u/Whole_Listen4134

I really feel guilty even saying this but I really just do NOT like my partners sons. One is 6 and other is 10. Not looking for justifications just advice if anyone has a similar situation. Me and my partner have been together for over 2 years now and I never really had any issue with his kids unless they were staying with us. (I also have a 6 year old daughter). I don’t know if it’s just a behavior thing but they have no respect for boundaries and other people. And I wouldn’t be saying this if I hadn’t noticed behaviors being picked up by family and friends not only mine but my partners friends and family. Examples, when they are out at a guest house whether be family or friends they are invasive and leave messes which I know is fine but even after being told not to they just choose not to listen. Even my partners family have had to correct them. But a bigger issue if my partners reaction to their behavior, instead of correcting he always and I mean always justifies and defends them from me, his own family and friends. They talk back, and throw extreme attitudes when asked to do simple things such as cleaning up after themselves. I mention it to their dad and it feels like he’s instantly attacking me as if im insulting them or him. He also likes to throw petty comments about my daughter being “perfect” but I don’t try to compare at all, my daughter has just been raised with expectations she knows she has to keep. Such as showing respect, not talking back, and cleaning up after herself. All of which she does which doesn’t leave me much room to have to correct her as much as his boys. I work from home so im with them majority of the time while he’s out so it’s getting extremely overwhelming for me. I feel like his sons just walk over me and get away with. I used to like his sons, want to do nice things for them, and actually cared about having a relationship with them but now after the constant disrespect being left unchecked I really just don’t like them and can care less about building a relationship with them and honestly can’t wait for them to go back to their mother of which who has also disrespected me multiple times.

I really feel guilty even saying this but I really just do NOT like my partners sons. One is 6 and other is 10. Not looking for justifications just advice if anyone has a similar situation. Me and my partner have been together for over 2 years now and I never really had any issue with his kids unless they were staying with us. (I also have a 6 year old daughter). I don’t know if it’s just a behavior thing but they have no respect for boundaries and other people. And I wouldn’t be saying this if I hadn’t noticed behaviors being picked up by family and friends not only mine but my partners friends and family. Examples, when they are out at a guest house whether be family or friends they are invasive and leave messes which I know is fine but even after being told not to they just choose not to listen. Even my partners family have had to correct them. But a bigger issue if my partners reaction to their behavior, instead of correcting he always and I mean always justifies and defends them from me, his own family and friends. They talk back, and throw extreme attitudes when asked to do simple things such as cleaning up after themselves. I mention it to their dad and it feels like he’s instantly attacking me as if im insulting them or him. He also likes to throw petty comments about my daughter being “perfect” but I don’t try to compare at all, my daughter has just been raised with expectations she knows she has to keep. Such as showing respect, not talking back, and cleaning up after herself. All of which she does which doesn’t leave me much room to have to correct her as much as his boys. I work from home so im with them majority of the time while he’s out so it’s getting extremely overwhelming for me. I feel like his sons just walk over me and get away with. I used to like his sons, want to do nice things for them, and actually cared about having a relationship with them but now after the constant disrespect being left unchecked I really just don’t like them and can care less about building a relationship with them and honestly can’t wait for them to go back to their mother of which who has also disrespected me multiple times.