u/aquamarine_aq

Hi, I just found out Kringwinkel stopped delivering furniture's home. I'm an international student with no family here and the friends I have are also students like me. I'll have to move into my new room on 1st of September. It's completely unfurnished. I don't have the budget to furnish it from IKEA or any store which does home delivery atp. What do I do now? Any suggestions. I'm really exhausted with finding a house and rn I'm again exhausted with furnishing.

Little context - i come from an abusive family, dad suffered alcoholic addiction my whole life, just never had a positive male influence growing up, I still don't know how a family or relationship would be. I'm 25 female, growing up had lotsss of money problems, I've never dreamt about anything really, don't remember spending money on anything, cause i never had it. My Mum tried her best, but it's just crazy difficult to take care of a family and earn and live with someone who is an alcoholic. So my mum was very mean to me at times and also said many hurtful things, but I get it she was just in a really bad place and she didn't know how to be nice and positive.

So I am not academically bright, when i went to university i allowed people to bully me and be very mean, i knew i was the only one being treated like that but i still didn't know how to stand up or question them. My parents had their own demons to deal with so expecting them to protect me was not an option, even when I was a child in school.

In university i was living in a dorm with 3 other girls ( roomates) they were my bullies, they always told me to eat less, i had started to gain weight at that point because of the stress and other factors. I was told to not eat dinner or skip breakfast by these dumb bullies and they would literally taunt me. Now you might say they didn't force me, it was still my choice to eat food, you should know i had really low self esteem, no parent or elderly figure to give me good advice and I was so unhappy with myself. Those girl's always based my worth on my boobs and ass! They told me guy's would be interested in me only for those reasons. It just stuck with me guy's.

If someone is overweight they naturally have a fat ass and big tits, i cannot see myself as anything else atp. I've never never dated my whole life but recently i thought it's High time i start but i just realised all of these things I mentioned while i was on the date, I'm this fat girl who thinks guy's will like me for my ass!

I'm so embarrassed, I cannot respect myself atp.

I don't know how things got this way! In school I'm not saying I was perfect, I had issues, but they were not this major and I always had hope that I would go to college get a job and help my parents and I always told myself that the future holds something nice for me. But right now I don't know what to do.

I literally have no skills, no communication skills, i cannot make friends or be happy about anything.

This post is not about dating, I don't want to date atp. But I just want to respect myself, not see myself as someone with a big ass. Tbh i don't even have a good physique , I'm overweight and I literally don't keave home because of this, I legit hide from people because I don't have nice clothes to wear, nothing looks good on me! Also I cannot find my size most of the time.

Was diagnosed with depression and I'm on therapy now but I'm too embarrassed to discuss this with my therapist.

Edit - that you for the response guys, I don't want to loose weight (sure if it happens I'll accept it. ) the problem I'm facing is that I cannot see or even respect myself. I tell myself others would respect me if I loose weight, but deep down that's not what I want. I want to not be this superficial person who's into her looks or even thinks about them, I wan to respect myself irrespective. The problem is in this situation I don't see me respecting myself irrespective of the way I look.

little back story about me, I've never dated in my life! I soent 4 years with people who did not want to see me past my boobs and ass and it's just stuck with me now. I genuinely believe that myself. I can feel it. I always think the only contribution to a relationship I'd give are my boobs and ass! tbh I don't even have a good physique. I stopped working out a long long time ago. I contribute noticing to any conversations, be it friendship, relationship, anything. I'm not able to communicate properly,I don't have any skill whatsoever. I'm just a bimbo with bad physique atp. I go on date's and I can literally say nothing interesting. I don't represent myself well. I don't talk at all tbh. I always wait for the other person to talk and in my head I always think he's gonna choose me for the other things I mentioned.

someone please help me out here.

Hi people of this sub! I'm 25years old, 3 months ago I went on this date with a bumble date. bar of his choice, I ordered non alcoholic stuff so did he, but later that day I didn't feel dizzy or anything but I made choices I wouldn't otherwise do, he simply convinced me to go to his apartment, I said yes without thinking, while we we there, we made out and little more than make out but the whole time I was so not myself, things i normally wouldn't do. I said yes to things i would normally give it some thought about, but here i wasn't even thinking. now my doubt is was my drink spiked? what do I do?

Girls! met this guy on the hinge and started talking to him cause he was nice and funny. I'm 25f and I met him had a good time, first time being on a date. my nervousness and curiosity got the best out of me and we made out. after that i left, everything was good. but he still hasn't texted me, it's been 5 days now. I get plenty of y'all will say he's not that into you you got the answer. but it's my first time going on date's so I'm literally upset and can't stop thinking about him. is it because we madeout on our first date he was taken back or is there some other reason. I was pretty awkward with everything but also it was my first time so what do I do now!

now don't say stuff like just be yourself and be honest! I want to be all of those things but there's a reason why I've never been on a date before. so tell me what to do, what not. thanks!

hi Guys, I'm looking for a second hand bike market in gent. I tried the FB marketplace but the size I want is not available.