u/applescracker

Is this something that was mentioned in an episode and I missed it?

Mods: this got removed once before for I guess being too popular of a topic? But trust me i can’t find any advice specific to what I want so please keep this up😭

We had an arranged marriage in the strictest most traditional sense of the word; we had one three-minute conversation in a crowded room, and then didn’t see or communicate with each other until the nikkah was done. We spent a total of maybe 4 hours together after our marriage, which was also with company nearby, and then both of us had to fly back to our respective countries.

I know long distance relationships are hard, and we’ve only been married for a month so I can’t expect everything to be perfect immediately but I cannot shake the thought that my husband and I simply have nothing in common. We call and we talk a lot and I try my best to be a good listener, asking questions and being engaged, but to be honest we don’t have the same vibe at all. There’s always a lot of awkward pauses where neither of us don’t know what to say, and I zone out a lot when he’s talking (which I do feel bad about, and I’m trying my best not to)

The problem is we have nothing in common to talk about; we end up talking about the same few common topics we have; wedding planning and his job and our future plans, but that’s not enough to sustain a conversation, especially when we’ve already picked these subjects to death. I try to tell him funny stories from my work or something, but I’m getting the feeling he’s not interested either.

My husband is a really nice man, he’s very sweet and kind and I think he’s a lovely person; I just don’t know how to communicate with him at all; and how to make sure he’s happy communicating with me. I’m also stressing about how this can be once we’re actually married and living together; will I start hating him or being resentful? I really don’t want that to happen

We had an arranged marriage in the strictest most traditional sense of the word; we had one three-minute conversation in a crowded room, and then didn’t see or communicate with each other until the nikkah was done. We spent a total of maybe 4 hours together after our marriage, which was also with company nearby, and then both of us had to fly back to our respective countries.

I know long distance relationships are hard, and we’ve only been married for a month so I can’t expect everything to be perfect immediately but I cannot shake the thought that my husband and I simply have nothing in common. We call and we talk a lot and I try my best to be a good listener, asking questions and being engaged, but to be honest we don’t have the same vibe at all. There’s always a lot of awkward pauses where neither of us don’t know what to say, and I zone out a lot when he’s talking (which I do feel bad about, and I’m trying my best not to)

The problem is we have nothing in common to talk about; we end up talking about the same few common topics we have; wedding planning and his job and our future plans, but that’s not enough to sustain a conversation, especially when we’ve already picked these subjects to death. I try to tell him funny stories from my work or something, but I’m getting the feeling he’s not interested either.

My husband is a really nice man, he’s very sweet and kind and I think he’s a lovely person; I just don’t know how to communicate with him at all; and how to make sure he’s happy communicating with me. I’m also stressing about how this can be once we’re actually married and living together; will I start hating him or being resentful? I really don’t want that to happen.

I’m sorry if this post isn’t allowed, I tried asking on Muslim marriage but they removed me