u/Winter-Knowledge7801

I have a so called husband, who was all great before the baby came into our lives. He treated me with more respect than he does now. When I was one month postpartum, he left to a different city - 10 hours away - for work. I was alone with two dogs and a baby for one month and a half. We constantly fought, and he ended up telling me I’m crazy and the way I’m talking to him was making it look like I’ve been using drugs.

To this day, he undermines me, calling me a bad mother. When he’s home, he is always on his phone watching things rather than being with his daughter. I cook, clean, do the dishes, laundry, take my dogs out, feed our daughter, play with her, etc. the only thing I don’t do is make breakfast for him and he’s upset about that. If I make him food when he is mad, he doesn’t eat it. When I stop making it, he says that I don’t do anything. I can never win. He says that I’m a bad wife and that I don’t do anything around the house. He calls me “mother of the year.” He also always stops talking to me or becomes very rude and hostile when I give him “sass” or “attitude” or if I don’t listen to him.

Recently, for almost one week, he hasn’t talked to me, he would go to another room and close the door on my daughter and me. The only thing he does is during the weekend, he feeds our daughter when she wakes up early in the morning so I can get sleep. I’m heavily sleep deprived and at the end of the day, he asks me how am l tired when I’m at home all day just attending to our daughter, while he works in construction and deals with a lot.

Oh and to add more to the plate, yesterday, he left to the same city again and hasn’t messaged me or even called to check in on his daughter. I dont know what to do anymore. Today, my daughter fell asleep at 9 pm and woke up right when I put her in her own crib. She did not fall asleep until 11:30. I kept yelling at her to go to bed and I feel so guilty. I feel so bad because she doesn’t know what’s going on. She just wants to be with me because it’s all she has. I feel like a bad mother.

I really don’t know what to do in this situation. I have no one in my life. How do I navigate this?

I have a so called husband, who was all great before the baby came into our lives. He treated me with more respect than he does now. When I was one month postpartum, he left to a different city - 7 hours away - for work. I was alone with two dogs and a baby for one month and a half. We constantly fought, and he ended up telling me I’m crazy and the way I’m talking to him was making it look like I’ve been using drugs.

To this day, he undermines me, calling me a bad mother. When he’s home, he is always on his phone watching things rather than being with his daughter. I cook, clean, do the dishes, laundry, take my dogs out, feed our daughter, play with her, etc. the only thing I don’t do is make breakfast for him and he’s upset about that. If I make him food when he is mad, he doesn’t eat it. When I stop making it, he says that I don’t do anything. I can never win. He says that I’m a bad wife and that I don’t do anything around the house. He calls me “mother of the year.” He also always stops talking to me or becomes very rude and hostile when I give him “sass” or “attitude” or if I don’t listen to him.

Recently, for almost one week, he hasn’t talked to me, he would go to another room and close the door on my daughter and me. The only thing he does is during the weekend, he feeds our daughter when she wakes up early in the morning so I can get sleep. I’m heavily sleep deprived and at the end of the day, he asks me how am l tired when I’m at home all day just attending to our daughter, while he works in construction and deals with a lot.

Oh and to add more to the plate, yesterday, he left to the same city again and hasn’t messaged me or even called to check in on his daughter. I dont know what to do anymore. Today, my daughter fell asleep at 9 pm and woke up right when I put her in her own crib. She did not fall asleep until 11:30. I kept yelling at her to go to bed and I feel so guilty. I feel so bad because she doesn’t know what’s going on. She just wants to be with me because it’s all she has. I feel like a bad mother.

I’m wondering if anyone has any advice as to what to do.

I have a so called husband, who was all great before the baby came into our lives. He treated me with more respect than he does now. When I was one month postpartum, he left to a different city - 10 hours away - for work. I was alone with two dogs and a baby for one month and a half. We constantly fought, and he ended up telling me I’m crazy and the way I’m talking to him was making it look like I’ve been using drugs.

To this day, he undermines me, calling me a bad mother. When he’s home, he is always on his phone watching things rather than being with his daughter. I cook, clean, do the dishes, laundry, take my dogs out, feed our daughter, play with her, etc. the only thing I don’t do is make breakfast for him and he’s upset about that. If I make him food when he is mad, he doesn’t eat it. When I stop making it, he says that I don’t do anything. I can never win. He says that I’m a bad wife and that I don’t do anything around the house. He calls me “mother of the year.” He also always stops talking to me or becomes very rude and hostile when I give him “sass” or “attitude” or if I don’t listen to him.

Recently, for almost one week, he hasn’t talked to me, he would go to another room and close the door on my daughter and me. The only thing he does is during the weekend, he feeds our daughter when she wakes up early in the morning so I can get sleep. I’m heavily sleep deprived and at the end of the day, he asks me how am l tired when I’m at home all day just attending to our daughter, while he works in construction and deals with a lot.

Oh and to add more to the plate, yesterday, he left to the same city again and hasn’t messaged me or even called to check in on his daughter. I dont know what to do anymore. Today, my daughter fell asleep at 9 pm and woke up right when I put her in her own crib. She did not fall asleep until 11:30. I kept yelling at her to go to bed and I feel so guilty. I feel so bad because she doesn’t know what’s going on. She just wants to be with me because it’s all she has. I feel like a bad mother.

I’m wondering if anyone has any advice as to what to do.