u/alexandria-2811

Please let me know if my mom qualifies for citizenship? Can I piggyback off her to obtain citizenship for myself? Thanks!

Line: GGF → GF → Mother → Me (Woman)

• GGF born 1907, Palermo, Sicily
  • Emigrated to the US in 1915
  • Married an Italian-American woman in 1935
• GF born June 28, 1941 (in the US)
• GGF naturalized as a US citizen in August 12, 1942 — so GF was already born, but still a minor (about 1 year old) at the time of GGF naturalization
• Mother born 1971
• I was born 1998

Please let me know thoughts regarding my line given today's ruling and if I qualify for Italian citizenship. Thanks!

Line: GGF → GF → Mother → Me (Woman)

• GGF born 1907, Palermo, Sicily
  • Emigrated to the US in 1915
  • Married an Italian-American woman in 1935
• GF born June 28, 1941 (in the US)
• GGF naturalized as a US citizen in August 12, 1942 — so GF was already born, but still a minor (about 1 year old) at the time of GGF naturalization
• Mother born 1971
• I was born 1998

I could really use some outside perspective.

I currently live in San Francisco. Ever since I lived abroad a few years ago, I've had this persistent desire to experience living somewhere new again. It's not that I hate SF, I just feel like I've been craving another chapter in a different city.

Over the last three months, I've gotten serious about it and decided that NYC is where I want to aim. I've done a ton of research, visited the city, walked neighborhoods I could see myself living in, thought through finances, lifestyle, etc. This hasn't felt like an impulsive decision.

Since my company has offices in NYC, I started talking to HR about the possibility of moving and going fully remote (we have remote team members all over the country). Everyone I spoke with was supportive and encouraging.

Today I had a conversation with our Director of Operations. She answered my questions about the transfer process, but the overall tone felt very discouraging. She mentioned that a lot of people she knows who move to NYC end up burning out and seemed generally skeptical of the idea. She told me the next step would be talking to my supervisors.

Objectively, I know she didn't tell me I couldn't move. She didn't say the transfer was impossible. But I walked away feeling surprisingly defeated and feel as though skeptical to move now since one of the people that would approve it gave discouraging remarks.

What's bothering me is that one conversation has made me start questioning something I've wanted for years. Yesterday I was thinking, "How do I make this happen?" Today I'm wondering, "Maybe I shouldn't do it at all."

Has anyone else experienced this? How do you separate legitimate advice from someone else's personal bias? If you've moved to NYC (or made a big move in general), did people try to talk you out of it? Did you end up being glad you took the leap?

I'm trying to figure out whether this conversation revealed something important that I should listen to, or whether I'm just giving one person's opinion more weight than it deserves.

TL;DR: 27F, remote Account Executive in SF, unhappy at my job and have always wanted to leave the Bay Area to try a new city. Thinking about moving to a new city first and job hunting after. Is this smart or stupid?

I'm 27F, born and raised in the Bay Area, remote Account Executive at a corporate communications agency (~$80k). I live with roommates in SF and I've wanted to leave for years, just to actually experience living somewhere new before I get too settled.

I'm also unhappy at my job and want to leave, but here's where I'm at: since I work remotely, I'm seriously considering just picking a city, moving, and then finding a new job once I'm settled there.

The logic: if I find a new job first here, nothing actually changes — I'm still in SF, still in the same situation, just with a different job. Moving first forces the change I actually want.

The fear: what if it takes longer than expected to find something? $80k in SF doesn't leave a ton of savings, and a new city won't be cheap either.

So Reddit — is moving first the move? Has anyone done this and loved it, or deeply regretted it? What's the realistic financial runway I should have before doing something like this?

Long-time Bay Area native here (grew up here, still live here at 27) and I've been feeling the itch to finally experience life somewhere new. On top of that, I'm not happy at my current job, the culture at my company has been a big drain and I think it's time to move on.

Some additional context:

- Work as a remote Account Executive at a small/medium corporate communications agency

- Making ~$80k/year

- Live with roommates in SF

- Have always wanted to live somewhere else but kept putting it off

The thing is, both feel urgent but also tangled together. Do I find a new job first and then move? Move first and job hunt from a new city? Try to do both at the same time?

Being remote helps, but I'm not sure if I should factor that in more heavily (like do I just pick a city I love and move, then find a job from there?). I also don't have a specific city locked in yet, though I'm open to ideas.

For anyone who's done something similar — changed jobs AND relocated at the same time — what did you wish you'd known? What order did you do things in, and would you do it differently?

Any advice appreciated. Feeling a little stuck.