u/WillingnessExtra6683

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Hey everyone,

I am a senior data engineer/software engineer at a pretty famous company. I moved to Finland recently and have been back home doing regular talks and seminars to help students struggling in direction in getting jobs in my field (even connect with some promising prospects to push for referral at my workplace). I wanted to know are there some societies or events that I can be in touch with to plan something hing of the likes?

Hey guys,

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I have a history of mental illnesses and I had worked and almost gotten rid of most of them but it seems life has become a tad bit too difficult that it seems I have regressed and I'm scared as I almost tried killing myself in the past week. I am scared and am looking to get help regarding this I sadly am a bit dumb in understanding all these options when searching online can someone help me with a little bit of advice or maybe you know a support group I could join or where I can go for some help.

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I am also worried about it being too expensive for me to afford idk how it works here since I've only been in Finland for almost an year.

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TIA

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Like the title says just don't want to go to the festival alone would be nice to have some people to accompany. I am 26 Male if that matters I was originally volunteering but had to give up my spot. Now I just want to enjoy the festival.

Hit me up if anyone is going and don't mind a tag along I bring humor and candies heheheheh.

Hey 26 M here originally from Pakistan now in Finland working love to party don't drink or smoke but don't mind going to bars. Love love love karaoke and raves and dj as well as just walking in nature. A bit of a yapper tbh but I always try to be super respectful and accepting. I am down for literally anything since I love trying everything. Especially if it's going to museum or a new hobby or even just a swim.

So my DM are open feel free to ask anything and let's make some friends and memories heheheh.

Kiitos!

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Ps. Adding that I mentioned substance abuse but she is not a junkie or an addict she overdosed once during the time which we also first met and she has been clean for a few months

So me M26 my recent GF F23 have been together for a few months. We met in odd cir instances and probably mostly fate that we ended up meeting at that exact moment but it was beautiful and lovely and I have been so happy with her. However she was struggling with substance abuse and depression. I have been through the same as her so we connected on how I was able to help her in small things we used to meet everyday I'm new to the country so she showed me the ropes and we started opening up more to each other. She started sharing with me and getting comfortable. Well long story short happy times but one day I was extremely sad and I went over to her place and we cuddled and slept and I felt good. Before the next part some prior context would be required so my GF struggles with too much sleep she always ends up sleeping for 15 hours everyday because her mental illnesses end up draining her energy from her and she has been doing so well extremely well to force herself and get up.

So that day it was sometime around 5 and I was hungry and I knew she hadn't eaten all day so I asked her what to eat. (She usually avoids eating or doesn't eat enough so I say I'm hungry and she would be happy eating with me) So she told me this pizza place to order form and then we got back to cuddling. Now she mentioned she should take a shower but she doesn't have the energy too. Normally she does this and I motivate her to go shower. And sort of like a comedic interaction so I didn't really notice anything different and I was like don't be lazy let's go shower together (this motivated her a bit to get up) before food arrives.and then she just shut down she literally went completely quiet and only staring at me the whole time and I'm asking taking to her what happened but to my confusion she stayed like the whole time food came got cold but we didn't eat. We spent 3 hours like that and I was starting to panic cause I had no clue what was wrong. Around 4 hours in I had to leave and she still wasn't answering so I thought I should give her some space and left with food kept Incase she got up to eat. The whole time (I have this thing that if someone I love isn't okay I have this constant lump in my throat and pain in my heart to know they are okay) around 12 midnight she messages me that she is extremely sad cause I hurt her feelings.

The moment I read that I instantly froze and asked what now she doesn't talk much on text so I instantly booked a cab and went over to her place and when I arrived literally a minute ago she had messaged me so I tell her to open the door for me and she replied but then disappeared nothing. For about an hour I stood in the cold freezing panicking crying cause she had left her phone open so my messages were being seen but no response (oh and her phone is on silent so no notification sound). Me going through a literal panic attack hyperventilating freezing an hour later she finally opens the door. Turns out she fell asleep (I can't blame her for this cause I know it's something she isn't consciously doing). She didn't even say a thing about me going through everything outside her home that moment but I ignored that it didn't matter at that moment. But then I went to her tried to talk apologize for whatever the fuck I did but she barely spoke only in bits and pieces never a straight answer.

After 3 hours of this I had to go home cause I had work in the morning and I realized this conversation was not happening. Then morning came I'm getting ready to work and she messages me I have broken her trust all her showing me her weak side and everything got broken why cause I joked and called her lazy. She felt I viewed her as lazy and that everything she has worked on so far has been disregarded and that I could never be trusted by her to let herself be vulnerable with me. I tried to reason with her about how that's not true I gave her examples of when she did even the smallest of effort and I always acknowledged her effort and motivated her to do more I would never disregard her efforts. I have never thought of her as lazy but she for some reason just cannot trust me or believe me now. She said she forgave me but can't trust me and has asked me to stop meeting and talking. To her at all for a while. And quite Coldly at that. Now I don't know what to do what to feel am I wrong am I an asshole do I deserve to feel this pain and loneliness for making a harmless statement. I totally understand if it was a trigger and I get that but should I not at least get yeh benefit of the doubt that I have spent every day in our relationship just being there for her in her ups and downs. No matter what putting her before me everytime. I just don't know I'm breaking up inside and the one person that I could talk to has cut me off.

Maybe I'm just listing this as a vent or idk but we'll yeah sorry for the long post

Hey there,

I am a little new to the city, but not that new I'm looking to volunteer to meet some Finn's and maybe make new friends. I have met a few and y'all are a super lovely bunch but sadly since the people I met are way above my age bracket I don't exactly match the vibe. I heard volunteering is a good way to be social and also meet people near my age group since I have experience volunteering as well as would like to help the community or just meet new faces can anyone point me in the right direction?

I did look into volunteering for the Helsinki city festival but I couldn't understand anything XD. It was asking some club I'd and business details which made me believe that individual volunteers might not be allowed idk if that's the case or not.

I would also be happy to join a group of people planning to volunteer if they don't mind a new guy with them :3.

Thank you in advance for the guidance and have a great day.

Kiito!