u/ZealousidealDiver444

I think I’m writing this out of frustration.
F24
Yesterday, I deleted my Bumble account after being on it for two weeks.
It’s not my first time using the app, and it’s definitely not the first time I’ve ended up deleting it. I’ve been on and off Bumble, always hoping I’ll find someone decent—someone I’m physically attracted to, who shares my values, mindset, and, most importantly, my intellectual level. But I guess it’s not that deep on there.
It’s become a loop: I create an account, get multiple matches, talk to a few people, get hit with reality, lower my expectations a little, get frustrated after a while, and then delete the app.
I’ve met a few people, but it’s either a one-date kind of thing because I realize during the date that I’m never going to see them again, or we end up seeing each other a few times without ever putting a label on it.
Everyone seems to be there for the ego boost, collecting Instagram followers, or looking for something short-term while expecting all the privileges of a serious relationship—t9oul offre premium lol. No one can hold a solid conversation for more than two messages.
Meeting someone in real life isn’t exactly realistic either. At least not for me. I work eight hours a day, and I don’t really have the time or the environment to meet new people organically.
I guess the dating scene is fucked, and Reddit made me realize it’s a common problem.

F24
I’m not looking for advice, just sharing a story because Reddit is the only app that still works during jort el bac.
Last Sunday, I created a Bumble account. Honestly, I was bored and had no plans for the weekend. Plus, it’s almost impossible to meet someone IRL when you work from 8 to 5.
I don’t use the app that much. I just swipe whenever I have some free time and remember it exists on my phone. I’m very picky, and it’s pretty rare that I come across a profile I actually like, which is understandable considering the quality of people out there.
When I match with someone I’m expecting to have a nice convo like two adults if it is not the case I’ll just unmatch
During the week, I matched with this guy (M26). At first, he was talkative, respectful, and decent-looking. We chatted for a bit, then all of a sudden he started making completely random comments that had nothing to do with our conversation.
“I’m racist haha.”
Next message: “I’m misogynistic.”
“I hate X type of people.”
Etc.
I honestly didn’t reply until he finished this weird loop of comments (around 10 messages like that). Then I simply said:
*“*Well, I’m none of those things, so I don’t think I’m interested in continuing this conversation.”
He replied:
*“*I was testing your limits and pushing you, and you snapped.”
So I answered:
“Yeah… m79nich.”
Honestly, I don’t care what people on that app think. As long as I’m not going on a date with you, I’m not there to debate or change your mind. I just didn’t feel like entertaining that conversation.
But here’s la cerise sur le gâteau, kifma i9oulou.
He suddenly said:
*“*I’m bipolar. That’s just how my mind works…”
Then he went on about how we’re actually more alike than I think, and kept saying random stuff. The guy was spiraling at that point. I just unmatched him and moved on with my day.
I think this has been one of the weirdest interactions I’ve had so far. I was genuinely confused.
People on Bumble are either:
way too liberal and completely ungrounded (shallow in some ways),
conservatives trying to get girls, so they pretend they’re not,
or people going through an existential crisis while trying to get over a past relationship.
En tout cas, I’m not hating. When you sign up for something like Bumble, you accept both the good and the bad.
Bonne journée les ami.e.s.

Morning
I got a new job interview today I want badly quit my current one
I submit in this company in January but got a rejection mail I found out a month ago they opened new position I applied again since I have more experience now I got accepted to to do face to face interview after doing five tests online all is good till now
Here is the problem the interview was supposed to be the previous Monday but it got rescheduled I got their mail Monday morning (I find it very unprofessional to be informed the same day but anyways I need the job ) so I’ve sent them a mail confirmation that I’m available to reschedule the mail was generated with chat and I was in hurry cause I was working so I forgot the modify it and add my name it was signed « X (your last name) »
I didn’t notice it at first than I was mortified I sent another mail apologizing for the oversight and telling them my full name
I know it looks bad I’m so embarrassed but how can I fix this in the interview today I’m going either ways but do I still have a chance ?

So currently working in this corporate job in my field it’s been 3 months mission donc limited ki toufa youfa m3ha l contrat (li I didn’t sign yet )w l5dma started to get slow I don’t know if that’s a sign Li we are near the end or not
I’ve been contacted by my old job to get back with them the working environment is way better so is les tâches du travail tho still j’ai pas encore négociée côté salaire I’ve just informed them Li I’m open to the idea but I have a mission I need to finish first
I’m thinking about reaching out again e5e5 jm3a hethi to negotiate and if we reached an agreement start again fi juin
I think it is a win win situation either ways specially Li I’m getting frustrated with my current job and it is over draining
My dilemma is this how do I inform my current job Li I’m quitting tbh it’s the first time Li I’m gonna quite nstna youfa el chèhr wlè I give them a notice Ii this is gonna be my last month m3hom

24 F
I’m sharing this thought no specific reason
After going through this talking stage where I made most of the moves all he did was telling a common friend that he liked me with zero actions he was so fucking lazy and irritating to deal with as a person malheureusement he was the first guy que j’ai kiffé since my ex maybe that’s why I kept trying to communicate w give him excuses (red flags were obvious tbh and I was told by my multiple friends to not waste my time…) after going radio silent for weeks i reached out mentioning Li mysirch haka received multiple apologies promises but same pattern kept repeating it was such a turn off and i was done 3èz nafsk tsibha…
Anyways why im sharing that story to say généralement I don’t mind making the first move Ken 3jbni chkoun specially that I’m very picky so it’s rare Bch y3jbni chkoun Asln
I get it that’s not a common thing W not the traditional approach ama honestly I don’t see a reason why not to life is too short communication is good and I’m very confident in my skin but for Tunisian men thats a sign of weakness - some think they are allowed to cross the line sometimes - and forsa for an ego boast
even tho when this topic is mentioned most of my male friends would say that they’d appreciate when a female make a first move specially that it is hard for them to tell when a woman like them or not But in reality the attitude is very different I guess or that’s what I’ve been told .I try to not get influenced by that specially that my experience isn’t bad overall el è3jb is always mutual but I think with my last experience j’ai eu ma dose with it most of female friends think that was the reason why i was treated that way ( I’m kinda convinced that’s why also )
I honesty wouldnt like to change my way of thinking specifically that im looking for someone qui a de l’intelligence émotionnelle et mature who wouldn’t be intimidated by a strong character and would take matter in his own hands when getting approached (apart from physical attraction ofc ) but I feel that Tunisian male became lazy if they get the slightest hint that u like them they’d like to play “the chasing ” game and I honestly don’t get why
I mean ok we all love "حلاوة البدايات " the hints ect… but when u r mid 20s early 30s I don’t see the reason to play seek and hide bruh …
Sharing this in my lunch break