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Someone asked how I resisted porn while reaching my 30th anniversary.

It never really appealed to me.  During my late teens and early 20s porn was in magazines, and on videos.  I watched parts of a few and was completely turned off.  I would literally leave or say I had an early morning.  My definition of porn is, is anything that shows sex or is sexually exploitative.    If I am not involved I have 0 interest.  Some links have pulled me into porn sites, and I just close the browser.  It is also my understanding many woman in porn are abused, and I have 0 tolerance, aiding or supporting abusive practices. I do notice beautiful woman, only a moment, then I get back to the matter at hand. 

I do like classic, tasteful, nudes of men and women in art.   It is Gods creation and beautiful.  IMHO Venus di Milo & statue David are works of art.

If you consume porn, you can stop.  If you stop, and relapse, you can start again.  Digital is addictive, cheap, and easy to access.  However, Christ does give us the spirit that can drive change.  Sexual desire is natural, in a Godly context it is a blessing.

30 years of marriage has created many memories, is rich gratitude, and full hope for things to come. It also started with idealized intentions.    

Then there is a learning curve, at times, Tsunami.  We went to Family Life conference on marriage a couple of times and learned a great deal.  Life then happens; post stroke support of father-in-law, post fall support of mother-in-law, beautiful son who is on the autictic spectrum.  My parents selfishness, fathers Parkinsons, mothers meltdowns over trials.  Mix in my job changes.  Two careers, raising two children, and running a home.

My wife’s parents trials showed & taught me faith and selfless love.  My wife’s parents were always patient and accepting of there trials, and my own hang-ups.  Our son graduated college and is now a teacher.  He has a heart for God, and teaches every student with care and tenderness.  Our daughter took a bit longer, but has always worked, and stayed out of trouble.  My wife helps me; unlearn my parents bad habits, without anger, while retaining love.  We always loved our simple vacations because the focus was spending time together; at farms, historical sights, beaches, and family friendly attractions.  We also made and enjoyed time; church sporting events, volunteering, swim club, and day trips.

We had things in common and interests that bound us together.  We look forward to winding down at the end of the day.  We are also winding down our careers, and both planning second acts.  I learned to show appreciation for the little things.  We developed our own; gentle touches, back-rubs, and intimacy.  She encouraged my humility, patience, and proper zeal. 

A good Christian marraige is a journey is best done with; husband, wife, and holy spirit.

All is well that ends well is a wonderful play on class status vs true nobility.  This comedy was more eye opening, less funny.  We see early on Bartrum is born of a higher class, but lacks true nobility, common sense, or wisdom.  King even mentions the value of character  early on.  Bartrum spurns Helena who earned choice of husband by saving the King.  Bartram is taken in by Parolles’s  lies and exaggeration; showing poor discernment and great immaturity.  Helina shows intelligence, wisdom, patience, and honor from the start.  She cures the King, creates smart plans, and takes prudent  risks.  She respects her relationship with the king, and the debt he owes, without taking advantage or squandering it.  She navigates the culture she is born into, not fighting, running, or collapsing because it is not fair.  Saving the king, choosing Bartrum, traveling to Italy, planning the bed trick, and returning to court all required great patience. 

Clown was more ironic, than comedic.  Mabey the Comedy is how Bartrum obviously did not deserve Helina and how blind he was to her true worth.

Ok I will say it... We need a sequel ! --> "After the Line" set in mid 90s ?

The original was so well structured, written, & performed.

What happended to Zach, Larry, Cassie, Shelia, etc...........

It is possible

Bowlby talks about attachment theory. Child bonding to +++ Mom, and Dad, will affect our life's conditioning for anxiety, intimacy, and trust. If the parents are fearful, or absent in some capacity, it will manifest with the children.

This is not AN END just a burden we must bare and consider as we navigate life.

A $10,000 investment in I-Bonds and Vanguard’s money market fund now produces surprisingly similar results over two years for New Jersey investors.

I-Bonds offer inflation protection and federal tax deferral, while Vanguard’s money market fund provides liquidity and competitive yields near 3.5%. After taxes and I-Bond penalties are considered, the difference may only be a few dollars, $50 +/-. Investors expecting higher inflation may prefer I-Bonds, while those wanting flexibility and easier access to cash may favor the money market fund.

When does it make sense to lock-in iBonds

Good things do not have to be expensive to be fun or realize value. What have you found.

Does anyone have a recommendation for a neurologist who is good with essential tremor