be real with yourself
be real with yourself
if you’re someone who tends to let doubt get to them, and find it hard to be stay in an identity/story. try a different approach to it. talk to yourself as if you were talking to someone who’s being very delusional lol.
for example, if you’re affirming that you have a great relationship and they show up perfectly for you but still identify as if it’s not, still assuming they don’t love you, care about you or want to be with you, talk to yourself as if you’re being delusional because YOU ARE.
drop that character role that you’re playing, drop that storyline and snap yourself out of it.
put yourself in check
instead of letting those doubts dominate you, dominate them instead. i mean granted, you can just ignore them but like i said, this is for people who finds it hard to do that.
so if you find yourself feeding into unfavorable thoughts, i’ll continue using my example from above
try approaching it like this, the same way you’ll talk to someone who’s again, being delusional.
“why are you pretending like they aren’t madly in love with you? they literally worship you, just stop it”
“you know that person wants to be with you, let’s not play stupid”
if someone is arguing with you that a car is red but the car isn’t red at all, it’s actually white but they keep on arguing with you saying that it’s red, it’s like “that car is literally white. are you okay?” you’ll be pretty damn confused on why they even think that, and you know you’re right and that they’re wrong.
in my experience this is what works best for me. it literally demands you to drop that old identity/story right then and there. it stops the victim narrative and with resonating with an unfavorable story/identity by treating it as what it is, bs. keep it real with yourself and tell yourself to stop being delusional. you already have it and it already is, you already are.
stop treating your doubts like they are deep, profound truths. they’re not. shut it down, it’s complete bs and if you have to firmly snap yourself out of it to remind yourself that it’s complete bs then do that.