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I want to preface this by saying I have a child who is ADHD as well. I worked with her constantly and consistently to get through high school, like it was my job, finding strategies that worked for her, sometimes way outside the box, and never yelled or belittled her.

My nephew is 13, he has ADHD, and he's one of the sweetest kids you'll ever meet. Ridiculously kind to those smaller than him, always wanting to help people.

He struggles some in school. He's doing okay, but traditional school isn't designed for kids with ADHD, and he's getting a D in one of his classes, despite what he feels is his best effort. He also struggles with impulse control, and will do things like be on his phone when he's not supposed to be. Typical, minor league kid shit.

My sister (and my brother-in-law) is *constantly* yelling at him. We live nextdoor to each other, and my sister walked over while he was here the other day just to yell at him about a grade he got on an assignment. You would think this kid was an asshole, constantly tearing up the house and being consistently defiant. He's held to much higher standards than his 16 year old sister (who doesn't have ADHD and is a sports star).

Amongst other things, He tells me he's trying his hardest and his mom tells him, "No, you're not." He tells me he'd like to do *generic activity* with his parents, but they're always so busy at his sister's activities (100% true). This sweet little boy feels like he will never be good enough for his parents and it breaks my heart.

My mom has tried talking to her about it, but I know my mom's methods aren't always the best, and they just had a HUGE blow up about it. I've always been afraid to bring it up with my sister, because I worry that if I upset her, she won't send him over for homework help and I'll generally lose time with him. And I feel like him having our house as a safe space is so important. But I also am reaching the point where silence feels complicit.

Is there any way I can help her see the damage she's doing without alienating her?

Obviously, I don't know that that's true, but I've listened to two ST audiobooks lately where he repeatedly mispronounces the names of reoccurring TNG characters, and it's driving me nuts, lol. I've heard he also weirdly mispronounces Betazed in another recording. I blame whomever oversees those sessions. I find it quite jarring.

I've received several phone calls over the recent years looking for my ex, saying that he's owed money. I looked it up on a government website, and sure enough, Wells Fargo owes him more than $90,000. But I can't get in touch with him to let him know; he's blocked me.

Background: My ex-husband and I divorced over 20 years ago. I thought it was totally amicable: he broke with me and we remained good friends until I started dating someone else seriously. Shortly after, my ex moved to Germany and when I reached out to see how he was doing, he asked me not to contact him again. I literally have no idea why, but I respected his wishes. He also went no contact with his family. Which his dad may have deserved, but his younger sisters sure didn't.

This is a potentially life-changing amount of money. I hold no ill will towards my ex, and I hope he's doing well. This is his money and he should have it, but nobody in his family nor any of our formerly mutual friends know how to get in touch with him. I did try to contact him on a site he couldn't have possibly blocked me on yet, but I don't know if he ever received that message, or would believe it if he did. And if he doesn't want the money, I bet his nieces and nephews would sure appreciate it.

I just finished reading the book, so I thought I would give the show a try. I'm pausing at the first sex scene because I am so disappointed. Hopefully things pick up, but the actors currently have no chemistry, and this scene is playing like they are two bored guys deciding to do this because there's nothing good on TV. I see no passion, no trepidation, no c​ontention.​ There should be growling and grabbing and *fire!* This is barely tepid; no one looks like they're particularly enjoying themselves. I'm hoping things heat up, but I currently don't believe these characters have any real lust for each other.

I work after school care at an elementary, with a second grade class. I have a student, who is largely otherwise typically developmentally functioning, who experiences chronic enuresis and encopresis, up to 3-4 times a day. Him and I have a plan wherein I remind him to use the bathroom every half hour, and we have a lot of success with that.

Today, he came to program already smelling of feces. I reminded him to go to the bathroom, anticipating he'd change his clothes. He came back in the same clothes, smelling only moderately better. I asked him if he had a change of clothes, and he said he didn't (I found out later he was lying; he had hid his extra clothes in his lunchbox, probably because he was embarrassed to change in the bathroom because there were other students in there). His mom was notified.

A short time later, I noticed something suspicious on the floor. I grabbed a paper towel to clean it up. Yup, sure enough, it was poop. 🤮 And it had been stepped on and squished on to the floor (linoleum, thank goodness).

Mom was angry she had to leave work early an hour early to come get her poor, poop-covered child. I'm angry I had to clean up his shit, and that they're medically neglecting this poor kid.

I visit Vegas 4-6 times a year. The glorious fever dream that is the Lake of Dreams show is always a priority. I always thought it was a seasonal show, changing like the Bellagio, so we only go once per trip. My mind was blown this evening to learn that it rotated every half hour. How did I not know that? How have I *never* seen the same show twice?!

What else don't I know? Share your Vegas secrets and factiods!