

She wants to be close
But doesn't actually want to put in the effort. Gets upset when I have friends or a relationship but when I want to have a close mother daughter relationship with her today she told me " you can't be always turning to me for help or needing to talk , and we run out of things to talk about" some days she won't even respond when I talk. Then she cries that's were not close.
I'm thinking I'm in perimenopause
Always had painful periods diagnosed pcos and recently pmdd but im wondering more perimenopause turning 37 this year. New family doctor is doing blood work for me.
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But I started having random new allergies, muscles and joint pain, arthritis (maybe something else also have hypothyroidism and possible sjogrens) hair loss, insomnia days before period, my period start off and on I'll spot for two days get it for two days then stop and get it again until it's done, I feel crazy right before my period once I get it I'm fine bad thoughts are gone, can hardly wear makeup allergies, ibs, large blood clots on period never had that, terrible acid reflux right before and I'm probably forgetting things.
But i am tired of this and hope the blood test show something
Everytime and I don't learn " mothers day"
I always try to get my mom present for every holiday. And her reaction is always less then great. I don't know if I'm making a big deal out of nothing but if I didn't get her anything then she would get mad.
Today I gave her a card and gift cards I get less then an "ohhh". One year I had flowers sent she got upset at me. And then I end up crying. She keeps saying she wants a relationship with me but I don't know I always feel upset around her like she doesn't want to even try l.