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A dear friend asked if I could share a playlist with her because she needed to "lock in". For concentration. She's an artist.

And I sent her my Lo-fi playlist. About 8 hours of calm music.

Apart from lo-fi, I find that classical music (not the happy stuff from Handel, Mozart, and Vivaldi, please) helps my nervous system. Debussy, Ravel, Satie... sometimes Rachmaninoff.

What music works best for you?

 You know that feeling when you’re hanging out with a group of people, or you finally took the advice, and “put yourself out there”, only to feel alone?

Even though you’re with people and you’re laughing, talking, and enjoying yourself. The connection feels shallow; like you’re going through the motions.

So, even in that crowd, you’re feeling lonely. Not because anyone was being mean (or maybe they were). But somehow nothing there is “clicking”, resonating with you.

In the case of loneliness, there’s a lack of connection. But this feels different. The connection is there.

And I've been researching this idea and even submitted a proposed new word to describe it:

Bathyalgia (bath-ee-AL-jee-ah).

From the Greek bathys (depth) and algos (pain).

Not as a diagnosis. Just as a possible name for an experience many of us seem to recognize.

I'd define it as:

The quiet ache you feel when people are present, but genuine resonance is not.

The more I think about it, the more I wonder whether we spend too much time trying to find more people, when what we're really longing for is a conversation that makes us feel genuinely seen.

Oddly, the thing that's helped me most isn't endlessly searching for "my tribe."

It's accepting that no one person will ever fully inhabit my inner world. That realization didn't make me feel more isolated. It made the rare moments of genuine connection feel even more meaningful.

I'm curious whether anyone else has experienced this.

Have you ever felt deeply disconnected while surrounded by people you genuinely liked?

If so, what do you think was actually missing?

 

 You know that feeling when you’re hanging out with a group of people, or you finally took the advice, and “put yourself out there”, only to feel alone?

Even though you’re with people and you’re laughing, talking, and enjoying yourself. The connection feels shallow; like you’re going through the motions.

So, even in that crowd, you’re feeling lonely. Not because anyone was being mean (or maybe they were). But somehow nothing there is “clicking”, resonating with you.

In the case of loneliness, there’s a lack of connection. But this feels different. The connection is there.

And I've been researching this idea and even submitted a proposed new word to describe it:

Bathyalgia (bath-ee-AL-jee-ah).

From the Greek bathys (depth) and algos (pain).

Not as a diagnosis. Just as a possible name for an experience many of us seem to recognize.

I'd define it as:

The quiet ache you feel when people are present, but genuine resonance is not.

The more I think about it, the more I wonder whether we spend too much time trying to find more people, when what we're really longing for is a conversation that makes us feel genuinely seen.

Oddly, the thing that's helped me most isn't endlessly searching for "my tribe."

It's accepting that no one person will ever fully inhabit my inner world. That realization didn't make me feel more isolated. It made the rare moments of genuine connection feel even more meaningful.

I'm curious whether anyone else has experienced this.

Have you ever felt deeply disconnected while surrounded by people you genuinely liked?

If so, what do you think was actually missing?

 

Genuinely asking this because I read a couple of replies on a post that we're not really helpful. But one stood out for me, They said something along the lines of understanding your business.

The world is now digital. Some services don't need you to have a physical space for you to render them.

Personally, I'm the co-founder at Callin, where we offer the third option, somewhere between therapy and friends. How do we get more people to know about what we do? Apart from the regular IG, Tiktok, and maybe twitter? The company is digital. Services are offered online.

All opinions are welcome. I'm open to learning. Gracias!!!