Hi, I’m going hiking in Banff in September. I’m looking for something somewhat reasonably priced for the hike. I don’t mind dropping. A few hundred but no 600 dollar jackets please lmao looking for a good overall jacket and pants. Or brands to go for or avoid
I will be finishing my MBA program before long and I have three years of car sales experience (before I started my mailman job to focus on school three years ago) and my real estate license. I’d really like a job that has me travel whether that be sales, advertising or whatever. Traveling is not required but I’d like a job hopefully making 75k plus a year starting off. Or a decent guarantee pay plus commission. I’m really lost here everyone any advice would be great.
I 29m have been very tempted to break no contact after four months. We did not agree on no contact but she 31f seemed to absolutely hate me (unjustly) at the end. Everyone told her to try and relax and understand she was over reacting, even her best friend took my side in what separated us. I have wanted to reach out so bad because she has gone full alcoholic since we separated and I miss her but I know last time we talked I brought her so much anxiety because she is an avoidant. I want to call and see how she is but every time I go to I think about the stress and anxiety seeing my name will bring her. So I don’t. Sometimes the hard part is saving someone from yourself
I added this girl on my recommended friends list on Facebook. She reached out to me asking if we knew each other, I said I thought so but long story short we did not. She continued the conversation and basically asked if I wanted to hang out sometime and I said sure. I typically date older women but a pretty girl who seemed cool was taking interest so why not? We started texting and using snapchat. She seemed cool and then eventually we hung out. She told me she likes older guys because she never had a father figure and she has daddy issues. She wants a smart man to guide her through life. This seemed alarming but also logical in a way. Anyway, we ended up kissing and she basically told me her kink was being used. She even said, “who am I to tell a man what he can’t do with my body.” This really caught me off guard. We did not sleep together this was all in my car at the park.
After that it felt really good we kept talking and getting closer. We hung out a few days later and got lunch and drove around. We ended up talking pulled over in my car and kissed some. This was all moving a little faster than I am used to but thats okay. After she left she told me through text she was super comfortable with me and shes down for whatever.
She then goes on a week family trip and comes back a few days ago. While gone she was telling me she missed me and even she loved me. Then when she got back i kinda felt like i had to fight to see her and then finally she made time to see me today. She overslept and we only hung out for an hour. In that hour we talked and kissed she told me she is long term interested. Asked if she could move in in a year. She loves our conversations. Although I noticed every time I kiss her or something she says, “i cant take you serious you seem so innocent.” She has said that since day one. Now i always just thought this was due to her not understanding her emotions but she said shes never had this issue with anyone else. Also, these dudes were like in their mid 30’s. I was offended honestly because like it made me feel less than in a way. Like I am sorry I am not comfortable with being aggressive with a woman immediately like that? I just really don’t want to cross any boundaries and god forbid catch a case.
Basically, it seems like what she is telling me is she doesn’t take me seriously when it comes to intimacy because Im not being aggressive. She wants me to like grab her hard or even by the throat. She just so early wants aggressive treatment and to be told what to do in every way. Not just sexually like she wants me to tell her what to do in every way. This is very different because im used to women wanting to be asked and treated like an equal, not like a subject or to be aggressively treated. Im totally down for aggressive sex or intimacy, Im honestly a fan of it but like off the rip? And like especially after years of the, “me too” movement.
Anyway, what do yall think? Oh, she also told me she loves being stalked because she wants men to obsess over her.
I am just under a year away from my MBA and while that still a while away I want to explore career ideas. I got my realtor license right before the pandemic and ended up selling cars for three years and I really loved that job. I was very good at it. I decided to go to school for psychology to become a therapist but after I got my undergrad I decided to pivot into an MBA program for a variety of reasons. So now I am sitting here like I should really explore what I want to do but I am terrified I wont find anything due to jobs seeming to want experience in certain fields and I have been a mailman for three years to have stable income during school. I love sales and I love working with people. I do NOT want to be an accountant or anything just punching numbers all day. Id love a high end sales job or sales managing position but Im open. I would also love to travel. Thoughts?
Im a 29 year old male and I have been insecure my entire life. Starting as a child I had extreme anxious attachment to my parents and it was debilitating when I was in school up until about 7th grade Id say. It wasn’t perfect but once I was able to drive I was a bit better, again not perfect. I moved in 5th grade to where I am now and instantly became an outcast. I was not athletic and kind of nerdy so I was always picked last and in my friend groups I was always more of an addition, never anyone’s best friend. When I turned 20 I got a best friend (I maintained my school friends as well) and I had a girlfriend since 17. She didn’t really help my security because while she loved me she was pretty out of pocket in certain ways. At 21 I started a serving job and this began the first and only time period in my life I felt popular. I was surrounded by beautiful women my age or slightly younger by a year and there were very few guys who worked there. I had a lot of great times hanging out with these girls but I had a girlfriend and an open relationship, but honestly I was so insecure I never made a move on any of them and honestly that still eats me up inside because I felt like that was a wasted opportunity. They literally made it obvious they wanted to sleep with me and I declined them. When I finally slept with someone else they gave me herpes and that took my already insecure self and just made it 1000x worse. When my girlfriend and I broke up I had another girl I was talking to who made me feel like king of the world and within a few months ripped me to shreds. If I had a top 100 list of worst things ever said to me, she would be all 100. She annihilated my little but of self esteem I had developed as a popular server and sent me into the world’s deepest depression. And I couldnt let go of her so I continued to keep her around as she slept with other dudes, making me feel less than and reminded me of so. I lost my job because of it (i was a salesman at this point) and I cant explain the hell i went through. Now I am a mailman and I have started to learn to function and I recently just go out of a four month situationship with someone I really cared about as a friend I knew for eight years. I saw all the red flags going in but I was vulnerable and she was so loving but then became very toxic and manipulative and hates me now for no good reason. This ended a few weeks ago. No contact for 16 days and it still hurts me but Im pretty sure she has BPD because she does this to everyone and has zero long term friendships or relationships. Theres way more to why I suspect that but I am keeping it short. Anyway, now my ego is once again in the lowest low and it’s always low but now even worse. I don’t think I am a bad looking guy, Im 6’3, average shape, funny, smart, tons of friends (6 who say im their best friend,) a good job, in master’s school and Id say pretty well put together for my age. But I ABSOLUTELY hate myself. I spend 20-30 minutes a day staring in the mirror criticizing everything about me. I struggled to make eye contact because I feel less than. I feel like I will never have an attractive, healthy partner and anybody who talks to me its a chore. I feel like nothing. Anyway, any advice?