful; laying the burden down is bliss.”
What is meant by the burden here?
The burden is the thought:
“This is me. This is mine. This must remain. I must get what I want. I must not lose what I love.”
Instead, it is wiser to remind yourself:
“This body is not permanently mine.”
“These feelings will change.”
“These thoughts are not me.”
“I cannot control everything that happens.”
If you become attached to your beauty or strength, aging becomes a threat to you.
If you become attached to a relationship, losing that person becomes a source of fear.
If you become attached to a particular image of yourself, anything that contradicts it becomes painful.

1- The purification and merit of giving are not automatic; they depend on several factors: the giver, the receiver, and the intention and circumstances surrounding the act of giving.
2- Dana becomes purified when it is given with a wholesome mind, honestly obtained, and connected with virtue and confidence in kamma.
3- Purity may arise through the virtue of the giver, the virtue of the receiver, or both.
4- When both giver and receiver are virtuous & the intention is pure, the merit is especially abundant.
5- The highest material offering is one made by and to those free from sensual attachment.
6- Thus, the spiritual value of giving does not depend on the gift itself, but on the purity of all the conditions involved.

~ Whispering Dharma 🌿

Hi, I’m of Muslim background too..
Just curious to see if there are Buddhists in here because you know,, I want to connect with like minded people.. Thank you..

The Illusion of Eternity

Buddhism addresses the idea of eternity by rejecting the notion of anything fixed, permanent, or unchanging within conditioned existence.

Both heaven and Hell are transient states and eventually come to an end.

Since all conditioned existence is impermanent, no state can last forever.

This understanding protects the mind from clinging to beliefs in eternal God, eternal reward or eternal punishment.

The idea of eternity can become a mental refuge that people cling to out of fear of the unknown. But what is this “unknown” that they do not understand? It is the three marks of existence.

Buddhism reveals these three marks of existence and brings a sense of inner clarity and peace to the mind. Also, these marks of existence are not out of the experience.. And, that’s genius!

Not everything we experience is karma

Sometimes, could be just patterns repeating themselves again through life.

In the Abhidhamma, there is a notion of saṅkhāras “mental formations” which we call conditioned tendencies stored within the mind that keep recreating themselves in every situation we find ourselves in.

This intersects very much with modern psychology, namely human behavior based on psychological patterns.

An unwillingness to change these repeating painful patterns can often indicate the inability to notice our own beliefs and perceptions which we carry within.

And the same repetition continues, because you keep repeating the same belief + the same perception + the same behaviour.

Patterns change only when we change the inside, not just the outside.

Examples of recurring patterns:
* Regular breakups or unsuccessful marriages.
* Failing in school repeatedly.
* Unsuccessful in business or projects over time.

In the case of a marriage that did not work out, we may need to probe hidden inner beliefs whether naive, people-pleasing or self-destructive beliefs.

These beliefs, even if you are not consciously aware of them tend to attract the very same kind of toxic relationship, toxic environments and toxic situations..

Thank you.. 🙏

Which one is easier? Being good or being cruel?

I used to think being good was just... the natural thing, you know? Like it'd be the easier route for people. Maybe because I saw life through an idealistic lens back then.
But honestly, life and experience changed that view completely till I come to realize that's pretty much the opposite.

Hurting people? That's the simple part.
All it takes is one moment you're angry, scared, feeling defensive, or just thinking about yourself and boom, you're acting on whatever comes up. No real effort required.

Being good though? That's a whole different beast. It demands you actually pay attention to what you're doing, stay patient even when it sucks, and have the emotional backbone to handle it. You've gotta bite your tongue when snapping at someone would feel so much better, pick kindness when you'd rather be bitter, and tell the truth even when lying would be way more convenient.

So yeah, I'm convinced that real goodness is genuinely hard. It takes actual guts to fight against your own worst impulses instead of just giving in to them. 🌿

Namo Buddhaya 🙏