Feeling completely lost after school and trying different paths

Hi everyone, I’m not sure if this is the right place to post this, but I’m feeling pretty lost and I’d really appreciate kind advice. I’m 20 years old and graduated high school last year. Looking back, my school journey has been quite unstable, and I’m struggling to figure out my direction in life.

I started in economics in the beginning of high school, but quickly realised it wasn’t for me. I then moved to an art-focused school, which suited me creatively, but I struggled there socially and personally.

After that, I continued in a lower direction in art school in my country, where I first started doing graphic design. That period was honestly one of the best experiences I’ve had in school. I learned a lot, enjoyed the work, and felt like I was actually good at something.

I’ve always also been interested in fashion and wanted to move in that direction, but switching would have meant repeating an extra year, which I felt was too much at the time, so I stayed in graphic design. And I regret it a lot because this year I spent wasting my time on choosing a major could’ve been my graduating year of fashion.

Whoever In my final year, I specialised more in fine arts, and I really loved it. It felt creative, hands-on, and I was genuinely happy during that time.

After graduating, things became more difficult.
My parents are quite strict and traditional, and they strongly expected me to continue studying. I felt pressured to go to college even though I wasn’t sure what I wanted. Because I wanted distance from home, I chose a school far away and started game design, even though I wasn’t really interested in it.
I tried it for a few weeks but couldn’t connect with it and dropped out.

After that, I tried audiovisual studies for about 1–2 months, but I realised I really struggle with long hours behind a computer and very theory-heavy studies, so I left that too. Since then, I’ve been stuck in a cycle of trying different directions and not feeling like they fit:
I tried graphic design again, but didn’t enjoy it in a school setting

I then tried communication and stayed about 2–3 months, which is the longest I’ve managed recently. I liked the social part and doing interviews, but once it became more focused on business, theory, and structured academic work, I lost motivation again
Since then, I’ve been feeling very unsure about what to do with my life.

Recently, I’ve been thinking about a few directions:
One option is applying for a scholarship to go to Korea, where I could study photography, fine arts, or fashion. I’ve started working on a portfolio, but I’m unsure because of the language barrier and because I don’t know if my parents will support it.
Another option is staying in my country and applying for fine arts while continuing to build my portfolio locally.

There is something that has consistently made me feel motivated: creating content online. I’ve been vlogging, streaming, posting reactions, and sharing my daily life. I genuinely enjoy it it makes me feel excited, and even small interactions online motivate me a lot.

Right now, I feel stuck between:
continuing education, even though nothing has fully fit so far
pursuing something creative like art, fashion, or photography (possibly abroad)
or focusing more seriously on content creation
I just don’t know which direction to take anymore, and I’m scared of choosing wrong again.

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u/acjlya — 24 days ago

Sims 4 mod for family to actually sit together at dining table?

Does anyone know a mod for The Sims 4 that fixes Sims ignoring the dining table and actually makes the whole family sit and eat together instead of wandering off to random places like the couch or upstairs?

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u/acjlya — 25 days ago

Beginner PC build for gaming, recording, and Adobe

Hi!
I’m a student from Belgium looking for help building my first gaming PC.

I currently use a MacBook for school (graphic design) and Adobe After Effects, but I’m looking to switch to a Windows desktop that can handle both creative work and gaming.

For games, I enjoy story-driven titles like Life is Strange and The Walking Dead, and I’d also like to play more demanding games such as The Last of Us Part I, Cyberpunk 2077, Red Dead Redemption 2, etc. I also record and post gaming videos online, so smooth performance while gaming + recording would be important.
Budget is limited as I’m a student, but I’m willing to save for something that will last a few years.

I really do appreciate any help :) thank you!!

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u/acjlya — 28 days ago

Why does my sim get spots on their skin?

literally this is so annoying! I always need to send them to a naturopath. Anybody knows how I can fix this or remove the pack?

u/acjlya — 30 days ago

Anybody has any idea where I can buy this chips?

I used to buy this at a store called Tevhid Supermarket in Ghent (I hope I’m spelling that correctly), and it quickly became one of my favorite snacks. Unfortunately, they stopped selling it. When I asked an employee why, they told me it wasn’t selling very well, which genuinely surprised me because it’s one of the best flavors I’ve ever tried

I’ve been trying to find it ever since. I noticed the packaging is in Turkish, so I even asked some friends and family who are traveling to Turkey this summer to bring me some back, but I can’t wait that long anymore

Does anyone know where I can find this in Belgium (or online with shipping to Belgium)?

u/acjlya — 1 month ago
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Fan Project Vanillamace Birthday

Hi everyone!!
[REPOSTED]
(this is mod approved:)))

I’ve been thinking about doing a birthday fan project for Vanillamace for a while now esp because her birthday is pretty soon 🫶

I was wondering if people would like to send in a short video saying “Happy Birthday Vanillamace” with maybe a small message as well! You can show your face or not it really doesn’t matter. If you’d rather not speak, you could also hold up a handwritten note or paper instead.

If you’re from another country, it would be really cool if you could mention where you’re from so we can show how fans are all around the world !!

I’ve actually organized a fan project before for a K-pop group, and one of the members ended up seeing it online and got emotional while watching it, which was honestly such a sweet moment to witness 🥹 It made me realize how meaningful these projects can really be :))

I genuinely think this would turn out so cute!! Please let me know if you’d like to join 💗

If you want to participate, please message me privately and I’ll send you the info!

u/acjlya — 9 days ago

Fan project for Vanillamace

Hi everyone!!

I’ve been thinking about doing a birthday fan project for Vanillamace for a while now esp because her birthday is pretty soon 🫶

I was wondering if people would like to send in a short video saying “Happy Birthday Vanillamace” with maybe a small message as well! You can show your face or not it really doesn’t matter. If you’d rather not speak, you could also hold up a handwritten note or paper instead.

If you’re from another country, it would be really cool if you could mention where you’re from so we can show how fans are all around the world !!

I’ve actually organized a fan project before for a K-pop group, and one of the members ended up seeing it online and got emotional while watching it, which was honestly such a sweet moment to witness 🥹 It made me realize how meaningful these projects can really be :))

I genuinely think this would turn out so cute!! Please let me know if you’d like to join 💗

If you want to participate, please message me privately and I’ll send you the info!

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u/acjlya — 1 month ago

Lost 3 kg in a month but it feels slow mentally

I’ve been on a calorie deficit since April 27 and I’m wondering if my progress is considered normal or if I’m doing something wrong because it feels slow to me sometimes.

My stats:
19 years old
161 cm

Started at 81.6 kg
Progress so far:
April 27: 81.6 kg
May 6: 80.5 kg
May 22: 79.5 kg
May 28: 78.6 kg
My goal weight is: 50-55 kg

Right now I eat around 1400 calories a day. I also do dumbbell workouts 3x a week and usually try to get 8k–10k steps daily, although lately it’s been closer to 6k because I’ve been really busy.
I know I’ve lost weight, but mentally it feels slower than I expected, especially because 81.6 kg was the highest weight I had ever seen on myself and it really shocked me.

Does this rate of weight loss sound healthy/sustainable? Should I change anything or just stay consistent?

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u/acjlya — 1 month ago

I’m trying to find a Cornetto ice cream I used to buy in Belgium a few years ago.

It was a coffee-flavoured Cornetto cone, possibly called something like “Coffee Shock” (not 100% sure on the name)..

I can’t find it anywhere in Belgium anymore (Carrefour, Colruyt, Delhaize), and I’m wondering if it was discontinued, renamed, or only sold in certain countries now.

Does anyone remember this or know what it’s called / what happened to it?

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u/acjlya — 2 months ago
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Hi! I’m trying to find a Cornetto ice cream flavour that used to be sold in Belgium a few years ago.

It was a coffee-flavoured Cornetto (I think it was called something like “Coffee Shock” or similar).

I can’t find it in any supermarkets anymore (Carrefour, Colruyt, Delhaize), and I’m wondering if it was discontinued or maybe renamed.

u/acjlya — 2 months ago

Had a debate with a friend yesterday about whether it’s better to work out before or after breakfast.

My take is that it honestly doesn’t matter that much what matters more is consistency and just staying active. I feel like it mostly comes down to personal preference, energy levels, and what fits your routine. Some people feel lighter working out before eating, others perform better with fuel in them.

Curious what everyone else thinks: do you notice a real difference depending on timing?

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u/acjlya — 2 months ago