u/a_linwood

Hello, I’m an Italian exchange student in Canada. I’ve been here for 4 days and I’m going to stay here 4 months.

I like the family they assigned me because they are kind and give me all the comforts I can need in a house, but when I hear how other exchange students spend time with their host families, I realise it’s really different.

For example, they told me that they talk a lot with their families about random things as well, while with my host family I talk maybe to ask them for stuff with school or tell them what we’re going to do the next day, but nothing more really.

So I eventually ended up asking myself if I’m the “problem” and should talk with them more or if it’s the family that’s just not too lively.

It’s not that I particularly mind anyway, because I’m not one to go and talk for hours with adults, but sometimes I just don’t know if this is how it should be with a host family.

So far there have been days when I’ve been pretty happy with how I spent time at home, and other days when I’ve had doubts.

Before I came to Canada, I had to follow some courses, where they told me that the host family should be the first shoulder I can lean on if I are homesick or need any help. But as for me, right now I wouldn’t feel comfortable to go and talk to them about stuff like this.

And I also know that it’s just been 4 days, but it looks like most of the other exchange students are basically already best friends with their host parents.

Furthermore, my host family usually stays at home and watches TV for most of the day, so they don’t do too many activities in which I could maybe make myself get involved to form a bond with them. So, for a super introvert like me, it’s harder to become closer.

During the courses, they also told me that this could be a possibility as well, and that I have to find things to spend the time at home on my own too. The problem is that the things I usually do to spend the time are one person activities, but then again, they told me that I should spend time with the host family.

So how am I supposed to do that?

I wouldn’t want to be overthinking this or anything, but I would also like find some ways to solve this kind of problem.

Hi, I am an Italian exchange student and I will be staying in Canada for the next four months. Yesterday I arrived and met my host family. We had a meal together, watched a film and chatted for a while.

In the morning I also had breakfast with them and then unpacked my stuff in my room.

I know people recommend to never stay holed up in your room and go and spend time with the host family, and I really want to do that, but it’s easier said than done.

I am a very shy person and I would feel invasive and uncomfortable to just ask random questions out of the blue.

To maybe just show the family that I don’t stay in my room all the time, I was thinking of maybe going to the living room and read a book or do other activities on my own, but at least I’m with the family.

But I think that even if I did this, maybe it wouldn’t be nice anyway, because I’m not interacting, just doing my thing while staying in their company.

I wanted to know if it’s just me overthinking and it could actually be a nice idea for starters.

Of course I also plan to have conversations and talk with the family, so I’ll work on that as well soon.

I’ll go first: I prefer Raga

I know Raga’s second season has recently ended and went on hiatus, but what I haven’t understood is how long will it last? Do we know when it will resume the publishing yet?

I really love to read stories that have complicated characters that are morally grey.

I have a knack for characters that are straight up heartless and devoid of emotions with everyone and just think about their own cravings but then become more gentle and kind of a better person when they are with the one they love, even though it might take a while.

I’ll list some characters that I’ve really liked with this characteristics: Xinlu (Passion Raga), Eunsung (Checkmate), Taeyoung (Stage Behind) and also Luka from Alien Stage.

I’d love to read a manhwa also similar to the ones I’ve just quoted along with the characters if you have any nice recommendations 🙏

Sono una studentessa del linguistico in terza superiore e il 23 di maggio avevamo una verifica di scienze naturali sul DNA che ricopriva due capitoli pure complessi del libro perché la prof si è organizzata male.

Mi ero fatta dei bigliettini perché non ero sicura su degli argomenti e di solito con questa prof riuscivo sempre a copiare. Questa volta me li ero infilati nelle maniche lunghe che avevo e mi ero tenuta addosso, nonostante fosse un po’ caldo, ma comunque ognuno può fare quello che vuole.

Mentre stavo scrivendo la verifica, la prof si è avvicinata senza dire niente, ha preso una delle maniche per sentirne il tessuto e con quella scusa la stava palesemente alzando per controllare se ci fossero bigliettini. Essendo stata presa alla sprovvista, i bigliettini che avevo lì sono usciti, e la prof li ha trovati e li ha presi.

Inoltre mi ha ritirato la verifica (che avevo comunque completato, senza nemmeno usare i bigliettini infine perché quegli argomenti infine non c’erano nemmeno, e che il resto avevo fatto di tasca mia).

Successivamente io non ho detto nulla e sono stata zitta per il resto della verifica, mentre la professoressa ha buttato via i miei bigliettini senza nemmeno leggere su che cosa erano.

Uscita da scuola, mi trovo la nota disciplinare nel registro. Due giorni dopo, al pomeriggio arrivano i voti di queste verifiche e mi ritrovo 1, come motivazione il fatto che avevo appresso i bigliettini e con precisato che tutta la classe sapeva quelle sarebbero state le conseguenze se ci avesse trovati a copiare (cosa che aveva detto la mattina stessa dopo aver consegnato la verifica quindi mi sarebbe stato comunque impossibile toglierli).

Immediatamente le ho mandato una mail dove le chiedevo di recuperare alla prima lezione che abbiamo e lei mi risponde che va bene e che devo prepararmi.

Il giorno dopo ho chiesto sempre per mail se potevo magari fare una seconda prova (scritta o orale) oltre all’interrogazione di recupero, offrendomi di farla anche su argomenti precedenti del quadrimestre.

La sua risposta è stata che non c’è tempo e che lei non ha voglia di interrogare o correggere altre verifiche, quando il tempo c’è benissimo ed è il suo lavoro quello di valutare i compiti.

Tra qualche giorno mi farò interrogare e darò del mio meglio, nonostante nemmeno se prendessi 10, con l’altro voto che già ho in scienze dalla verifica precedente, riuscirei ad arrivare alla sufficienza. In ogni caso la professoressa nelle interrogazioni di recupero non ha mai messo più di 8 e mezzo, il che è un’ingiustizia se qualcuno risponde perfettamente a tutte le domande.

Per il resto ho voti alti e una buona condotta, quindi spero di riuscire ad alzare la media fino a un 5.5 e che me lo abbonino a un 6.

Opinioni a riguardo?

So di aver sbagliato a tenere i bigliettini, ma in tre anni sia io che la classe riuscivamo a passare così per quei due argomenti che non capivamo.