u/bananaontherocks

i (22F) recently had an old friend text me and my boyfriend (23M) suddenly has an issue with it.

i’m not the type to be too picky about if my bf asks me to block someone, and i feel he didn’t even hear me out on this one.

i had a friend who happens to be a guy reach out to me maybe a month ish ago, this friend i haven’t spoke to since before his fame. he’s politically very involved in things and has even been on Jubilee.

i’ve obviously seen him on my reels or fyp, but i didn’t want to randomly reach out because of his fame, but ofc i had questions as i myself am a youtuber on and off.

when he randomly reached out we talked about his expirience, he told me a lot of things about certain famous people, things you’d never guess, advice i never knew about becoming more known.

this advice was super helpful, and i even told my boyfriend about it the day it happened.

today my bf saw me snap chatting this guy, and this is when he got upset. he asked why i was snap chatting another guy and i said “oh it’s just ____” and he said “just ____ right it’s a guy.” and i said hes an old friend that could help me with my youtube quite a bit.

my boyfriend said “you don’t need help with your youtube, you did fine and got thousands of followers and took a break. you don’t need more advice you need to post, block him and if you need advice youtube it.”

and i said “youtube would not tell me some of the raw and real things he’s telling me.” and my bf said that it would if i looked hard enough. and i said “i don’t want to just block someone like this, he’s an old friend and im open with you about what we text about i never lied to you about anything and didn’t hide my phone when snap chatting him” and he said “how do i know you’re not lying?” and i was a bit silenced by this.

i am frustrated bc this isn’t the first time he’s made me block a guy with a big following that i’ve known with advice, it happens to be guys. i blocked the last dude and i found myself having a lot of questions left unanswered. i just want help or to relate to someone, and no i don’t have a famous girl, it’s only been 2 guys and i blocked the first one for him that i didn’t rlly know that well. this time im a little more frustrated given that he hasn’t listened to me and seriously thinks youtubing is the same thing as directly speaking to someone.

he said “fine. i’ll get on your phone and block them myself.”

this was all on a car drive home. so we get home and i dropped the situation, we normally turn on the tv in the living room and i sat by him and asked where the remote was, i cleaned the living room recently so i know i didnt misplace it. he shrugged his shoulders and said idk.

i said “well i left it on the counter here.” and with all the sass you can think of, he said “the counter is in the kitchen if you wanna look over there.” he knew i meant the living room table, i accidentally said counter.

i sat there for a bit and just looked at him and he wouldn’t look back at me. i decided to go to bed early after that so i stood up and went to the room to sleep.

i woke up in the middle of the night to him getting into bed aggressively, on purpose to wake me up, and he made sure to lay far from me. i moved my head to the opposite end of the bed in front of the fan.

whether on purpose or not, he moved his feet and kicked my back but i ignored it thinking it was an accident. he moved again and kicked my head to the point it made an noise so i wound my leg up and kicked him back, he sat up and yelled “THE FUCK WAS THAT FOR?” i didn’t respond. he moved the fan away from blowing on me and called me an asshole.

i waited it out a bit and snuggled up next to him to sleep and he shoved me off. i said “why can’t we cuddle” he said “it’s too hot.” he’s never said this even when it has been super hot. he’s never shoved me off of him or been so rude. and we’ve also never gone to bed mad at each other. so i did cry.

i cried enough for him to notice at least and he was awake looking at me and adjusted his pillow and whatever, laid down to go back to sleep. i’ve moved to the couch now where i’m typing this and crying in my own little area. i cannot believe he’s this mad over this guy texting me, and me for once refusing to block someone. maybe i’m just not understanding.

i like new flavors and odd combinations, i wanna know what i should try!

here’s mine, i like peanut butter, mayo, and onion sandwiches! saw it online one time decided to try it first and i make them quite often now.

i’ll keep it short and simple, my boyfriend got blackout drunk last night, he got pretty heated at a sarcastic joke i made, and he bit my stomach then walked away. yes it hurt, it didn’t leave a mark though. and i was pretty fed up with him walking around the apartment vomiting and acting a mess so i called the cops bc i didn’t want to put up with him.

cops come and i basically tell them i don’t want to put up with him, can you maybe scare him and make him act right etc, and they asked how the night went and what happened, i was drinking too so i told them everything not realizing a tiny bite is DV.

they arrested him and wouldn’t let me speak to him and no matter what i said they wouldn’t let him go, they wouldn’t let me go with. i cried all night long realizing what huge mistake i have made.

he didn’t call me until hours later confused asking what happened. i didn’t tell him over the phone, but there is body cam footage of me explaining the situation. my bf has never been violent before and he has a clean record.

i do NOT want him convicted of a felony just bc he drunkenly bit me, we bite each other randomly as a joke all the time this one just happened to be harder and i don’t think he realized how hard it was but i don’t believe his intention was to hurt me.

on the body cam footage i said im not scared of him, no i dont think hes gonna hurt me, no hes not violent etc.

im basically wondering what are the chances they drop this case? a felony is a SERIOUS charge. i’m filled with so much regret even calling them to help. his bond was $5,000.

it’s been over 2 years since i’ve driven, i used to drive anyways despite my anxiety around it and not trusting myself. my car broke down so i havent had a new vehicle since.

i moved from a small town in illinois to san diego bc of my man being in a military, a friend of ours said he needs his car off base bc he got deployed. so i agreed to help but i told my spouse i am scared and havent driven in a long time.

at the start of the drive everything was fine no one was around and i was very confident this would all be okay.

well we get onto a 5 lane interstate once again im like its okay im doing fine. out of nowhere he lane switched and i have him otp through the car he says “you need to switch lanes asap” and i look to my left there are so many cars trying to pass and hurdling i’ve never in my life pulled out in front of someone nor had the confidence to do so.

i said “no i can’t” and i ended up on a random exit. my spouse was very frustrated saying i could’ve done it all this other crap etc. my anxiety spiked, i felt my heart race and my confidence completely drop, my vision went jerky i didn’t understand what i was doing i suddenly wasn’t paying attention and everything seemed random as if all my driving expirience had flown out the window. i sat at a four way stop ppl waiting for me to go but i was so convinced someone would t bone me or that i was doing something wrong.

i found a gas station! i was so happy to park and stop the car the relief i had. and i told him my anxiety isn’t allowing me and i don’t trust myself. he told me i can’t blame him and i said but i am blaming you honestly, you know i haven’t driven in over 2 years and that im scared to drive. it’s my first time driving in a big city and you suddenly lane switched expecting me to do so, yes i blame you.

i’m not genuinely mad at my man, he’s used to driving around here im not. my anxiety has held me back from quite a bit but if my gut says to stop driving IM NOT DRIVING! i don’t care how mad you are at me and how dissapointed i made you. i cannot.

so today i have disappointed myself. my therapist i had awhile ago told me to never beat myself up with my anxiety and to thank my body for trying to protect me or be on high alert, but it’s hard when it seems like it stops me from doing things others would just brush off and continue to do.

i need a reality check or some advice. my man doesn’t have anxiety so he doesn’t exactly get it but i don’t despise him for that, it actually helps my anxiety to me around someone who doesn’t, rather than who does which triggers mine.

but this isn’t the first time ive dropped and stopped something and said i cannot do it.