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My (32m) wife (31f) is training for a marathon, and it has been taking a toll on her body. She’s doing great but her legs are definitely going through some adjustments.

She has been seeing a massage therapist for four years, a good guy (I see him as well). She has been seeing him on Sundays lately to just focus on her legs and glutes.

I asked her how that’s going and she said it’s great, and it’s kind of funny that they had to talk about “ground rules” for these leg and glute massages. During the first massage he asked her to let him know if he was being “too familiar” or if she was getting uncomfortable, so they just had a discussion about lines and areas where he should stay away from.

I know this is a healthy discussion but she mentioned she’s naked (no underwear) for these treatments. Probably totally normal too, but I find myself having questions now.

Am I just overthinking? Should I let this go or let her know I’d like to be reassured that this guy is truly professional?

My (32m) wife (31f) is training for a marathon, and it has been taking a toll on her body. She’s doing great but her legs are definitely going through some adjustments.

She has been seeing a massage therapist for four years, a good guy (I see him as well). She has been seeing him on Sundays lately to just focus on her legs and glutes.

I asked her how that’s going and she said it’s great, and it’s kind of funny that they had to talk about “ground rules” for these leg and glute massages. During the first massage he asked her to let him know if he was being “too familiar” or if she was getting uncomfortable, so they just had a discussion about lines and areas where he should stay away from.

I know this is a healthy discussion but she mentioned she’s naked (no underwear) for these treatments. Probably totally normal too, but I find myself having questions now.

Am I just overthinking? Should I let this go or let her know I’d like to be reassured that this guy is truly professional?

My (32m) wife (31f) is training for a marathon, and it has been taking a toll on her body. She’s doing great but her legs are definitely going through some adjustments.

She has been seeing a massage therapist for four years, a good guy (I see him as well). She has been seeing him on Sundays lately to just focus on her legs and glutes.

I asked her how that’s going and she said it’s great, and it’s kind of funny that they had to talk about “ground rules” for these leg and glute massages. During the first massage he asked her to let him know if he was being “too familiar” or if she was getting uncomfortable, so they just had a discussion about lines and areas where he should stay away from.

I know this is a healthy discussion but she mentioned she’s naked (no underwear) for these treatments. Probably totally normal too, but I find myself having questions now.

Am I just overthinking? Should I let this go or let her know I’d like to be reassured that this guy is truly professional?

I’ve (32m) developed some unexplainable guilt relating to a female cousin of mine who I was very close to who recently passed away in an accident. There’s the general Survivor’s Guilt, but also some guilt over light experimentation she and I did when we were young that I’ve been thinking about lately. It’s just not resolved and now it never will be.

She is a year younger than me so I’ve been hoping that her experience of the situation was the same as mine, which was the thrill of a scandalous habit of sneaking away in the dark and giving super slow, light fingertip massages on our backs and necks and legs. It had a very intimate feel to it in the sense that it was something we knew we should hide from our parents but it felt good to share it.

I told my wife about this and she reassured me from the female perspective that it was likely thrilling for my cousin just as it was for me, and doesn’t sound like it involved any coercion or anything.

But I’ve been thinking about it. I miss her and still talk to her sometimes and this get stuck in my head. Should I just let it go?

My wife (31f) and I (32m) have been great friends with another couple since college, but something happened last fall that seems to be a problem in our relationship.

The four of us went away for a long weekend and got an Airbnb. While the other wife and I ran to the liquor store, my wife fainted in the shower. The other husband (my good friend) heard the loud thump from the bathroom and went to check on her, and got no response. He went in to the bathroom and found her collapsed in the shower. He picked my wife up and carried her to our bedroom and called 911 and called me.

Thankfully she was fine (she had fainting spells due to a change in medications). I’m very grateful to my friend for being there and stepping in.

His wife, however, isn’t so grateful. She doesn’t love that he physically carried her while she was naked, even though it was an emergency. She’s made comments to him that he could have placed her on the bathroom floor, and even asked me if it’s weird now that he’s seen her naked, and she has been cold lately. (It didn’t help that one point he honestly answered her that yes, he saw her naked, of course.)

My wife and I both think she is being ridiculous but don’t know how to patch over this situation, if we can do anything at all. She’s clearly more jealous than we ever realized.

I want to cut her out of our life over this.

My wife (31f) and I (32m) have been great friends with another couple since college, but something happened last fall that seems to be a problem in our relationship.

The four of us went away for a long weekend and got an Airbnb. While the other wife and I ran to the liquor store, my wife fainted in the shower. The other husband (my good friend) heard the loud thump from the bathroom and went to check on her, and got no response. He went in to the bathroom and found her collapsed in the shower. He picked my wife up and carried her to our bedroom and called 911 and called me.

Thankfully she was fine (she had fainting spells due to a change in medications). I’m very grateful to my friend for being there and stepping in.

His wife, however, isn’t so grateful. She doesn’t love that he physically carried her while she was naked, even though it was an emergency. She’s made comments to him that he could have placed her on the bathroom floor, and even asked me if it’s weird now that he’s seen her naked, and she has been cold lately. (It didn’t help that one point he honestly answered her that yes, he saw her naked, of course.)

My wife and I both think she is being ridiculous but don’t know how to patch over this situation, if we can do anything at all. She’s clearly more jealous than we ever realized.

My wife (31f) and I (32m) have been great friends with another couple since college, but something happened last fall that seems to be a problem in our relationship.

The four of us went away for a long weekend and got an Airbnb. While the other wife and I ran to the liquor store, my wife fainted in the shower. The other husband (my good friend) heard the loud thump from the bathroom and went to check on her, and got no response. He went in to the bathroom and found her collapsed in the shower. He picked my wife up and carried her to our bedroom and called 911 and called me.

Thankfully she was fine (she had fainting spells due to a change in medications). I’m very grateful to my friend for being there and stepping in.

His wife, however, isn’t so grateful. She doesn’t love that he physically carried her while she was naked, even though it was an emergency. She’s made comments to him that he could have placed her on the bathroom floor, and even asked me if it’s weird now that he’s seen her naked, and she has been cold lately. (It didn’t help that one point he honestly answered her that yes, he saw her naked, of course.)

My wife and I both think she is being ridiculous but don’t know how to patch over this situation, if we can do anything at all. She’s clearly more jealous than we ever realized.