u/axexxl4

I have worked in England and Spain. In England was the best, they used the brigade system, it was organized, high standards.

In Spain the standards are low, you are a bit understaffed, and the pay is terrible, but at least it was a friendly atmosphere.

Then theres Norway. Maybe I just had bad luck with my first job. Severely understaffed. Im a single person on shift doing the job of 5 people. I do dishwashing, prep, grilling, plating, cleaning the whole kitchen, desserts... I could go on. Then of course, I have to stay longer to do my job properly, but my boss asks me to be faster, because he doesnt want me staying moee than rhe scheduled hours, which is physically impossible. The head chef can barely speak english, its terrible, things constantly go wrong and theres arguments between him and FOH because misunderstandings. They dont have any recipes they just make stuff up depending on the mood. The plating is completely random, no 2 dishes of the same thing look the same. Steaks are constantly coming out wrong. And the best part, i get all the blame, for no reason, just for being the new guy. Everybody in FOH knows hes full of it, and he clearly cant do his job, so at least they are on my side.

Now im doing interviews for a new job...hes telling me if i can do a service alone for 300 COVERS. This is insane. I dont understand, what do they expect you to do? Maybe if it was a mcdonalds, but this is a restaurant where every plate will take 10-15 minutes. Its just impossible.

I understand they pay you more than in other countries but its just not physically possible to work that fast, no matter who you are.

Im living in a new place, meeting new people, making fun plans, spending time in nature, having a great job. Yet some days like today i feel completely empty.

Nothing is good enough, neither i am. I want to move already again. Thinking it will solve my issues.

I was a super shy guy and over the years ive opened up and become the polar oposite. But its just a façade i use to interact with this world. I cannot be myself. I have to be this dumb cool guy that makes jokes, never has issues, is always happy. People will never like me for the real person inside. They never want to have real conversations, its too boring for them.

To be honest i almost end myself in the past. I was a top of a parking lot and just didnt find the meaning of life.

And of course, dating life. I used to tell myself it wasnt an issue. Someone will pop up. A great person that will just love me. But no. They just want sex, or someone to get over their ex. They dont want me for myself. Being 27 and seeing people getting married, having kids or just being a decent couple makes me feel worthless.

The worst is that probqbly having that person, having kids, a house and being settled would solve the issue. But im convinced it will not. Some of us are just born broken, and nothing can fix us.

Hello, so i have a date this friday to go out with drinks for a girl i met in Tinder. Im spanish and normally there you give a kiss in each cheek. I know norwegians are different but a handshake seems super weird to give to a date, like its a business meeting. I want to make it obvious that im interested in her but i also dont want her to think im assaulting her with my spanish salute.

Also if you have any general tips for nordic women, im usually very straight and to the point, i like flirting but if i see connection i just straight up invite her to my place or ask if we can go to hers, is that too direct?

Im so tired of this. Once again i meet a girl, we hit it off and get along very well, go on hiking trips together, and nothing happens.

Its always like this for me. Meet girl, get along very well, nothing happens. Maybe im too ugly? Do i just need to tell her straight up i wanto have sex with her? Its like the 6th time. Im tired of this.

Do i need to just be super touchy?? But then i will just be a creep. Compliments isnt the game because it seems needy. And if i just tell her "i like you a lot" im the biggest loser in 100 miles around me.

I dont know. Maybe it just wasnt meant to be. Maybe i will just be alone my whole life and thats it, god doesnt want me to reproduce. I just want to end it. Why is it always like this.

Is it impossible to get past "just friends" without doing some crazy work? I know if i looked like my friends with a full head of hair, 6ft and strong as a bull she would just tell me to rawdog her on the spot. Im so tired. I cant even cry.