u/bostonbudgetbride

my best friends wedding is this weekend and i'm so nervous to give my speech 😅 any advice on how to not have a panic attack before i get up there (lol) and any feedback on the speech is appreciated !!

speech:

hello everyone, i'm NAME, and i have the honor of standing here today as one of BRIDE maids of honor.

BRIDE and i met our freshman year of college in a chemistry lab led by a professor with the thickest russian accent you've ever heard. we immediately bonded over the fact that we could not understand a word the man said and that we were probably going to fail the lab. little did we know that would be the start of a lifelong friendship. from there we spent 4 years together in countless lectures and labs, in stuffy library study rooms where we did more yapping than homework, and at many celebratory brunches whether it was us barely passing organic chemistry, finally finishing our degrees, or simply just because the weather was nice and we needed to skip class. a lot has changed since then - but our friendship has remained a constant in my life.

now, i could spend this next minute telling you all about college BRIDE stories - and trust me, there are plenty. but, as funny as those stories are, they’re not what define BRIDE to me. When I think of BRIDE i think of someone who is the kind of friend that embodies "girlhood” - she makes life feel lighter, kinder, and more fun simply by being in it. I think of someone who i know will always be in my corner, who has the biggest heart, is fiercely loyal, and has the best sense of humor. someone who can't cook to save her life, but gives the best advice. I think of someone who would do anything for the people she loves. And when GROOM came along, it was clear that he was someone who would show up for her in that same unwavering way.

GROOM, thank you for loving my best friend. seeing you two together, it’s impossible not to notice how much you love and care for BRIDE. i know you would do absolutely anything for her, even though some things might come with some sass and an eye roll. and thank you for feeding her because im pretty sure she would live off a liquid diet if it weren't for you. not only are you an incredible partner to my friend, but you are an all around good person, and I’m glad that I get to call you my friend too.

You two truly are each other’s missing piece - opposite, yet you fit together so naturally, complementing each other in every way. where BRIDE is free-spirited, GROOM grounds her. where GROOM is practical, BRIDE brings the spontaneity. where one is organized and tidy, the other is not (I won’t say who’s who for that one). despite their differences there is one thing that they share for certain - they both love each other so deeply.

so BRIDE and GROOM, here is my wish for you both. I wish you laughter during stressful seasons, understanding during hard seasons, support during changing seasons, and a love that continues to grow during every season. I am so incredibly happy for you both, cheers to you and the start of forever.

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my uncle's wife is probably the number one person on the planet that i literally despise. without getting into details, she has said and done some disgusting things about/to my family, specifically regarding my uncle, his daughter, my mother, and my 86 year old grandmother (who doesn't know anything of what has happened for her own sake). she has also said some rather disgusting things about myself and my best friend (when we were literally children. like 11 or 12). just an absolutely evil, ugly person. we all keep the peace for my grandmother's sake because like i said she doesnt know any of this and likes the woman. so we all act cordial at family birthdays and holidays etc. I didn't want to even invite this woman to my wedding, but again for my grandmothers sake, and to keep the peace, i reluctantly put her on the list. now when it comes to my shower and putting the guest list together, I told my mom i DONT care, i am NOT inviting her. this of course caused an argument because my mom is thinking again about my grandmother and not wanting to stir drama. I, on the other hand, dont feel the need to have anyone at my wedding shower that does not and never has had my best interest, adds absolutely nothing to my life, and quite frankly i think would literally pray on my downfall. nothing she says or does is genuine and i dont want that energy around me during what is supposed to be a special day. me and my mom almost got into a screaming match over it and she is making me feel bad using my grandmother to guilt trip me but i genuinely DO NOT want this woman anywhere near anything that is supposed to shower me with love and well wishes because she simply does not have that for me. aita????????