u/blinkrandom

Good morning everyone (or good evening wherever you are in the world)!

I'm currently waiting for a diagnostic laparoscopy. It's been cancelled and rearranged four times now, but with everything crossed it should be going ahead next Tuesday, 26th May.

I've been thinking about the symptoms of endometriosis, particularly recently of course, and I just wondered if I could speak to some of you who have experienced this themselves.

So one of the pages I read about symptoms included "pain during or after" particular things, including bowel movements, urinating, and having sex. But it never specifies where the pain is often felt. I do get pain after these things, not during, but when I read these pages I assumed they meant you'd feel pain for that specific issue in that specific area (eg painful bowel movements = pain in backside, stomach, etc). But for me, the pain is at or in my uterus. The pain is where I would normally feel period pain/cramps.

I just wondered if that's what the pages meant, or if that's not really a universal thing. My chronic pain is always in and around my abdomen, lower back, hips, sometimes my thighs - but after the three examples listed above, the pain is almost always in my front lower abdomen. I feel period-like cramps.

Does anyone else experience pain during/after these things, and if so, where do you feel the pain? I need to know if anyone else is the same as me!

Hi guys

I made a Sim ages and built up this whole backstory between her and Rainelle Neengia, who is buried at House of Fallen Trees. My sim made friends with one of the Teens (John Smith's children), got them to give my Sim Rainelle's grave, and moved it to my Sim's house.

I've just loaded up the house and the grave is completely gone. I can still see it on the lot from the neighbourhood view. The only thing I've done recently that changed the game files was re-organised my downloads. I tried to replace this with one of my back ups - a back up that definitely had the grave on the lot - but the grave is still missing.

Does anyone know what I might have done wrong, and how I can get the grave back? I'm playing with clean templates if that helps. Thank you!

I'm so ANGRY.

16th May 2025. They cancelled 5 days before surgery. They didn't give me a reason why.

31st March 2026. They cancelled the day before. I had a cold/flu virus - fair enough.

12th May 2026. Two weeks to go. They just called me a few hours ago to cancel. Something to do with theatres, I don't know, I couldn't tune in properly after I heard "I'm afraid we'll have to cancel..."

My managers have been wonderful but it's been SUCH a ball ache to have to change my rotas around, have my mum change her rotas around (she's driving me there and back, and has asked to be there for me) and my partner change his rotas (he's going to be looking after me, and also wants to be there). It's bad enough to change them once or twice. Now we're having to change them, again, for the fourth time.

I'm in chronic pain every single day. I can't urinate properly several days before, and several days on, my periods - something I've been dealing with for just over a year now (edit: the retention has been for a year; problems with my periods have been for the last 20 or so years). Each time I'm on my period, I have to debate calling in sick, or taking painkillers that seriously space me out - because working through the pain is literally impossible to do. I bleed through pads every 2 hours. I've tried meds that will reduce bleeding - it worked until I got hives from them. I've tried all kinds of contraceptives that are safe for me to try, for even a modicum of relief for the pain or the bleeding - every single one has given me side effects that I can't work with. My pharmacist told me a few months ago that I've now officially run out of options. I've been avoiding initiating sex for a few months out of fear of after-sex pain - me and my partner tried again this morning, and my entire abdomen now feels like it's having a punch-out with my pelvic bones.

If they cancel my next appointment - now rearranged to 26th May 2026, in four weeks - I honestly don't know what I'm going to do. I can't handle being let down again. Again! It's taking away so much of my quality of life. I don't look forward to anything anymore.

Shit. I'm so angry.

Yeah that's right. This post is about cutlery of all things.

Me and my partner have been together for 5.5 years. He's honestly wonderful, we're deeply and sickeningly in love with each other lol and we make each other laugh every day. I've been living with him for about 2 years now.

Last week he mentioned how he wants to order some more cutlery from IKEA. I said, okay, do what you gotta do. He shows me a set he liked, and asked what I thought. My reaction was one that I imagine is most people's reactions: indifference, I suppose. I was like "yeah, sure, whatever you want, as long as I can comfortably hold it I'm not bothered about the aesthetics".

To clarify, my partner hates shiny cutlery. The cutlery he currently has isn't matte per se, it's just not too shiny. The set he's ordered - and has since arrived - is proper matte metal.

I have never cared about stuff like this. Textures sometimes bother me, but only for things like clothes. I didn't think cutlery would ever bother me.

I just ate a yoghurt with one of the matte spoons, and...

The sensation was...

Not pleasant.

My partner is currently away visiting his parents, and I'm sat on the sofa in disgust at this texture. And I was just looking at this spoon and it looks like an OLD spoon. Like a spoon you've had for years and it's become water-stained. It looks and feels worn, even though they're literally brand new and all we've done is wash them after taking them out of the box.

Anyway... I will likely never tell him this, and I don't think it's going to bother me so much that I'll disown him or the cutlery lol but... Wow. Considering this was something I literally had no opinion on at all, I very much have an opinion now! 😅