u/bright_sunshiney_day

A month or so ago he wrote in his recovery journal he was lusting over other women due to a "fear of missing out"

Then a few weeks later, he's admitted to acting out by masturbating to pictures of other women online.

Then about 2 weeks ago he said his temptation to cheat is higher when he fight.

Then last week I found a bottle of libido pills which he first said was for more energy, then he said is so he can last longer in bed with me.

Just recently had a nightmare of him cheating on me, due to my fear of him cheating

Last night we went to bible study and he was micro-flirting and possessive over a married woman across from us, who he says has given him "lustful eyes" but continues to smile at and hyperfocus on.

I couldn't sleep last night and threw up this morning. How can he do this to me. I'm so scared of the stress is doing to my unborn baby

God, please intervene

A month or so ago he wrote in his recovery journal he was lusting over other women due to a "fear of missing out"

Then a few weeks later, he's admitted to acting out by masturbating to pictures of other women online.

Then about 2 weeks ago he said his temptation to cheat is higher when he fight.

Then last week I found a bottle of libido pills which he first said was for more energy, then he said is so he can last longer in bed with me.

Just woke up from a nightmare of him cheating on me, due to my fear of him cheating

Need to talk to someone privately, if anyone is available to listen to a long story of all the details please DM me.

Is there some framework for how you're supposed to respond to acting out behaviors? Should we be withholding sex? What are you supposed to do if he's lying?

When I saw him the other night, I saw he started taking "Masculin-T"

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I asked why he was taking it and he said it was for more energy because coffee wasn't working anymore. The last time he saw me before that, he declined sex, saying he we needed to abstain for religious purposes. He said he hasn't been acting out lately.

When I saw him again last night I asked again about the Masculin-T, he said he bought it a few weeks ago because it was on clearance and he was curious and he wanted to see if it would make him last longer in bed with me when they were having sex together more often. But it wasn't sitting out on his table last time I was here?

Why did he change stories and is this legitimate?

Fiancé and I are pregnant.

He’s working two jobs and says he’s hustling for our future and pay off his debts, but his actions just don't match his words.

He locked into a lease 45+ minutes away where we discovered I can't even stay over often (due to the house guest policy), but he refuses to drive to see me during the week because of his schedule, and yet he still finds time for church events and personal errands.

Whenever I bring up real concerns about parenting, daycare costs, or needing a present partner, he completely shuts down, says things like "I love you" without engaging with what I'm saying, claims I'm being negative, bringing him down or 'causing drama,' and says things like he'll only be around if I'm positive and that me being upset makes him "upset and angry"

​he’s in recovery for sex and porn addiction, but he’s had recent relapses and admitted in his journal to lusting after other women for a "fear of missing out" which he claims is because of how women are dressed and that he no longer feels.

But he has looked up provocative pictures/ content creators online recently. He even flat-out said that his temptation to cheat goes way up whenever we get into a fight, blaming it on us arguing or me not being around.

Instead of taking real ownership of his recovery, he uses work as an excuse, expects me to adjust to his routine, and then flips back and forth between claiming we’re 'together forever' and ignoring my requests for more effort.

Recently we got into an argument where I talked about how we can just do child support through the courts if he is making it all about money.

This has been so stressful and I was having pains in my abdomen where the baby is from everything going on

​Please help give perspective.

If anyone is able to chat privately? WOMEN ONLY

I'm pregnant and feeling very alone and isolated, working from home, no/few friends, living with abusive dad with dementia, trying to repair a rocky relationship with fiancé who is prioritizing work over spending time with me and has sex/porn addiction that is unmanaged. Afraid of what this stress is doing to my unborn baby.

I'm neurodivergent too

I'm so lonely and frightened for the future

Related to domestic situations

Ok so I'm in probably the worst absolute crisis I have ever been in my life, and realizing maybe I opened up too much to people who seemed supportive or friendly, and so now I'm not only feeling the crushing weight of this crisis but the cold silence /polite indirect declines from others and I feel even more alone than ever..

I often hear "are you seeing a therapist?" And it feels so isolating even if well-intentioned

I realize a therapist is helpful, and I'm seeing one now. but feel disappointed and embarrassed and sad that I can't also rely on anyone in my life to just sit with me and my emotions, and be a friend without feeling like I'm overwhelming people

I was told by someone I need to build community, but maybe I can't

Truly nothing short of an absolute absolute nightmare

I don't think I have ever felt more alone in my life