u/amezaikun

(Rant) Misophonia is getting worse

I'm a 21m college student living with parents all year, no money to move out. My father lives and sleeps in the living room, which is right outside my door. I care about him, but he makes a ludicrous amount of noise that triggers my misophonia to the point I'm seething with rage. He eats ice cream from a bowl every night and the clanging of the spoon makes me borderline violent, and then he spends the next hour clearing his throat every ~10 seconds. I assume he has some sort of throat condition that makes him clear his throat constantly, because the repetition seems like a tic or another disorder.

I try to block out the noise a bit with an earbud, but I struggle to relax with two earbuds in due to hypervigilance. (If someone barges into my room and I can't hear them, I jump and get muscle cramps...) I'm trying to figure out a polite way to ask him to eat in the kitchen and see a doctor about throat clearing, but it just seems rude to tell him how to live his life? I've already complained about noise from the TV and asked him to wear bluetooth earbuds, so it seems invasive to complain about his eating habits. Am I overreacting?

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u/amezaikun — 3 days ago

(21M) Cycling in and out of denial, not sure what to do

As stated in the title, I've been cycling in and out of denial about being Bi for the better part of 8 years now. I formerly dated women and a feminine nonbinary person, and I've recently started dating a man. I thought dating a man would provide closure to my orientation troubles, but I've found that my denial has somehow worsened, and I've experienced more looping thoughts of "What if I'm actually straight?" and "I'm not gay enough to be Bi" etc. It should also be mentioned that I likely have sexual orientation OCD and have already diagnosed with standard OCD.

Some of my issues stem from not relating with stereotypical gay male culture and feeling as if my attraction is too straight-oriented to qualify as Bi. I'm not a fan of masculine anatomy compared to androgynous and feminine bodies, and I only masturbate to female fictional characters. I know it's typical to have a preference for one gender, but it feels overwhelming to have a straight-leaning preference and try to navigate gay-dominated LGBT+ spaces online. I'm not sure what to do to overcome the cycle of doubting myself and not feeling like I can actually use the Bi label, has anyone else had success in doing so?

TDLR; I'm straight-leaning and in a mlm relationship for the first time but am still experiencing self-doubt, looking to see if anyone else has had a similar experience and has advice.

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u/amezaikun — 4 days ago