u/agirlseekingananswer

bought a new macbook early june Macbook Air M5 chip.

August 12 I accidentally spilled matcha on the upper left of the keyboard keys (power button included) after drying it letting it air out for a day keyboard and trackpad(mouse) was unresponsive.

I turned it in to be repaired on August 15th. I called and said they are just waiting on some parts. I’m worried because its an expensive computer and need it asap for college.

Any tips or words of reassurance it should be okay. And worst case scenario if computer is no longer good to use (praying it is) what can I do? I do not have apple care and it’s long overdue for a return.

Earlier this month I (F23)reconnected with an old high school friend (M24)after almost 10 years. We used to be really close and had mutual feelings back then but never dated. We started texting, met up, and it felt like no time had passed. At the end of the night he admitted he regretted not kissing me years ago, asked if he could kiss me, and afterwards texted saying he wanted to hang out again.

I’m coming out of an 8-year relationship where I was treated badly, so the little things he does—wanting to take me out for coffee instead of just sending money, suggesting we watch shows or work out together—mean a lot to me. We have a lot in common, and I really like him.

My only issue is that he isn’t a big texter. I mostly send TikToks during the week, and he talks to me more on weekends because he’s busy working and gaming. In person he seems interested that one night when he asked to catch up, but I wish he’d reach out more. Would it be too forward if I just asked, “So when are we hanging out again?” I really like him and don’t want to miss my chance. He isnt much of a texter nor a big social media guy. He’s a literal geek in the nicest way (i’m a geek too). Tiktoks I send he’ll just like them, he left me on delivered in messages since tuesday, and I asked a gaming question on discord he left that on delivered/read since monday (i can’t tell if it’s been read bcz its discord). He’s confessed to me he’s never had a girlfriend & had only a 2 month situationship (idk how true that is) From my understanding or from what he has told me he doesnt really have a history with girls. I really want a chance with him.

If he was the one who reached out to me first, asked me to kiss, asked to see me, asked to hang out again why isnt he proactively texting me. Its been me reaching out first this past 2 weeks. I want to invite him out to a club with me next weekend because he did tell me invite me and i’ll go with you, but that leaves me reaching out again first.

What’s my next step?

I love my boyfriend so much. He is my best friend. We have been together for 8 years we are both 23.

I just don’t want to be with the person he is anymore. There is so much more to life than sitting in a bedroom and playing games with me as a bystander.

I’m young. I work & I do good by God. I deserve the life I am working towards.

It’s so hard. I’m so scared and sick to my stomach, but I am going to rip the band-aid off. He needs to grow. I’ve done everything I can to support him through it all and in the process I let myself get disrespected, ignored, and didn’t put myself first. I am going to choose me. I hope I don’t back out. Texting each other is an everyday routine. I am truly terrified.

Dating a PA been together for 8 years (F23 & he is M23)

I would say he is my bestest friend and my heart. Our relationship has been flopping due to his lack of effort. I keep comparing our relationship now to what it once was. He used to be so enthusiastic to see me, gush over my presence , down to do whatever, wanted to get intimate with me and now i’m lucky if he calls me out of the blue.

Over the past 8 years I’m going to list things he has done and I still stayed

-he made out with a girl

-was saving videos of girls shaking their behinds

- found pictures between him & his best friend that they would take of womens behinds in public

-found screenshots of naked porn star models in his phone

-made an onlyfans account in secret with his card linked

-had a secret 2 year old tiktok where all the saved videos where big booty girls dancing

-continuously uses X/twitter for porn but denies it

-lied to me about whereabouts and was actually at a club

-in his secret tiktok he had he searched up the girl he tried to get with while we were broken up

-kicked me out of his house when i found more porn star screenshots in his ipad

im gonna add by saying he doesnt really care to work more to better off himself. He uses mary jane & drinks often. He doesnt join me on activities like going to the gym or a family event. Used to only call me when convenient for him which was when he needed a ride to work. He makes no effort in seeking a connection with me.

I’m afraid of letting go because of what we used to have, the comfort, and well i love him. Im afraid that the next girl will get everything i wished & hoped for from him. Im afraid of the grass not being greener in the other side.

Today I went over and found myself putting mascara on, a perfume, some lipgloss, a flattering top with sweats that exaggerate my butt to see if he’d maybe notice me. Im not a cocky person but I do get attention or stopped often in public to be told im pretty or cute. But i could care less i want his attention. I want to be seen.

The entire time that I was there he didn’t greet me when I got there. Not a hug or a kiss. He played his games the entire time, and as much as I liked gaming i wanted us to connect. I would ask questions or talk about what’s going on in my life & it felt too casual. He played a movie next he was on his gaming chair i was on the couch in his game room. I asked him to come lie down with me to feel that closeness he denied my request.

Not to be poetic or cringey but I genuinely felt like a rose left untouched. Just waiting to be picked. I yearn for passion & an intimate touch that he won’t give me whatsoever. He doesnt care or have an interest in wanting to have sex with me. Ive done all that I can and nothing. Im just venting because I have a lot of good qualities. I take care of myself. I’m educated, I work and I love everything and I have the curves im funny im easy going and down for anything. I know it has nothing to do with me but him. I just don’t get why I’m not picked. Why am I not being seen. He doesn’t text me that he misses me anymore out of the blue, he rarely texts back now, i asked for a beach date which we live close to (1 hour drive 2 at most) which costs $80-$100 for us on a one day beach trip and he told me “i can’t do that I have more responsibilities than you do” which he didn’t have to deny or respond like that he could have said “yeah im down we can plan something for summer” we don’t go on dates either which makes me sad. I want to dress up & get pretty to go somewhere.

Me(F23) & my bf (M23) see each other weekly or every other 2-3 days depending on our schedule. Back then our sex life used to be great.

Now for the past year he barely even wants to have sex with me, he won’t try, he won’t seem interested, he won’t initiate, he’ll reject me, he’ll ignore my flirting or move making. He is a PA and it saddens me because I am right in front of him with a high libido willing to do or try anything because i enjoy getting intimate with my partner.

Not trying to say looks are everything but I am a good looking girl. I have the curves & looks & the drive. I just don’t understand because it makes me jump to conclusions that he’s cheating & getting it elsewhere or he’s just heavily watching porn.

I’ve communicated, I’ve spoken out, I’ve tried throwing myself at him, I’ve gave him space, I’ve done everything you can think of to maybe have him initiate something and nothing.

I’m lost and don’t know what to do

Me (F23) & my boyfriend (M23) have been together for about 8 years. Long term relationship yes. I’m going to get straight to the point. If he made a mistake is he likely to do it again?

Im not talking about missing or forgetting an anniversary date. He cheated once. Lied about his whereabouts and was at a club, and will watch content im not okay with & we both agreed and stated we wouldnt like in a relationship. He even went to the lengths and tried to subscribe to women on onlyfans.

That’s bad i know, but if he says he’s going to change do I believe him? I don’t want to sound like I’m complaining but he doesn’t do anything. He lacks drive and ambition. I would like to go to do activities together. Even if it’s free he refuses. I’ll ask hey lets go on a run I don’t wanna go alone. He says no. I’ll mention to catch a movie he leaves me hanging. I’ll make an accomplishment (job promotion, college achievements) no celebration (not that I expect it but I would like for my partner to celebrate my achievements like I do for him) He doesnt like to celebrate our anniversary either even though I’ve communicated that I do. He doesnt have a vehicle and I’ve noticed the only time he asks to see me (as of lately) is to text me for a ride to work.

I like spontaneous & adventures. I like traveling, & concerts, and live music or trying new restaurants & he wont accompany me every single time I invite him, but he’s real quick to say yes when his friends invite him to a bar. I did the same “hey its ufc night lets go grab drinks at a bar” he denies me.

I don’t know if its a “guy” thing where they don’t wanna go out or do much because of depression, anxiety, lack of money, or social battery. But its been like this for a while. I don’t know if alcohol is an issue too he smokes and drinks a lot of alcohol which alters his behavior of course.

I have 2 businesses, im in college and I have a really good job with a very good family. Just recently at an important family event he didn’t attend with me because he didn’t want to. My family is very inclusive and nice even saved a plate for him but he didn’t want to go. I just excused his absence with “work”.

Idk if I should take this as a sign to go. But about a week ago we were hanging out at his place & drinking & I asked are you with me because you really want to be or is it convenient for you how I am always there? Stupid question I know. All he said was “you don’t do anything for me”

So for the past 8 years of me driving us & him everywhere & lending him money, being there when his friends ditched him, being there for a lot of milestones in his life he said I do “nothing” for him. I cried and repeated what he said saying “i don’t do anything for you?”

he ignored me and my tears played a song of travis scott to be precise and started singing and vibing to music. Do I blame the alcohol on that or him. My post may be unorganized, scattered and so on. But what is my next course of action?

Long story short me (F23) & my boyfriend (M23) have been together 8 years. Recently found out he made an onlyfans account with card information in and everything about to subscribe to someone idk who yet but he did.

What would you do? Would you break up with him?