u/arsenik-han

Hi. Sorry if it's a wrong flare or wrong sub.

I got some taxidermy jackdaw feet earrings I want to wear for my wedding. I'm gonna be flying from the UK to Poland and I'm in the dark what the laws are and if I'm risking loosing the earrings going through the security check. I've had them for years and don't wear them often, just keep them safe and I'm quite attached to them. If there's any risk at all I'll probably settle for an alternative...

Thanks for any help!

I'm really struggling.

Being vegan is crucial for me, as it aligns with my moral views and environmental consciousness.

But ever since going vegan, my teeth started getting worse and worse. I just had my third tooth extraction today and I have one more to go (can't afford a dentist in the UK, so I've been going every time I visit my family, but I suppose it was not enough as well...).

My teeth are very fragile. I've made conscious choices to limit sugar, drink less coffee etc. but nowadays I think twice before I bite into a nut, and it never used to be a concern for me. I'm 29 and I had so many cavities, root canals etc. It's probably a mix of genetics and diet for me.

My nails have also become very soft.

I'm cooking at home most of the time, and I'm trying to do a variety of meals. But perhaps it's not enough.

My fiancé convinced me to eat eggs a few times in the past couple of years and once even cheese. I feel like perhaps it would be the right thing to do for my body, but every time I ate animal products, I felt an overwhelming sense of guilt.

I would eat eggs if they came from backyard chickens or if I had rescue chicken. Diary, however, grosses me out after years of avoiding it. I can't even stomach the flavour of it anymore. I'm sure I could readjust... I used to love cheese.

I'm sure if I tried hard enough, I'd probably figure out a balanced vegan diet, but so far it might not be working and I'm finding myself tired. I work a lot, it's hard to come up with nutritionous meals all the time.

Any ex-vegans here who had similar issues?

...by becoming a part-time funeral arranger apprentice.

I've been applying since I started my new job and realised I absolutely hate it (and then learned they're selling the business lol).

I saw a funeral arranger entry level position that pays roughly the same as I'm getting paid now, like 4p less.

I applied last minute, answered a ton of behavioural questions and forgot about it for several weeks, thinking there's no way I'll hear back.

Well, I did.

The job is part-time, 9-5, but I kind of wanted a part-time job so I can focus more on my art commisions and just creating in general as I'm an artist at heart and that's the one thing I feel fulfilled by. I have savings and I'm good with finances. I don't have the energy to make art with a full-time job as it is though and that would be a trade-off worth a pay cut for me. And it would give me some transferable skills (admin-wise) that could help me get out of the food industry and retail.

What jobs encountered by chance did you take to get out of the kitchen?

they told me that if I start early, I'll be finishing early. that half of the week they close at 4 anyway. or if i finish late, I won't have to start early.

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well, today I work 0930-2000 (not counting closing on my own). the guy who starts only 1 hour before me finishes at 4.

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the days we close early I'm usually scheduled off, so it feels like I almost never finish early lol. if you can call it that, because those early finishes you still have to perform the closing tasks, meanwhile the other two guys often just leave before closing, so I'm doing it on my own too, because again, I'm scheduled an hour later than the other guy and it's too dead, so he goes home and I'm left to finish off.

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the worst are the split shifts when I come in early, then have a 2-3h break, then have to come back for 2 hours. I'm neither earning more money, nor have ANY time whatsoever to do anything productive or meaningful.

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and that's only one issue out of a hundred that I have with this place.

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I was told the last person was doing a great job until they started calling in sick frequently after a couple of months and I feel like I understand why they did it, because honestly? same! i feel my life getting sucked out of me.

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I'm desperately looking for other jobs, but they're all going to be similar. but maybe at least they will be tolerable in other ways. I wish I could make a jump for a different career path. there are no jobs in the area for my area of skills though. :c

Hi. So the other day posted about my new Praktica BCX that I was very excited to try out.

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Soon I found out the ISO cannot be changed (the outer ring turns when lifted, but the dial numbers don't move). And now after firing a few test pictures, the shutter suddenly stopped working. Could it be that the battery simply needs changing? Or is the shutter mechanically stuck?

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I'm going to try troubleshooting before I decide to return, but it's a big shame. The model I have is also less popular, so it's very hard to find specific resources that'd help me navigate fixing it. I'm considering bringing it to the local camera shop for assessment, but I know service would cost more than simply replacing a camera like this.

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Also, if I do decide to return, will the seller accept it back? I got it off ebay and it was sold as used and tested and working. The shutter worked when it first arrived, so I can see how they'd potentially blame me for breaking it. The ISO being jammed is a different story though and wasn't mentioned as an issue.

Hi! I'm looking to re-learn to drive.

I took enough driving lessons to attempt a practical exam years ago, but chickened out and never did it in the end. My skills are rusty and mostly gone, and also I learned in a different country with right-side traffic lol.

Who would you recommend?

Hi. So my fiancé and I settled on doing a micro-wedding, no more than 20 people.

We are getting a neo-pagan slavic hand-fasting ceremony led by my grandpa on a castle grounds. I kind of dreamed of having a traditional folklore band or singing for the ceremony, but I find it hard to imagine how it'd work.

It's not going to be a long ordeal. I don't know if people would even bother dancing. Half the guests probably couldn't care less about this kind of music lol. I would LOVE to have someone sing for us and I found the perfect duo just for this occasion though!

But am I supposed to hire them just for an hour, make them travel for such a small payoff? Do people do that? Wedding is in Poland.

I'm Polish and my family has a traditional idea of what a wedding should be. they wanna help, and they want compromises. my mum especially has involved herself more than my fiancé and I were comfortable with.

we initially decided to have the wedding in Poland (fiancé is British) because my grandparents are too old to travel. it was difficult to plan things from abroad and my mum started making phone calls and researching things for us when we didn't really want her to do it. in the end we picked a place close to grandparents that we didn't love and that was too big for the amount of guests that would come (30ish people max).

after a while of going along with it, pre-booking the date and the venue, fiancé and I had a heart to heart that this isn't exactly what we want. that we want something more low-key, that we don't truly love the venue. first we wanted to change it to renting a bunch of small lake houses and having a BBQ with family and maybe hiring someone to do our handfasting.

but then elopement became an option. I like the idea in a way that it would take away so much of the stress of planning a traditional wedding and financial strain.

on the other hand, I know my family is going to be upset about it, and my mum has expressed a clear disapproval. "I'm her only child, how can she not come to her only child's wedding, she picked up a dress for our wedding a year ago, she's gonna be there, there's no other option".

I don't wanna disappoint my family, but the whole point of us choosing to elope is because they didn't respect our boundaries, even if everything they do is in good faith.

I feel torn. how did you guys deal with your family's disapproval and guilt-tripping? Did you elope? Do you regret eloping? Or maybe there's someone who ended up not eloping and being glad they didn't?

so I recently joined this kitchen and the knives are so dull I can't cut through limes or slice tomatoes.

they have a stone (not a whole set like my previous place) and they don't use it, they mainly use sharpening rod, but it clearly isn't enough. head chef says it's because 1. he's got no time for it 2. it slowly takes the metal away and ruins the knives if you use the stone

my previous kitchen was way more busy, and yet we still found the time to sharpen all the knives properly. and yeah, sharpening should slowly take the metal away... that's how you sharpen it. the knife won't disappear.

He also doesn't let non-kitchen staff wash the knives. I thought it was because he was worried about their safety, I learned it's because he's scared they'll scratch the knives (???) lol

I am baffled. He's overall better than my previous head chef, but wtf. I really don't feel safe using those dull ass knives

EDIT: oh yeah they also open cans with the same knives because the can opener is half-broken

beware