u/bluej9689

Looking for similar stories and positive encouragement. During the birth of my daughter, everything went really smooth until the delivery of my placenta. My contractions stopped immediately after my daughter was born so I didn’t have help from my body pushing out the placenta. I pushed several times on my back and nothing. My daughter wasn’t latching at all so that didn’t help. After 30 mins, the midwives started getting a little nervous and they tugged on the cord a little. Still nothing. They had to manually go up there while I was unmedicated and torn. Still nothing right away. The more experienced midwife said she will probably have to go get the OBGYN and potentially go to the OR. I can’t really remember if I had a big contraction or if that scared me but boom I finally pushed it out. Then I had a little bleeding - just enough that they contemplated pitocin, but then the bleeding stopped.

Anyways, I’m pregnant with my second now. I’m scared of having the same issues. I’ve told this to my new midwife team (new hospital) and they walked through different things we can do and that they will have pitocin at the ready just in case. It eased my nerves a little but I know that statistically I’m at risk of this happening again. Has anyone experienced this? I’m nervous it will lead to issues with future births.

I’m pregnant with our second and due this winter. I’m planning on my husband sleeping on the couch and taking toddler duty if our daughter wakes up in the night. Baby and I can have the bedroom all to ourselves. I borrowed a Baby Delight Beside Me Dreamer bassinet from a friend with my daughter. I really liked it, but it was soooo hard on my body to be up and down getting her in and out every hour (or more) those first few weeks. I actually think it slowed my healing. I did not use the side car option with that bassinet. I wasn’t comfortable with cosleeping with a newborn at the time.

Anyways, I’ve been searching for bassinets that could be a sidecar and I just don’t feel great about the safety of them. I’ve also thought about just setting up our crib as a sidecar from the very beginning, but again, this doesn’t make me super comfortable with a newborn. Maybe I’m overthinking it. So I’ve thought well maybe I should just have a normal bassinet (not sidecar). And then set up my space to cosleep if we’re having a rough night and I’m tired of being up and down. However, I didn’t cosleep with my daughter until she was 4 months. How do I get comfortable potentially doing it with a newborn? Apologies this was very long lol.

I’m not sure where else to put this and I’m sure people in this group would like to know. I recently ordered several products from the brand Attitude directly from their website. I made one previous order and thought those few products were decent so I wanted to try others. I’m super disappointed and disgusted. The products themselves came super dirty on the outside Like they’d been sitting in a dusty warehouse for a long time. Not a fireable offense because I can wipe them down, but kinda put a bad taste in my mouth right away. Just gross for household products and I got deodorant so that’s supposed to go on my skin?? Also sent me laundry detergent without the box it pours from so it’s hard to even use. The worst though? I get to the bottom of the very sloppy packaging and there were NICOTINE POUCHES in the bottom of the box. I’m appalled. I’m not sure I should even use these products as I’m questioning their quality control.

Anyways, please rethink purchasing from this brand. They must have a partnership or pay EWG to promote their products as #1 for nearly every household and sun protection product you can search. Now I’m not sure whether I should trust EWG’s standards at all if they can be bought. I submitted a customer service request to Attitude a week ago and haven’t heard anything of course.

I have been at my current job for 4 years. I really enjoy the job itself although it has its downsides like every job. I have some flexibility which is nice with a child. I had good work-life balance until this last year. I think the company overall has a good culture and my boss is wonderful. I’d love to stay working here.

However, over the last year, our whole team has been overworked. We don’t have the authority to say no and keep getting bullied into taking on more projects. This is a shortfall of my boss too - she is an energizer bunny and has a hard time saying no. I do not have endless amounts of energy and need time away from work. I’m at my max capacity and worried my performance will start going downhill. I dread waking up and starting my day and opening my laptop for about a year now. I’ve worked every vacation I’ve ever taken. I’d say our company is really bad about treating everything like an emergency so things cannot wait for 5 days until I get back. I even worked on maternity leave some last year. I could go on and on but in summary, I’m becoming resentful toward my job. I even roll my eyes sometimes when a request comes in and they ask for a 2 day turn around (unfortunately becoming a daily occurrence). It’s sucking the life out of me. How do I approach this with my boss? I want to stick with this job, but I’m not sure me saying anything will even create change. I’m also confused as to whether it’s the job itself getting old (I deal with quite a bit of rejection in my job) or it’s having too much on my plate. I’m also sad and kind of disappointed in myself that I’m in this position after really enjoying my job so much for the first few years. It’s hard to not blame myself for it somehow.

Does napping during the day make anyone else depressed? This happened with my first and now again with my second. I just get exhausted in the first trimester and have to nap when I can even though I hate taking naps. I’m not sure why, but it makes me depressed to nap while the sun is up? Like I should be outside enjoying the nice weather or doing something productive, but I can’t keep my eyes open. I also felt this the first few weeks postpartum too. Just made me so sad to lay down and nap so I didn’t. Which of course made me more exhausted and more sad. Maybe it’s not the napping itself but all the hormones and changes going on. Trying to make myself do it still because I know being exhausted just makes everything worse.

We stained our deck last fall and it’s already worn off in high traffic areas. We used Defy stain and products and did all the prep we were supposed to according to their system. Not once but twice. Followed all the instructions to a T. Our deck is old (we’re guessing 25+ years). Did we mess up by not pressuring washing first in additional to all other prep? Just looks like the stain didn’t even soak into the wood completely. Where do we go from here?