u/ant_chapstick

Pretty sure I broke my big toe today. I’ve got it wrapped and stabilized and am icing it, and as far I know that’s all you can really do for a broken toe so wasn’t really planning to go to the doctor.

Never broken a bone before though. Anything diabetes-specific I should be concerned about? My blood sugar is “well-controlled” (a1c under 6) if that makes a difference.

EDIT: thank you all for the advice! i made a doctors appointment for tomorrow morning :)

Husband (31M) and I (28F) have always wanted kids… maybe just kid* in this economy, though. But lately I feel like I’m hyper-fixated on the logistics of having a baby. My SIL, multiple coworkers, and now one of my best friends have all had kids in the past 2-ish years and I feel so envious.

Only problem is we live in an expensive major city away from all family and in a 1 bed 1 bath apartment with a “2nd bedroom” that’s really more like a den (nursery potential, but no guest room). Daycare is like $2K+ a month here. An apartment with a proper second bedroom would cost us like $500 more a month. Based on our current spending, I’m not sure we’d have an extra $2,500 to spare monthly on top of other baby-related expenses. My job offers really good parental leave (3 months paid, plus remote work permissible for another few months), which would help offset childcare costs. But it kind of seems like my husband would have to double his salary for us to afford everything.

We also like to travel, and have lots of places left that we want to visit. I know it’s possible to travel with kids, but plane tickets for 2 people are already crazy expensive, let alone 3. I guess we could leave the baby with grandparents for more expensive trips (they would be totally happy to do it), but to do that we’d still have to get the baby to grandparents OR grandparents to the baby. We also don’t have a car (our neighborhood and city is very walkable) and would prefer not to, so us going to family would involve a flight too.

I just feel like the clock is ticking. I’m worried about my parents aging too, since they had me in their mid-30s. I really do want a baby. But I also feel like if we wait for the circumstances to be “right” it’ll never happen. Could really just use some commiseration and/or reassurance here.