u/aw_hellno

I guess the best way to put it is my mind expects something else and is then confronted by the reality multiple times a day. I'm totally fine bottoming with my natal genitals and enjoy it, but not being able to stp really disturbs me. For whatever reason I find that borderline embarrassing and haven't confided in him that that is my main issue.

I've mentioned to him the configuration I have going on just feels wrong and he says things like "it could be worse, you could have a micro penis, or a dick that's non-functional in some way, etc etc" and he won't listen when I tell him that's invalidating. I get trying to keep some perspective and staying positive(which are important attributes for him), but first and foremost it feels invalidating. And I don't even feel fully functional to be honest.

I'm curious how other people have described this to their cis partners and what made it hit home for them.

As the title says, my elderly cat has been quite clingy lately and she's been wanting to sleep directly next to me. 99.99% of the time when he stays over we move her off the bed, or she doesn't even bother getting up on it because there's clearly no room.

Tonight I (30M) asked if we could keep her inbetween us, and he (also 30M) initially said yes. I was nodding off to sleep when he angrily says he's going to drive home, it was almost midnight so I basically half begged him to stay in my home where I knew he would be safe. Anyway it culminated in a big spat where he called me an asshole, and him driving home. I was trying to explain that we always remove her and just one night wouldn't kill us, and that people regularly sleep with their pets on or between them.

He feels like I'm putting a cat before him, I truly don't see the problem with letting her remain here for one night. She's a living, breathing creature who obviously also has a need for affection and companionship. Which quite honestly I don't feel like I give her enough off now I'm in a relationship. I feel crushed that this happened, I'm now regretting not moving her but I really feel like this didn't have to happen. I'm really confused why this was such a big issue.

1. The action that I took that needs to be judged is whether trying to fight for the cat to stay in the bed was the right judgement call
2. Perhaps that action makes me an asshole because it could potentially indicate I don't care about him?

I have a strong suspicion I have inattentive ADHD and have just slipped through the cracks til now, I think an assessment and treatment would improve my work life in particular. Does anyone know of a GP who is able to diagnose/treat this? Preferably in the Eastern Suburbs or CBD but I'm happy to travel

Edit: thanks for the down votes guys, I literally just lost my job and am looking for the cheaper option if possible.

As the title says I'm wondering if I should pursue this. One of the gyms is in a super queer area, I think this location would be perfect. I wanted to suggest hiring a trans/queer PT (or a cis person who would be knowledgeable in helping people achieve their transition related fitness goals. Working out was a big part of my transition and it surely is for a lot of other people)

and some form of community outreach to get trans people in the area interested

I wanted to get opinions on whether the gym feels hostile to you as a trans person? What barriers do you face? Would this actually be useful?

Hey guys, as the title says I'm wondering if I should pursue this. One of the gyms is in a super super queer area, I think this location would be perfect. I wanted to suggest hiring a trans/queer PT and some form of community outreach to get trans people in the area interested

I wanted to get opinions on whether the gym feels hostile to you as a trans person? What barriers do you face? Would this actually be useful?