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Hi, help me out please. What banking company or any related to financial services can you guys suggest? Kung okay lang makapagbigay ng salary range para sa senior to managerial role with 7 years of experience sana. Ano mas okay ang benefits and if yung may work life balance?

Sobrang pagod na ko sa current ko and mahal ko naman ung ginagawa ko pero naaapektuhan na kasi ung health ko. I think I need to prioritize myself first and resignatin is my healthiest option right now 😔

My boyfriend and I are in a healthy relationship, and he constantly reassures me that he loves me and would never do anything to ruin what we have. He’s patient, open, and honestly gives me no reason to doubt him.

But I’ve been struggling with retroactive jealousy because of his past.

Before me, he was involved with a woman who was already married. (He mentioned that the girl’s marriage is unstable btw) From what I know, he found out she was married while they were already seeing each other, but because he really liked her, they continued the relationship anyway. They even lasted for almost 2 years.

Now I can’t stop overthinking it. Part of me feels insecure because I keep thinking: *“*His love for her must have been so intense that he was willing to stay despite the situation.” And somehow, my brain keeps comparing that to what we have now.

I know it’s unfair to hold his past against him, especially because he treats me well and has been reassuring throughout our relationship. But I still get intrusive thoughts wondering if his feelings for her were somehow “deeper” or more passionate because of how messy and complicated it was.

Has anyone here dealt with something similar? How do you stop comparing yourself to your partner’s past? I really love him and he’s giving all the reassurance I need. He knows that what he did was wrong and he admits it.

Problem/Goal: Mejo soft girl ako ngayon so need ko advice nyo po 🥲

Context: So nalaman ko na ung last ex ng bf ko ay sa reddit nya nameet. Wala naman akong problema dun kasi alam kong active sya dito. Open naman kami sa reddit accounts namin and no issues naman pero may one time na sobrang curious ako dun sa last ex nya na dito nameet so chineck ko ung chats nila. Hindi naman ako selosang tao kaya feeling ko nung una okay lang siguro malaman ko. Hindi ko pinagselosan ung past gfs nya na lahat long term din. Out of curiosity lang din siguro. Tapos nabasa ko na sobrang magcompliment ung bf ko sakanya. Lagi nya sinasabihang sobrang ganda nya and all. Ngayon, bigla akong nakafeel ng tampo/selos/inggit. Never nya ko cinompliment na gaya sa ginawa nya before sa ex nya. Alam ko namang kasalanan ko ding binasa ko pa. May tiwala din naman kasi sa isa’t isa. Hindi lang mawala sa isip ko na baka nga hindi kasi talaga sya nagagandahan sakin. May isang beses na sinabi nyang sa lahat ng ex nya, ako daw pinakamaganda. Pinagalitan ko pa sya nun na never compare your exes with me. Kaso ganyan na ginagawa ko sa sarili ko. Parang sobrang sweet ng bf ko sa ex nya na un pagdating sa mga ganyang compliments. Na never kong natanggap from him 🥲 kinakain ako bigla ng insecurities ko kasi nafefeel kong sana maranasan ko ung ganong sweetness from him. Malambing naman sya pero iba talaga ung vibes nya sa chats nila.

Triny ko magpabebe sakanya para lambingin nya din ako tulad nung sa ex nya pero iba talaga. And mas hindi okay sa pakiramdam kasi parang lowkey bineg ko syang gawin and sabihin nya sakin yun. Wala kami ibang issues talaga and sobrang mahal naman namin isa’t isa. Kaya ayoko din masira relasyon namin dahil lang sa nainsecure ako 🙁