u/bobbygirl00

my husband is currently in the barracks in his "registration" phase of his stationing. he has started going out this his friends where when im stuck at home or spend all my time with our son and doing mom things most the time. today he told me he and his friends are going out to the club to see the night life there and i told him i feel uncomfortable with that, but he told me i have to let him breathe and i'm trying i guess i just overthink. it's hard to know he could be out there being single and doing what he wants when i'm stuck at home. then when i move there i will be stuck at home with no friends. how do i not get resentful? how do i not get upset when he just tells me to get over it?
usually i just tell myself if he cheats he was going to do it anyway even if i say something so what's the point but right now i just feel so annoyed. i don't go out to clubs because when i go it's just people trying to hit on me so i don't usually go. what can i do to just let it go and not care?

My husband recently joined the military and I became a stay at home mom. I understood that he would not realize how hard it is, especially when he believes that what he does is harder. He tells me that I should be the happiest person on Earth because my only jobs are to take care of our son and support him ... Seriously?
Anyway, I have tried to express to him multiple times how burnt out I feel or overwhelmed I feel. I try to explain how these past few months have been tough especially because I am handling everything by myself since he is gone. I had to pack our apartment up, move everything myself and move us in with my mom and that itself has been a huge adjustment from having my own space with my son. I told him how it's tough watching our son because he is very active and for these past months I have barely had time to relax myself because if it wasn't preparing for the move it was a sick toddler (which he never believes he is sick, he claims "he doesn't know how to control his nostrils" His words... literally) or it was grocery shopping or trying to keep him entertained when all he wants to do is be outside and on top of that cooking everyday while he refuses to eat. I can't do anything not even use the bathroom in peace without being followed and him wanting to be held! Obviously a lot more is happening especially planning to move states away soon.
When I told him about it his words were "you are over complicating it. It's not hard to keep him entertained at least when I was watching him while you were gone." .......... Which was when I was working 12 hour shifts five days a week and he had to watch him alone for 2 days out of the week while I watched him the rest of the days 24 hours and not just 9 hours a day compared to him. Most of that time was spent on his phone anyway with our toddler watching tv or playing independently because well he didn't care to be around his father. I don't understand what is not clicking for him. Am I overreacting to say he doesn't appreciate anything I am doing? He hasn't told me he is thankful for me or really just try to understand me and I'm at my breaking point. There is so much stuff I do that is unnoticed and it's just taking toll on me. Is my whole life going to be about keeping how I feel to myself because it means less to him and I am just overcomplicating everything according to him? I just don't know what to do anymore.