u/all-toowell

Hi, I’m 18M and I have this guy about 3 years ago. Things were super messy as I hadn’t slept the entire night cuz my brother was leaving for Russia and I had to stay up in order to say goodbye and just overall spend time with him. His friends had also come over to our place to say goodbye, so yeah, lot’s of people, lots of talking and messiness. When the sun started rising and it was already 7 in the morning I opened tiktok ( at that time there was a trend with “sunset” snap gcs) I wanted to join one with the aim of making new friends and developing my English skills. So I scrolled through many videos still looking for groupchats. Finally I bumped into his video which was about making friends with many people and filling his snapchat map with them. I added him with no hope at all and switch my phone off. The time came to send my brother off so I said my goodbyes and came back home. He had already accepted my request and political asked me to turn my location on which I agreed to.

Weeks go by and we don’t really communicate just sending snaps to each other and once in a decade replying to each other’s snaps. Now I don’t remember whether he asked for my instagram or not but one of us did so I got his instagram then checked his profile and saw his face for the first time. I thought that he was cute nevertheless i’m not the kind of person to fall in love at the first sight so I was like he looks nice. Months had already passed and I ran into a video on tiktok regarding a riot in France ( where he lives ) I texted him and asked what was up with it and if he was alright. Then he started explaining everything in details, I swear he was so well-spoken, so educated, and intelligent that I don’t think I’ve ever met someone like him. He spoke about politics explaining everything in depth which now that I look back I think inspired me to choose my career path. Crazy, right? But I didn’t fall then, it was just beginning. Then some time passed, he posted a picture on instagram with his new haircut ( a buzzcut ) I texted saying that it was a bit unexpected and that I liked it anyway. He told me that he wanted to dye his hair white like Eminem I guess that was where everything began. I haven’t mentioned it but he’s a year or two older than me so I wasn’t really very educated back then as I was 15 and not from Europe. I couldn’t support the conversations well enough to be interesting. So as he inspired to learn more about politics I began my journey and after a year I was already not bad at keeping the conversations going. So once in a while I would text him and we’d chat, and omg I believe if we spoke in real life we’d spend an entire lifetime talking never-endingly about EVERYTHING. I don’t really know why but he never speaks about himself I DON’T know how old he is because we only spend time talking about concepts, science etc. NEVER about emotions or anything of that sort. I feel like his emotional world is blank and empty or maybe he doesn’t open up to people like me… I once asked him why he’d never tell me anything about him, he was like I don’t share because i’m afraid of stalkers and all. I didn’t want to hurt him so I replied by saying that it was fair enough. Anyway after a while I was dwelling on whether he was religious or not so I texted him and straightforwardly asked about it which he denied by saying that he’s irreligious. I went all in that day and turned the conversation towards romantic preferences and he said that he is straight. I do respect him and I believe that he knows what he likes but I still want to confess because it’s always better to die trying than never try at all and I believe that he deserves to know. So now after 2 years of barely talking to each other ( just sending videos to him which he would just react to by hearts ) I THINK i’m annoying or he’s just that kind of person. anyway at the New Year I was already getting ready to confess because I knew that I was tired of all of it and it was time to move on. but I didn’t because I want to meet him irl and spend time with him as friends and I would never want to ruin our so-called online “friendship”.

what would you recommend to do?
should I first meet him irl then confess or just text him right away?
If you need more information feel free to ask. There is so much I didn’t include in this text. Thanks in advance <3

Hi, I’m 18M and I have this guy about 3 years ago. Things were super messy as I hadn’t slept the entire night cuz my brother was leaving for Russia and I had to stay up in order to say goodbye and just overall spend time with him. His friends had also come over to our place to say goodbye, so yeah, lot’s of people, lots of talking and messiness. When the sun started rising and it was already 7 in the morning I opened tiktok ( at that time there was a trend with “sunset” snap gcs) I wanted to join one with the aim of making new friends and developing my English skills. So I scrolled through many videos still looking for groupchats. Finally I bumped into his video which was about making friends with many people and filling his snapchat map with them. I added him with no hope at all and switch my phone off. The time came to send my brother off so I said my goodbyes and came back home. He had already accepted my request and political asked me to turn my location on which I agreed to.

Weeks go by and we don’t really communicate just sending snaps to each other and once in a decade replying to each other’s snaps. Now I don’t remember whether he asked for my instagram or not but one of us did so I got his instagram then checked his profile and saw his face for the first time. I thought that he was cute nevertheless i’m not the kind of person to fall in love at the first sight so I was like he looks nice. Months had already passed and I ran into a video on tiktok regarding a riot in France ( where he lives ) I texted him and asked what was up with it and if he was alright. Then he started explaining everything in details, I swear he was so well-spoken, so educated, and intelligent that I don’t think I’ve ever met someone like him. He spoke about politics explaining everything in depth which now that I look back I think inspired me to choose my career path. Crazy, right? But I didn’t fall then, it was just beginning. Then some time passed, he posted a picture on instagram with his new haircut ( a buzzcut ) I texted saying that it was a bit unexpected and that I liked it anyway. He told me that he wanted to dye his hair white like Eminem I guess that was where everything began. I haven’t mentioned it but he’s a year or two older than me so I wasn’t really very educated back then as I was 15 and not from Europe. I couldn’t support the conversations well enough to be interesting. So as he inspired to learn more about politics I began my journey and after a year I was already not bad at keeping the conversations going. So once in a while I would text him and we’d chat, and omg I believe if we spoke in real life we’d spend an entire lifetime talking never-endingly about EVERYTHING. I don’t really know why but he never speaks about himself I DON’T know how old he is because we only spend time talking about concepts, science etc. NEVER about emotions or anything of that sort. I feel like his emotional world is blank and empty or maybe he doesn’t open up to people like me… I once asked him why he’d never tell me anything about him, he was like I don’t share because i’m afraid of stalkers and all. I didn’t want to hurt him so I replied by saying that it was fair enough. Anyway after a while I was dwelling on whether he was religious or not so I texted him and straightforwardly asked about it which he denied by saying that he’s irreligious. I went all in that day and turned the conversation towards romantic preferences and he said that he is straight. I do respect him and I believe that he knows what he likes but I still want to confess because it’s always better to die trying than never try at all and I believe that he deserves to know. So now after 2 years of barely talking to each other ( just sending videos to him which he would just react to by hearts ) I THINK i’m annoying or he’s just that kind of person. anyway at the New Year I was already getting ready to confess because I knew that I was tired of all of it and it was time to move on. but I didn’t because I want to meet him irl and spend time with him as friends and I would never want to ruin our so-called online “friendship”.

what would you recommend to do?
should I first meet him irl then confess or just text him right away?
If you need more information feel free to ask. There is so much I didn’t include in this text. Thanks in advance <3

Hi, I’m an outgoing( but introverted) guy who likes having online friends. So years ago as I was looking for online friends on snapchat I ran into this German guy! 1.He was very interesting to me, 2. the atmosphere overall was very chill 3. I was not shy at all when talking to him. That said after a couple of weeks it turned out that we both played the same game, so I texted him right away and asked whether he’d like to play it together or not. Gladly he agreed, we then called each other and had a nice time! I actually started liking him lowkey… so I began to slowly change the subject by being flirty. he didn’t show any affection on call, therefore I stopped trying to continue it. After that day he started sending me random snaps that in my opinion indicated interest. For example one of his snap had a rainbow on the background where he added a text that said “🏳️‍🌈👍”. Suspicious, right? I was like, “ Yeahhh, ok, this is something.” Then one of his next snaps was a page from a book where couples of all orientations were kissing each other. Sus x2. Then a day later he sent his veiny wrist and said that he was arm-wrestling with his friend, which I assumed was an act of showing how strong he was. I thought that then was my turn to act, because he was a nice person and I didn’t mind dating him LIKE CMON WHY NOT. So then on call I became very overly flirty like screaming that i’m not straight and all. But he was very unsure somehow he even didn’t like it I guess??? I believe that he could have internal homophobia. Because his words didn’t match his actions, he then said that he would unadd me if I continued saying gay things which I considered a joke. BUT it wasn’t, he actually unadded me. I was like, “Okay??” so then i proceeded not to text him or find a way to contact him because I hoped that he would calm down and add me after a couple of days, which he didn’t. I was probably around 15-16 then and yes I was a kid and now after I’ve grown up I regret not respecting his boundaries back then!!! and I was hoping to find him again. I’ve tried adding him on snap from multiple accounts but there is not green dot near his bitmoji icon which means that he has high likely deleted snapchat. I really wanna find him somehow.I may sound crazy right now, but I believe we could be a thing together or at least we could try, i don’t know. But anyway even if not, I just want to say sorry and that I really just assumed things wrong and that I shouldn’t have being so disrespectful.

Now the question. I have a picture of his face and I want to post a video on tiktok in order to find that guy, because many people have used that method and found the people they needed. But still it’s not okay to post people’s faces without their consent!! HOW DO I FIND HIM?????? Help me out. This whole situation is so hopeless. he was such a nice friend and a great person😔😔😔