u/ZealousidealWorld786

my lo is 4 months today.

i have a feeling she may be teething. i know it’s early for her to be teething and that she will be showing alot of false teething signs (drool, hand chewing).

anyone have any experience? advice?

signs: increased drool. biting hands rather than sucking. aggressive rooting and chomping on anything. rubbing face and crying (similar crying to vaccines). soothed by cold teethers. feel small sharp “tooth” along bottom gum, like a corner of her tooth.

thanks !

i genuinely hate my pram.

i have the joie versatrax e trio travel system.

we used the carrycot attachment for only a few outings but baby has fomo and won’t stay in it. it also makes putting the nappy bag in the bottom impossible.

most of the times we used the car seat attached to the base. but it’s impossible to take off! the amount of times baby has been rudely awakened by us trying to remove the seat from the base is crazy!

now we’ve upgraded to the regular stroller attachment. it gets on my nerves. it’s supposed to be from birth but the straps still hang off my 4 month old (12lb 6oz now, i can’t imagine her being in it at 6lb 2oz). at the start it was impossible to collapse the pram one handed (or even two handed) but now that it’s been used a few times, it’s a little less stiff but still acts up sometimes.

the worst thing about the stroller attachment: it is so damn heavy. i cannot lift it at all. and the wheels for the pram are SO wide, i look stupid taking her out and about, bumping against door ways or getting stuck.

and travelling when i need both the stroller attachment (or worse, the carrycot) and the car seat? put me out of my misery please.

i wish i had just gotten the joie i-muze LX stroller. lightweight and the car seat just attaches to the stroller bar.

learn from my mistakes.

i’ve posted my horrendous birth story before and long story short, my baby’s dad is not a good person and everyone was begging me to leave!

well i did. 4 weeks ago. i’ve been in a constant state of anxiety and depression since. mourning the life i had created through my own hard work in a city i would have never been able to live in otherwise. all whilst adjusting to being a single parent, living with my parents again, and desperately trying to finish my degree online.

co-parenting just won’t work between us. he has so many issues with control that he has admitted to but sees no problem with. he sees our daughter as a status symbol, a way to brag that he did this and that all while being a devoted dad. but all he’s done is harass me, threaten me with court, and ask unreasonable requests so he can establish control over me still.

now i realise he’s not a good person and my life would be worse with him. so why is it that today when i scrolled on instagram and saw him comment quite flirtatiously (woman’s intuition) on a new girl’s post did i feel.. jealous?? i don’t know if it’s jealousy. i scrolled through her posts to see when he first started liking her posts, to gauge when they started talking, and it was just FOUR days after i gave birth. so is it jealousy or am i just.. heartbroken that whilst i was in the newborn trenches and dealing with post partum depression, he was up to no good??

idk what i want from this post. i feel like i’m still stuck in this relationship with him and i’m going crazy. is this normal? what’s wrong with me?