u/blueberri_muffinsx

I’ve never worn heels and don’t want to. Any suggestions for a shoe that gives an illusion of wearing heels? I want something I can dress up or down.

I was soo obsessed with this gum in high school. Pretty sure the brand was orbit and I cannot find anything like it now. It’s a combination of cantaloupe and mint.

I bought the one linked about a year ago and it has gotten so nasty. There’s too many crevices small and big that are all hard to clean up. The top underneath the lid has rusted and food gets caught behind the lid. Also I cannot keep down the finger prints even though it says it’s finger print proof. I need something that is just one piece, no crevices, looks nice (doesn’t have to be stainless steel). This trash can will get used constantly and it will not be hidden. It need to be regular size that will fit Sam’s Club trash bags.

I’m (32f) really really struggling and I feel like I need a lot of help. Possibly a mental health rehab of some sorts? Does anyone know of one and the requirements to get into one here in wv?

I would say I got into my new relationship too early before I could fully heal. Me and my ex of 6 years broke up June 2024 and me and my current bf started talking seriously around October 2024. We went on trips and dated and became official around March 2025.

I was doing fine in the relationship until around August 2025 and since then it’s been downhill. I found out he watches porn and it triggered something inside of me that has not be able to go away. It just makes me feel like I’ve been cheated on again, not good enough etc.

Ever since that moment my mind has been non stop wondering and worrying. “Does he find me attractive”? “Does he love me”? “Will he leave me for someone else”? “Is he still in love with his ex”?

He used to do a great job at reassuring me but within the past few months I can tell he’s so sick of it.

My head feels like it’s about to explode at all times. I micromanage things he does, I ask him a lot of questions, I’m in a bad mood a lot of the time. Idk what to do.

Currently I’m unemployed I suppose. I’ve been doing 1099 jobs for 8 years or so. I had a good paying one but business has been so slow. I only pet sit now and can do delivery jobs on the side like instacart but it’s all few and far between I guess.

An Amazon warehouse opened up near me and it’s $19/hour. It’s good money for my area. I just don’t know if it’ll be a waste of my time? I’ve heard awful things about it and I’m dreading the 8 hour training that starts in just a few hours.

I can’t get to sleep so it’ll be a long day. Also I have horrible anxiety so thinking about having a regular job again has really been making me anxious.

Edit to add: fortunately I don’t have many bills at all. Mostly just car insurance and I live with my bf that would like occasional help with bills. We each have a kid.

TLDR I’ve mostly done 1099 work for years, but business has slowed down and I’m barely making money from pet sitting and occasional delivery gigs. I’m considering an Amazon warehouse job paying $19/hr, but I’m anxious about starting a regular job again and worried it’ll be a waste of time because of the things I’ve heard about it.

I got a job being a Delivery Station Warehouse Associate. I start training tomorrow but I’m contemplating even doing this job. The only appeal is the $19/hour and flexible schedule so I can go to school and see my daughter. I’ve been looking up videos about this job and everyone looks to be in their early 20s.

Me (32f) and my bf (32m) only have sex twice a week, it could be more or less but on average it’s twice a week. Ever since we’ve gotten together I’ve seen signs of porn usage. Typically porn bothered me in the past but not enough to feel so crazy because it never affected sex like how it does now with my current bf. We were together 24/7 because he got on disability after breaking his back and I had a super flexible job where I could pick my schedule.

I started to notice when I’d gone back home from picking my daughter up or coming back from work that there would be cum stains on the bed. So instead of having sex with me, willing, ready, have told him several times I dislike how much we do not have sex, blah blah. Instead of having sex with ME he decides to wait until I’m gone for 30 minutes to a few hours to jerk off to a screen :) I practically beg to have sex more. I’ve told him right to his face, I’ve told him in nonchalant ways…nothing works. He doesn’t see the problem with porn, wouldn’t care if I watched porn blah blah.

A few days ago and in the past few weeks I’ve really been letting my feelings out again about the porn. Telling him it hurts my feelings. It seemed like he got more sexual, wanting to smack my ass n stuff and we had sex 2 days in a row and then he wanted a blow job. I was so happy. Then this morning I see a similar situation I’ve seen before…him going in and out of the bathroom 3 times and he left for work, I go in the bathroom and see my skincare drawer open and a paper towel that it’s very clear to see he used it to wipe off his dick.

Now I can never say for sure if he’s using porn lately because I haven’t found evidence but I’m not stupid. He used to go on private browsing and just leave all his porn up and porn on Reddit and now everything is scrubbed constantly. He always said he’d never hide anything or delete anything but now he does because of my “bitching” this is what i assume. So it’s so great I can’t clearly confront him and say I know what he’s doing but once again, I’m not an idiot.

I’m just sick of this shit. I’m a pretty person but he doesn’t make me feel that way. I’ve asked him why he doesn’t get turned on by seeing me naked and he said it’s because he sees me naked all the time every day. I try to do things lately to make me more attractive, I’ve been up on my skin care, dying and lifting my eyelashes, I wear my hair down all the time and not for him but for my own comfort, I wear really skimpy clothes around the house.

He pretty much doesn’t give me the time of the day. I get maybe a few compliments a month.

It all really fucking sucks because outside of our sex life he’s a great man, we could have the best relationship seriously if the sex part were good.

Rapid fire some things about me…

-32F
-USA east coast
-10 yr old daughter (goes to public school and dads on weekends)
-3 yr old step daughter (have every other week)
-past relationship trauma that has made its way into my new relationship (need help to chill out)
-want to find a career or path in life now that my daughter is in school and she’s self sufficient for the most part.
-would like to work out in some way or another every day.
-drink more water
-eat more and healthier (typically eat once a day and maybe binge snacks and candy)
-I have anxiety, some depression and ruminate a lot.

I feel like I need to get in the car and run away. I’m sick of being hopeful in life and then everyone and everything including me, constantly disappoints me.

It was suspected I had MRSA in my nose so urgent care gave me bactrim to take for 7 days. This was in December 2025. It’s worth noting as well that I had taken some doxycycline on and off a few months prior for acne but not super consistently. So now it’s June 2026 and I have been having type 5, 6, and 7 Bristol stool types ever since I stopped the bactrim. Throughout my life my stools have consistently been types 2-4, very quick and easy for the most part but now I find myself sitting on the toilet for upwards to 20 minutes in the morning.

Has anyone else had this happen to them before? I’m assuming this change is due to the bactrim?

I’m 32 and this is the first time I’ve actually taken birth control pills consistently. I highly suspect I have PMDD. I also have heavy periods and hormonal acne, which I take spironolactone for.

The first week on the pill I thought my mood was leveling out, but now I’m pretty sure that was just placebo. I’m about 2.5 weeks in and started my period on the exact same day I would have before starting birth control, which was disappointing because I thought it might stop it or at least delay it. Since my period started, I’ve been crying every day. My emotions have been all over the place and I’ve broken out with new pimples again. Between the acne, cramping, and mood swings, I feel like I’ve been hit by a truck hormonally.

I’m trying to stay patient because I know people say it can take a few months to adjust, but right now it honestly sucks. Did anyone else have worsening mood symptoms, crying spells, acne, or period weirdness during the first month and then have things level out later?

How long does it take for kids to adjust to blended families?

Me and my boyfriend are both 32. He has a 3-year-old daughter, and I have a 10-year-old daughter.
From the very beginning, my daughter hasn’t really wanted a relationship with his daughter. They first met in December 2024, and we all started living together in June 2025.

An example of how things go: yesterday I picked my daughter up from school and everyone was in the car. His toddler was already in the back seat, and when my daughter got in and saw her there, she immediately got a mad look on her face, scooted over toward the door, and just stared out the window. She doesn’t talk to her, and she really avoids sitting next to her or being around her in general.

My boyfriend’s family is very welcoming and keeps saying things like my daughter is “part of the family,” that my boyfriend is like a stepdad, and that the kids are like sisters and the grandparents are her grandparents too. But my daughter seems uncomfortable with all of that and doesn’t respond well to it.

I guess I’m just wondering how long it usually takes for kids to feel comfortable in situations like this. It’s been about a year since we’ve all been living in the same house. His daughter is only here half the time (week-on/week-off custody schedule with his ex).

What things can I do to make her more comfortable and actually want to interact with the toddler?

I’m so tired of how normalized this stuff has become. It’s SO easy for people to cheat now. So easy to window shop. So easy to get addicted to scrolling and constantly seeking validation from strangers online. Facebook and Instagram feel like dating apps at this point, and Snapchat is basically built for hiding things.

People in committed relationships will still look up exes, keep tabs on people from years ago..stare at thirst traps all day, and somehow everyone acts like it’s just normal behavior. Why can’t people just be happy in the present moment? Why can’t people fully appreciate the person right in front of them loving them unconditionally?

I don’t want half attention. I don’t want someone emotionally invested in random girls online or obsessing over people from their past. I want someone who chooses ME completely. Someone who is proud to love me and doesn’t constantly need outside stimulation or validation.