How to deal with flying monkeys?
I've had around 12-15 acquaintances hover over my life in the past couple of years. In the last month, someone showed up at home unannounced. Based on some info I let on, someone else was sent to the games I had taken to attending. That one has befriended my brand new friends. Basically, they are absolutely Clawing their way into my life.
I've just survived a life threatening condition and could be stronger. It is hateful that they are using me as a topic of gossip rather than meaningfully seeking to be a part of my life. They intrude in my life, collect info about me and just disappear for months and I am left wondering, hey I thought they wanted to be friends? I'm left alone instead, and I feel so isolated and bad about myself. And I am So Angry. Blocking online wasn't enough now when I am rebuilding my life away from the narc he is using everyone I have ever known to get info about me. Worse, he is shaping the narrative about me in my entire circle. I Hate it so much. If I snap everyone will go, yeah, that guy was right, she is unstable and blah blah... How the hell do I deal with this?