u/boogiebowie

i'm an out of state student and have a pretty good group of friends at home.. i would describe myself as being kind and easy to get along with; however, interacting with people has genuinely made me feel like i have zero personality and am putting on some sort of kind, simple persona, while in reality i am so much more than that but don't really know how to show it

it takes me a little bit of time to get used to talking with someone or to feel comfortable with what to say, so i tend to stick to more lighthearted things, which just builds superficial connections. i'm scared that this will lead to tagging along with a random group who doesn't want me there but is too polite to say anything

and i do know that move in hasn't even started yet (i'm on campus in an early arrival group) but every time i walk in somewhere with any sort of pre-established friendships, i am always so unsure of how to act - so i'm scared that joining clubs, doing intramural sports, or anything else similar, i'm going to not fit in at all and not be able to build real connections

and even if i do feel comfortable in the moment, there is always something later on that pulls me back to reality (an offhand comment or even just describing me as sweet, which feels infantilizing)

tldr i don't know how to interact with people to make them interested in building a connection

as title says... open to any cuisine and location :)

wondering if anyone knew how long i have to wait to make changes to my schedule after orientation? i want to drop one class (and possibly add a different one in it's place) but i can't make any changes and don't have an advisor assigned to me

i was wondering if anyone had any advice on the process of changing your voter registration from a different state to ohio. i live in ny, and would like to vote in ohio but i'm not entirely sure how to go about that

this is delusional and i know it won't happen but god a girl can dream

phoebe if you're seeing this play it at columbus ohio🙏🙏🙏

(this is fully a joke btw don't attack me)

wondering if anyone knows/has a general idea for dimensions of the shelfs under the drawer - i want to get baskets to put on them but don't want to get one too big or have a lot of leftover space if it's too small

i play the clarinet, and really enjoyed playing throughout high school.. my school wasn't the best, but to be frank i'm good (first chair in all-county, area all state, etc)

i'm looking at some music groups and am trying to decide which i'd want to do/audition for..

i think doing the university band would be fun and something i know, but i'm not sure if i should look into doing another group that i'd have to audition for (and if i did, how competitive it is)

i've also looked a little into the athletic band, i think this would be super fun, but i don't think i'd be able to do athletic and concert band my freshman semester (mostly just due to time).. does anyone have any advice/personal stories?

also, would anyone know if the a-band is audition only? i didn't think it was, but the course description says you must audition

edit: also, maybe weird predicament, but i'd love to take the skydiving class... it's one week mon/tues/thurs, so it will conflict with either the a band or concert band. does anyone have insight in attendence policies for these groups? or should i put a pause on the skydiving lol

i only knew about this from a reddit post, so with orientation happening now and as a student who is now benefiting from this, please go talk to them. the only requirements are:
- served 90 (+) days active duty
- honorable discharge
- then they ask if you're biological/adopted

it's not really talked about, but please take advantage of this if you can!!

i'm thinking about getting some sort of cover for my dorm chair (in case the cushion looks a little gross/stained) - if anyone has gotten one before, what did you get/where did you get it?

(also i don't know if dorms have different chairs but i'm looking at the ones in morrison tower)

please i'm desperate

my computer had disconnected from the wifi and was unable to be turned back on. we had tried a few different ways to fix it, but nothing was working so i logged onto another computer and was able to submit it through there. the proctor saw on the screen that it was submitted, but i'm scared with this issue and the screen refreshing (it showed the computer start up page as it was getting submitted) that something will have gone wrong and they won't receive my mcq to score. if i wanted, i could probably redo the test, but i felt pretty confident on this one and obviously don't want to stress about it for another week. we're going to try and reach out to see if they'll tell us if they have any answers recorded or anything for my mcq, but if they won't tell us i don't know what i should do

i've had a crush on my friend since this fall, and i can't tell if the feelings are reciprocated or if there's any reason to try and find out. in the beginning of this year, i tried to just ignore it and focus on being friends, but we recently were out of town together, and multiple times i had fallen asleep like in her lap (long bus rides), we literally fell asleep spooning the other night, and just all the time we spent together like made me just so happy

i'm really just confused because i don't know if it's reciprocated - she's said that she's never had a crush on anyone, but i don't know if she's just saying that or what. i also know that she's definitely queer based off our conversations. as far as the cuddling goes, it came up as a joke, but then we actually did and i fell asleep that way

anyway, we're both leaving for college this fall and we'll be very far away from each other, so i don't really know if there's even a point to trying something out, or even mention it to her. part of me just wants to like drunkenly confess just to have it brought up, but i know that's a horrible (and insensitive) idea

any advice or words of wisdom are more than welcomed

edit - ignore the spelling error in the title wow