u/XOXO_Gossipgirl06

So Basically I've been in relationship with this guy for almost 4 years now . He is amazing. After a lot of seruppadis enaku god aah pathu polachu po nu he gave me this dude , he's such a pookie . But ipo I'm of marital age according to the society and random aah epoyachu dad will mention bout marriage, he also told me today he'll get me married within a year nu elam .

Inga dha problem starts .

En aalu romba nallavanga . Naney lighta veetla hint kuduthuten about my bf , and my dad went around and asked bout him to his colleagues and juniors anol. Elarume romba nalla payan nu dha solirukaanga ( nenaikuren 😭 hopefully) . But not even once did my dad come and ask me regarding this .

Past la en ex vishayathula kuda appa visarichutu semma sanda aagiruchu, I also just entered college and and was just one kozhandha ( mentally ) . So amma appa both erupted and dad got really mad at me cuz college fees elam is knjm high dha irundhalum unna nambi I've invested, ne padikaama idhellam panitu iruka nu kadupu aagitaru + he said 25 years la idhellam panna age appropriate nu he says . Apo romba sanda aagiruchu and it took knjm years for us to get back into normalcy , so ennaya pathi terinjuruchu ok iva love pani dha marriage panuva pola nu .

Na internship panitu iruka apo dad was dropping hints indirectly through my uncle and aunt regarding marriage anol , like if I'm up for it and if I'll be down to marry a guy of their choice , to which I strongly said that I'll marry my bf nu dha . And so , apo lerndhu dad knows I'm with this guy nu .

Fast forward now -

He again started seeing grooms for me a few months ago to which I was like ennala mudiyadhu pa don't see for me nu . And then he stopped ( he knows I got a bf , still paaka start panirukaaru 😭 ) I've never directly had a conversation with my dad regarding my bf . He got to know through my uncle .

I got my bro who is next level -

He is in relationship w this girl who is like of a different religion & caste ( sooo pirpokku , still I gotta say for context ) and my dad is like very against her anol , like continuously he keeps asking if my brother has left her or not nu elam , but he's been pretty strong . Appa kekura apo laam ok ok nu solitu he's still w that girl dha . Appa keta varikum ppl are not saying positive things bout her , so his relationship ennaya vida knjm mosama dha Iruku in front of my dad's eyes .

I got an exam to prepare , in 3 months andha exam vandrum and I gotta get a good score ( aana I don't think I'll get ). But dad is like ipove start working and side by side ne padi , apo dha independent aaga mudiyum anol nu .

He also added " I'm gonna get u and your brother married within a year , ennala ungala vachitu mudiyala " apdinu . We ain't doing anything to cause him ivlo distress at all. Naanga paatiku enga velaya pakurom ( My brother is kinda not so responsible nu vachikonga compared to me according to my dad cuz that's what he says )

So my dad also said stuff like " un thambi ku nalla ponna nalla family aah pathu I am gonna get him married" nu. I said apdi elam ipo velaiku aagadhu pa divorce aagirum , but he's like illa Na apdi vida maaten nu soo sure bout it .

Enaku ena kavalai na , ennoda relationship um ipdi fuckup paniruvaara ? Cuz I'm strong about my decision. But edho oru corner of my heart I'm like why would they just not agree already to my relationship nu.

Knjm romba tension aagitu iruken struggle romba pannanumo nu ( I will but first I'll worry about it )

Me and my bf are of same religion but different caste , adhuvum enga appa ku problem 😭

But he used to say things like " Ne college poie love panna ok " when I was in 10th standard and also told stuff like " I helped my bestfriends get married " nu anol .

My dad is rombave judgemental+ my mom is complete psycho bout love marriage, like she'll get really mad if I even use the word " love " casually in a sentence 😭

I'm in a f'ed up situation.

Do u think my dad will agree to my love ? 😭🥹

So y'all randomly get period cramps at 3am in the morning to an extent nothing works and you're expected to be at work @8am tomorrow morning so you gotta be up at 6am ish and you'll prolly get 2 hours of sleep + acidity from lack of sleep 🥲

How do y'all manage ?

Random ah ppl will come ask for my opinion on stuff ( not that I'm an expert or wtv) .

Over ah care panra nanum seri nu adha pathi research pani , en knowledge develop panitu vandhu fulla idhu ipdi , idhu apdi , this is how u should go about it , idhu pannu pannadha nu oru vishayam sonna , Adhuku elam ok ok nu solitu they do exactly the opposite. Worse part - ghost paniruvaainga . Na ukkandhu idhukunu night 12 , 1 am varikum solution solitu irupen . Aprm yen da advise ketu varinga 🙂

How to be nonchalant and move on and not ask them updates regarding their issue for which they approach us ? How to not gaf 🙂 Also am I the only one like this ?

Im in a healthy relationship with my partner 26 (M) and I'm 23 (F)

He's started to work this year and he's doing well and I'm also in a good position.

But we have always been in LDR.

IPO adhu inum LDR aagiruchu, he is 200km away from me, Munadi it used to be some 40km away kinda LDR.

As soon as he started working, he used to call me during lunch break and talk to me on call and gimme updates bout his day at work, then he gets back home and I call him.

He has day + night shifts, but evlo tired aah irundhalum he used to gimme a call during lunch cuz I overthink a lot wrt if he's had lunch or not and if he's doing ok nu.

These days he calls me and says he will call me after work nu, which is bothersome. As a person who overthinks a lot and is eagerly waiting for his call, enaku knjm lighta kadupa iruku. Even if I'm surrounded by ppl, I feel empty in my own house, veetla yarum perusa pesika maatom, so the only person I talk to is him.

Lunch time calls used to be our thing, and ipo Ennada na he's like I'm tired, I'll come home and call, I was working last night adhunaala I'm tired, phone pudichutu sapda mudila anol which is understandable. But starting la he used to call inspite of all this too ..

Enaku epdi feel panna nu terila. But he's a nice guy dhaan.

Thoughts?

Update : Iniku evening after he gets back from work , idha pathi pesalam nu iruken , usually ivlo overthink panna maten , aana iniku pms ah ena terila . So I'll let y'all know how it goes

I am a post intern . I wanted to take off any pg seat and literally just surpass this prep phase asap . I was even ready to take a non clinical branch cuz I honestly thought pathology was a good branch + clinical departments are stressful ( pathology in some colleges are equally stressful ik , still based on my previous neet pg rank , I thought this would be decent )

My parents wanted me to repeat another year and prepare so that I figure out what I want since they thought non clinical branch = jobless .

I'm studying the subjects in depth and when I move to the next subject , I forget everything. I'm not that great when it came to solving questions cuz I will ALWAYS HAVE FOMO OF NOT BEING ABLE TO FINISH MY SOURCE 100% .

I keep changing my source from marrow to btr to dams to prep ( for every subject I have one source 😭)

I have very recently started solving questions and I've sat with biochem for over 2 weeks now . I initially started watching videos of prep and now cuz of FOMO, I'm doing CORE BTR videos and solving the custom module questions and pyqs . And it feels never ending.

I don't think I'll be able to make it at this pace .

Even if I get a 50K rank it would be enough ig . But I honestly dunno any strategy and how to overcome my FOMO of not being able to do it 100% .

Please drop anything useful for me to help speed up my preparation and how to push more than 6 hours per day .

I really don't wanna sit for another year cuz MBBS is not something I wanted to do as a career in my life but still , here I am , in the middle of the sea 🥲

Are the coming days enough for me to do it ?